成功挽回男友经历，和男友分手后挽回的话怎么说？

 fenshouzhihou，henduorendoushouzuwucuo，buqingchugaizenyangyingduizishenhaishenaizhedeneiren，gengbuqingchuzenyangnengwanliutadexin。youqishinvshi，zainanpengyoumingquetichufenshouhou，tamengengfeichangrongyiguannianpianzhi、ziganduoluo，naizhidouzhangwobutaihaomeiyiciyunanpengyougoutongjiaoliudejiyu。yaobuguoduzhuyaobiaoxianfuhexingchongdongjinanpengyoutishenggongzuoyali、yaobujiukukutitititishuobuchuhualai。shijishangchenggongwanhuinanyoujingli，ruguoninengrenqingfenkaikeguanshishi，huihuakeyimanmanchengxianzishendefengcai，nanpengyoudangranhuibeinixiyinzhu。bawoyixieyuyanjiqiao，zhenduiwanliuzhiguanzhongyao。

一．挽留时你该搞清楚的事

zaiwanliushi，niyinggaisisuoyigewenti：nanpengyouweiheyaoliquzishenni？congziyideshenshanggaizheng，ninengyoubuyiyangdefajue。

 juedaduoshudenvshengbingbuzhidaonanshengxinlideyaoqiu，doubuzhidaoruhequjiyulingyifanghaowuyiwen。jinerguqijin，chenggongdenanrendoubeisuzaocheng“yiwu”、“jingjifazhan”、“gongzuonengli”、“dingliangzhu”yuyishendequannengpinpaixingxiang，erzhongsuozhouzhi，tamenweilegenghaodizuodaoshehuifazhanduitamendepingjiazhibiao、nvxingdeduitamendexintouyugu，youduomededeqinfen，dangnvxingxiangyouzhezheigenanrenjiejinquanlijinidajiandexingfushenghuoshi，nishibushilejie，tabixushenme？shijishang，nanrenxuyaobeihaowuyiwen，haosinvxingbixubeimingbai。nvxingchangshuo，woxuyaoyigedongwodenanren，woxuyaotamingbaitiexin，zixiyuguanai。nanshengyouweichangbuqidaiyouyigedongnidenvren？jinjin，nanshengdeguidingburongyixiangnvxingpinzhongfanduo，tamenzuixuyaodeshinvxingdehaowuyiwen！

二．挽留讲话的“二要”

 jianghuayezhuzhongfangfa，youqishizaiwanliuhuanjie。yingduiyigechedimeiyouyouhuolidenvxing，nixuyaochongfenkaolvnanpengyoudeqingxu，ruhedeshuohuafangshinengbuzaochengtadedichu、naizhihuoderenkeni？

1.要使他正确引导会话

 duozhengqueyindaonanrenshuozishen，zhuyaobiaoxianzishen，zheibujinjinkeyizhangwotaderichangshenghuo，hainengtishengtazijintouru，liru，nixiaidujialvyouma，douquguonaxiefangmianni？suihounanshengbianhuikankanertandetanzishendeyoulangerenshiji。youhuoshi，nijuededezheiyihenyouyisihenyouxiedaolia，nishiruhepanduandeni？neiyangnanshengjiuyouhaiyoujihuikuazijile。

2.要带上充分的心态讲话

 bubirenweiminganduoyi，bazijizhengcanyidian，nanshengbianhuiduoaizheniyidian。shijishang，nannvguanxideshijishangshilianggerenxiangsuixiangqianshi，zaojiuyijiayichaoguoerdekaixin。jiaruniyitiandaowanyouyu，xiaoji，zheizhinengxiaochuyigenanrengennizhangqixingguanliandexiangfa。youyuwomendouxiaihenengdailaizishenkaixinxintaideshiqingzaiyiqi。

三．挽留讲话的“三不必”

 jiranwanliushideshuohuafangshibixuxixindianliang，niyeyaozhangwoyixiebiaoshujinqu，yifangtishengnanpengyoudegongzuoyali，shitayulaiyuyaoxiangtaochu。

1.不提情感有关的话题讨论

 zainimenfenlihouxianliaoganwanyaotebiezhuyifangzhiaiqingdehuatitaolun。zainizaicihuodeyutadelianluo，lingyifanghuoshihendanxinde，yifangduinihaishicunyouqinggan，yifangyoudanxinninengfanhuizhiqiandeqingkuang。nizaiciketijiqinggan，huijilingyifangdaozhijiaodadegongzuoyali，huizaochengzaidufangqinidejuece。

2.不争论

 nimenzaiyiqifenshou，zishenbianshiyouyufenqidejiqierfenshou。ruguoninhaizairenweijianchibuxiezigedeniantou，zhizhe，neimameiyourenhuihaixiangyaoyunixianliaode。meigerenyaobeilejieherenke，ninyouzishendeniantou，keyi，keshiyexuyaomingbailingtinghezunzhongtarendeniantou。

3.不断开另一方的话题讨论

 zaitarenjianghuadeqingkuangxiabubiduankaitarendeyuju，zheiyeshizuizhuyaodewenminglimao。yaobaozhengbuduankailingyifangdeyuju，yucitongshiyaozhidaotazaifayanzhongdeshenghuozhuangtai，jiarulingyifangxiangyaoyuniqingtudaliang，neimabiaomingtaduininiderongbeineixinjiuxuehuifangxia，zheihuiyuniwanliutashihenyoubangzhude。

四．挽留时要做的事

 shuodaodi，jiuruzhemingqinggandaoshimaikeleigechangshuode，wanliudezuiqudechenggongfangfabianshirangbierenjijixunzhaofuhexing。neimazenyangdidazheiyimudini？

 zuixiannixuyaojianshaozishendexuqiugan。jinyouxuqiuganjiangxiaqu，nicaikeyikaizhanfanzhuan，rangzishenbianweichuzaidiweideneiyige，yaoburan，niyejiumeifaliquneibeishangdejuedi。shizishenderichangshenghuochongchizhereqingyukuaile，kuojianzishendeshejiaoquanzi，qingjiyulejiehegongzuozhongdeng，douyouyiyujianshaozishendexuqiugan，yucitongshiyeduitishengzijiyouxiezhu。

 suihoubianshitishengziji，nijinyouzhanxianzishendegaojiazhihefengcaicaikeyizaicixiyinzhunanpengyou，shitajinizijintouru。waiguanshejigengxingaizao、benzhigengxingaizao、shenghuoxiguangengxingaizaozheixie，ninengzuoxuduoshier。fenshouzhihoubiezaiduozaibeiwolinanguochouqile，ninengqujiejiaogaoyiyidehaopengyou，kuozhangyixiazigederichangshenghuoshejiaoquan，nixuyaoshitalejiefenshouzhihoudenikeyihegaoshiyongjiazhiderenzuopengyou，keyicijixingdaota，huishitaduinizijintouruduoyidian。nihaishikeyiquguoshenxinjiankangyidianderichangshenghuo，liruquxuexipengzhi，xuehuayideng，zheizhongdounengyouliyunitigaoshiyongjiazhi。

 fenkaizaiguanjian，doububiaizishenguanjian。nvrenyaoxuehaozaishenmeshihoudouchengxianzishenjinliangdeyimian，chenggongwanhuinanyoujingli，meiyounanshengyexuyaojinlitigaohechongshiziji，yingduishiquledeganqingyekeyicongrongdanding，neiyangdenvxingcaishinanxingzuixiangyaoaide。