失恋了的一些情绪变化

 nishilianle？congshilianzhonghuifuguolainiyongleduozhangshijian？dangrenmenshilianledeshihou，shenzhihuirenweizijikenengyongyuanyebuhuihaole，zheiyeshixiaopenyoumenjingchangwenjideyigewenti：shilianshi，gairuheliaoyuqingshang？shiliandebiaoxian，youyigezhuanyeshuyu，jiaozuo“shiyingbuliang”

一、失恋后如何调控

 shilianderentongchangyaohuashuyueshijianyuqingshangbodou，biruzhongriyileiximian、jiuchanqiandu，huobeiweidiqiqiuhehao。mingzhidaoyijingshilianlequbukenchengren，guoleyihuiyouzhuanshunjiankenengyoubianchengmanmaxiehen，ziquqiru，zaisuobuxi。weishenmehuizheiyang？

 meiguodeyisuodaxue（luogesidaxueniuwakefenxiao），zhuanmenweicizuoleyanjiu。yigerenweishenmehuishilianle，shiyinweidangairenliquzheigeshifashengshi，womendedanaoquehaitingliuzairelianzhuangtai，womenrengranqiwangcongduifangneilihuode“jingshenjiangli”，jiuxiangnihaizailianaishiyiyang。zhishicishi，jiliedeyanxingdaitilewenroudehuwang。lianaishiwushibukedelianxi，cishibianchenglejiuchan；lianaishiwushiwukedeqianquan，cishibianchenglewangshidexuanwo，rangzijichenniqizhong。yizhichuyuwoshilianledemengbizhuangtai，yizhixunhuandexiangbuyaorangwoshilianba？

 zheizhongzhongbunengzikongdexingwei，jiujiaozuoshiyingbuliang（maladaptive），rangrenzuochushashi。shilianzhongderenchuangzaoleyigeziwoshanghaihebaofudexitong，“buyaorangwoshilianba”dexiangfayizhiweiraozhezaizhuan。rangzheixiebuliangxingweiwuxianxunhuanheyanxu。

1、lianaishi“yizhikongzhi”shiling，suoyirenmenjiuhui“ganqingyongshi”

 ，shilianshiyiruci，zongshihuixiangdaoshilianlezenmeban。changyandao“aiqingshimangmude”，congkexuedejiaodujiang，qishibuwudaoli，yinweiaiqingmabiledanaoshenjingxitong。dangyigerenduoruaiheshi，zhuzaipipanhepanduanlide“qianeyepizhi”jiuhuibagong，shirenyixinyiyixiangxinsuoai。lundundaxueshenjingmeixuexide semir zeki jiaoshouzhichu，ciligongzhensaomiaoxianshi，dangwomenzhushiairendezhaopian，danaoyouxiangdangdadequyuhuitingzhihuodong。zheishiyinweidanaozhengzaiwei“gengyouxiandeshengwukaolv”zuodiaozheng，dangairenzhijianbuxiangyi，chenggongfanzhidejilvjiudadatisheng。

 dangrenmenzailianaizhongshi，danaojiuguandiaoleqitasibiangongneng，haorangrenmenxinwupangwu，zhuanzhuyuxing。lianairangren“hunletou”，zaipangguanzhekanlaijibuhechengdeyiduiyehuizouzaiyiqi，duirenhequangaodouchongerbuwen。lianaizhisuoyirangrengandaorucixingfu，wusuoweiju，yinweitalingdanaosuoyouzhangguanfumianqingxuhekongjudequyu，doujinrulexiumianzhuangtai。

 erdangairenliqu，duifangyifangxiashi，nidedanaoquehaichuyulianaizhuangtaizhong。suoyi，suoyoushilianshidebeishanghuozhefennudexingwei，zaishengwuxueshangjieshi，shiweileyaojiejinquanliwanhuipeiou，wanchengfanyanderenwu。

2、“zhuanyizhuyili”shiyoudaolide

youshenjingkexueyanjiurenwei，danaoxunliankeyibangzhu“chenniyushilianderen”zhanduanqingsi，congerjiakuailiaoyuxinsui，zhonghuoxinsheng。

 guolairenjingchangjianyiwomenbaituoshiliandefangfashi：zhuanyizhuyili。shiqusuoaizhihou，yingdangxuanzeduocanjiagezhongjuhuihuoduoduolvxingyizhuanyizhuyili。yinweishilianzhihouzuiyaobudede，shiduziliuzaijiazhongfanfuhuiyiguoqudetianmishiguang，zongrongzijichenniyubeishangzhizhong。

 congkexuedejiaodujieshi，guoduchenniyubeishangzhizhong，jiushirangzhangguan“yizhikongzhi”（inhibitory control）dedanaoqianeyepizhi，chuyutanhuandezhuangtai，erzheigequyushiyizhirenmenganqingyongshideguanjian。

danaoshikeyixunliande，congerrangrenjinkuaicongshiliandetongkuzhongzouchu

 meidangniyaochenniwangshizhongshi，meidangnixiangdiankaiqianrendepengyouquanshi，zheishihouyaogaosuziji，zheiyangzuoshibuduide。womenyingdangrangzijizuodianqitadeshiqing，biruqukangehuazhan，quyewaijiaoyou，huozhegenqinpenghaoyoucuoyidun，zheixiefensanzhuyilidefangfaqishidouzaixunliannidedanao，rangtadeqianeyepizhibiandegengqiangda。

 shishishang，genjuxintaixueyanjiuxianshi，tongguoduidanaohuodongdesaomiaodezhi，“zhuanzhu”bingfeirenleisuozhang。renleiqishishihenrongyifenxinde，buyaojuede“buquxiangmouren”shiyijianhennandeshi。duozuozuoyundongjianshen、duohepengyoujujuhui，doukeyijianqingniyiweihuainianjiuqing。

“huoxuyouyitianwomenzaizhongfeng，niwenwofenghuaxueyuesuanshenme，woshuo，suanchengyuba。”

jingliguoderen，huibiandegengyongganhehuoda，zhuniyeshi