夫妻关系主要靠什么维持，夫妻关系能够长久的5个“秘诀”

 fuqiguanxizhuyaokaoshenmeweichi？shijieshangmeiyouwuyuanwugudeai，yemeiyouwuyuanwugudehen。nixuyaozhuazhuyonghengdeganqing。fouze，buguanmingyunyouduohao，nihaishiyaocuoguo。yiduanguanxinengweichiduojiushiyigeyinguoxunhuan。

fuqixiangchushideyixiexiaoxinji，jiushibaochiganqingxinxian“mijue”meiyourenshuodezhun，danxuyaorenzhenlijie。

第一，当幸福来临时，用心去感知

jianguozheiyangyijuhua：“ai，youyishuangdongchayiqiedeyanjing。”

jiaruniaiyigeren，jiuhuizixiguanchatadeyijuyidong，bingjizhuta。

aishifeichangmingande，jishishiyijubujingyidehua，yigeyanshen，yenengjiqixinzhongdelianyi。

 liru，dangyigenanrenchuqushi，tawangjiledaisan。linjinxiabanshi，tiankongturanxiaqilexiaoyu。zheishi，nvrenlijidadianhuajinanren，tixingtatayaosongsanle。huozhe，neigenvrenrangtazuochuzuchehuijia，buyaobeiyulinshi。

xiaoxiaodeguanxin，zongshirangrengandong。

“hengkanlingcechengfeng，gaodibuyi”zaiguanchayigerendeshihou，butongdejiaodu，xiaoguoshifeichangbutongde。

 youxieren，zhishidingzhetongkudeyimian，rijiyuelei，shiqulesuoyoudexingfu；youxieren，congtongkuzhongxunzhaoxingfu，suoyitayueguoxingfu。

 yingguozuojiaweilianmu·laerfu·yingqicengshuo：“sihuzuixingfudeshineixiemeiyoutebieliyoudexingfu，tamenzhishiyinweixingfuerxingfu。”

zhiyaonigandaoxingfu，jishishicuchadanfanyeshixingfude，yidianyebujuedehansuan。

zhiyaonizixiguancha，yibeicha，yigeyanshen，yigedianhua...doushixingfudeyingzi，nengliuxiameihaodehuiyi。

第二，三观不合时宜，大度包容

zhihuliyouzheiyangyigewenti：sanguanbuhedehunyin，nengweichiduojiu？

 zaigaozandehuidazhong，youzheiyangyijuhua：“sanguanbuhedebenzhi，qishishiyinweiqueqian。haishishuangfangliyibuhe。suoyibuyaokezhouqiujian。”

 “kezhouqiujian”womenshuxizheigegushi。yigechuguorenzaichengchuanshibajiandiaojinleshuili。tameiyoumashangqudiaoyu，ershizaichuanshangzuolegejihao。dangchuankaoanshi，tacongbiaojichutiaorushuizhongxunzhaojian。

chuanshikeyiyidongde，jianzaishuizhongshibuhuiyidongde，zenmenengbijiaoni？

huanjuhuashuo，yigerenyinggaishanyugaibianziji。

 yiqiedoubushiyichengbubiande。ruguonihenguzhi，xiangrangshenbianderenanzhaonidefangfazuoshi，chaozhenishejidefangxiangzou，nihuishiwangde。

meigerendoushiziyoude，douyoubutongdezhuiqiu。

nengxingfudaolaodefuqi，xuehuile“qianjiu”。sanguanbuheshi，yiqizhongyirenweizhun。

 liru，zaijiaoyuhaizifangmian。qizizhuzhangsonghaizishangfudaoban，buranghaizishuzaiqipaoxianshang；zhangfujianjuefandui，renweiyaoxunxujianjin，bunengbamiaozhuzhang。

zhenglunshimeiyouyongde，“qiutongcunyi”caiyouyong。

第三，吵架时，低头忍耐

youyici，wohepengyoutaolunlezheiyangyigewenti：fuqichaojiashi，gaizenmeban？

 pengyoushuo：“woheqizijianlileyitiaoguize。jiaruchaojia，xianditouderen，keyiyouyibaikuaiqiandesifang。suoyi，womenzongshiqiangzheditou。”

pengyouheqizixiangchudefangshi，youxieqimiao，danzhidechengzan。

lianghuxiangzheng，biyouyishang。yourenditou，jiushi“yiroukegang”，shifennuderenwufajixushengqi，congerbimianxianghushanghai。

zuoren，yaoxianghaimianyiyang，rangduifangjiya，zijibuhuishoudaoshanghai；dangduifangfangshoushi，talijihuifuleyuanlaideyangzi。

fuqiguanxizhuyaokaoshenmeweichi？huxiangrenshou，bingzhaodao“qingxudechukou”jiatingjiangyongyuanhexie；zhengchaodeliehen，jiuhuixiaoshi。

第四，苦难临头，真诚鼓励

 aodilizhumingzuojiaciweigecengshuo：“yigerendelilianghennanyingfushenghuozhongwujindekunan。yinci，zijixuyaobierendebangzhu，zijiyeyaobangzhubieren。”

yigejiating，bunengbawentijiaojimougeren，ershifuqiyiqijiejue。

fuqitongxin，huangtubianjin。guanjianshike，sheiyebufangqishei，sheiyebubaoyuanshei，qianshoujiushililiang。

nengbaitouxielaodefuqi，yidingjingliguofengfengyuyu，congbuyifanfengshun。

 yiweixinlixuejiashuo：“duanbanxiaoyingyeshiyongyujiating。qinmiguanxidezhiliang，wangwangshiyouzaonianfuqiguanxijiaochaderenjuedingde。”

 fuqizhijian，sheishiruozhe，sheijiuhuituozhejiarendehoutui。jiaruqiangzheduiruozhemobuguanxin，neimeqiangzhezaiqiang，yebunengrangjiatingxingfu。

youyiduifufu，yiqijieqianmaifang。houlai，qizidelezhongbing，nanrenkanzheqizitongkubukan，yebuyuanmaidiaofangzi，jiuren。

qizijuewangdeshihou，hunyinyejieshule。

fengyuzhongjianzhenqing。haofuqi，jishiyishengwudingsuo，yeyaoqianshoutongxing，bufangqibufangqi。

第五，人老珠黄，温柔陪伴

weishenmeyuelaiyueduodenianqingnvhai，xihuanlaodashu？

xuduorenrenwei，yinweidashushiyeyoucheng，zuorenwenzhong，meilishizu。

shishishang，zaishushudeshentili，youyigerenxihuan“nianqingguniang”xin。tataoyanshenbiandehuanglianpo，buyuanmianduibianlaodeshishi。

 haofuqi，kanzheduifang，ganqinghuizaibianlaodelushangbianhao——woainidebaifa，niaiwolianshangdezhouwen；wokandaolenineixindebeishang，nizhidaowoyouduowuzhu。

haofuqi，chuanguofengyupiaoyaodeshiguang，hainengyiqikanxishuizhangliu。

 dianying《jiaofu》zhongyouzheiyangyijutaici：“yimiaozhongkandaobenzhideren，heneixiebanshengkanbudaoyijianshibenzhideren，ziranshibuyiyangdemingyun。”

 zaizheiyishengzhong，renmendouzaiweizijiderenzhifuchudaijia。wulunshizhuanqian、chuangyehaishiaiqing，nidouwufazhenzhengbawoshiwudewaibiao。

fuqiguanxizhuyaokaoshenmeweichi？aiyigeren，buyaoneimefuqian，zhiyoushenai，cainengyongheng。