怎么挽回死心了坚决要离婚的老公，和老公离婚怎么沟通

 helaogonglihunzenmegoutong？aiqinghehunyinyoubenzhidequbie。aiqingshilianggerendeshi。zhiyaotamenbicixihuan，tamenjiukeyijuedingzaiyiqi。raner，hunyinshibutongde。hunyinshilianggejiatingdejiehe，zheiyiweizhegengduodezerenheyueshu。

 yidanlianggerenlihun，jiushilianggejiatingzhijiandesunshi。meigerendouhuifuchujudadedaijia，caichan.haizi.duoniandeganqingdeng，douhuibansuizhelihundejudabianhua。

yinci，yidanqizhongyifangjuedingfenshou，jibenshangshishensishulvhezhangqijiyuandejieguo，wentiyibanbilianaifenshouyanzhongdeduo。

 danzhengshiyinweilihunxuyaofuchugengdadedaijia，erqielihundezuliyehenda。zhiyaoninengzainadaolihunzhengzhiqianzhaodaomaodundezhengjiebingyouxiaodibaoliuta，nijiuyouhendadekenengxingfanshen。

你一定问过他为什么要离婚很多次，但他给你的答案往往很简洁：不要爱.过不下去了.没意思...

 nihenkunhuo。zheimeduoniantadoumeikandaonidenulima？taweishenmezheimewangenfuyi？taweishenmezheimezisi？weishenmetazheimecanren？

budebushuo，henduozhangfuzailihunbeihoudouyouyigexianhuideqizi，weishenmeniyuexianhuiyuerongyilihun？

yinweinizuolenanrenyinggaizuodesuoyouyiwu，boduolenanrenyingyoudequanli，rangnanrengandaozhixi.yayi.xiangyaotaoli。

 zaihunyinzhong，bushinimangmufuchujiunenghuanlaiduifangdeyongbupaoqi，zhaodaonanrendexuqiucaishiguanjian，duizhengxiayaocainengguanhaohunyin。

 woxiangxinzaizheigeshihou，niyijingzuoleninengzuodeyiqielaiwanjiuzheiduanhunyin。meiyoubanfa。danwoxianggaosuni：nishibaideyuanyinbushinizuodebugou，ershinidenulifangxiangwanquancuole！

daodishishenmeyuanyinkaideyuanyinshishenme？

hunyinzhongnanrendehexinxuqiushishenme？

xianjieduanzenmezuocainengniuzhuanjumian，rangnanrenyuanyihuitou？

 ruguoniyejinglilehunyinweiji，zaiguanxizhongfuchutaiduo，danbubeinanrenzhenxi，xiangbaoliuhenduofangfameiyoubangzhu，hewojiaotan，wohuigenjunideqingkuangjiniyouzhenduixingdehunyinfenxi，xieshoubangzhunijiejuehunyinweiji，rangnidezhangfuzhendebunenglikaini！

xiangyaowanliusixinlihundezhangfu，zhaodaolihundeyuantoushiguanjian，xiangyixiang，nidehunyinyouyixiajidian：

01、盲目发泄情绪，恶性沟通模式

niyoumeiyouzhuyidao，yiqiandenimenwuhuabutan，xianzaidenimen，xiangguwuyan。

 nizongshirenweiniduzichengdanyiqie，duzizuojueding。niduzizuosuoyoudejiawu。nigandaohenlei，duitabaoyuanyuelaiyueduo，danniyoumeiyouxiangguotadebianhuakenengyuniyouguan。

 liru，ruguonirangtazuomoushi，dantazuodebuhao，nizhishizebeita，renweitashenzhizuobuhaozheijianxiaoshi；huozhekandaotazuodebuhao，tazhishizhuazhuta，zijizaizuoyici。

 dangtashituweijiarenfenxiangshi，tadedaodebushinideguli，ershinideyaneheqingshi。dangnifaxieqingxushi，duifangduijiatingdereqingyehuijiangdi。suizheshijiandetuiyi，tahuibiandeyuelaiyuechenmo，jiatingcanyuganhuiyuelaiyuedi，nihuichengshouyuelaiyueduo。zheijiushijianqiangnvxingdelaiyuan。

xiangyaoyigenanrenanzhaonidexiangfa，zebeihebumanzhihuibatatuikai，zhidaoruheyindaoyigenanrenkeyirangnimoqi。

02、盲目争吵，但问题没有解决

chaojiahounishizenmezuode？ziranhehao？haishidengtaditou？

zaixiangaidefuqiyenanmianchaojia，danchaojiahoudehehaoqueshifenzhongyao。

 mangmudidengdaitaditouhehao，huozheshenmeyebuzuo，neimedaozhinizhengchaodewentiheniyinweizhengchaoerchanshengdeqingxujiuwufajiejue。

 shishishang，nanrenxiaohuafumianqingxudenenglibinvrenruodeduo。nvrenchaojia.kukenenghuifaxie，faxie，ernanrenzhihuibiezaixinli，qingxudebudaofaxie，zhihuimaizaixinli，zhihuijinbuchu，fumianqingxuhuiyuejiyueduo，zhidaoshoubuledeneiyitian，nanrencaihuixiangtaopao。

 weishenmetaningyuangaosumoshengrenyebuyuangaosunitazaixiangshenme？yinweitahenqingchu，gaosuni，tabujindebudaonideanweihelijie，erqiekenenghuishoudaonidebishihepiping。taweishenmegaosuni？

qingxudebudaoanwei，wentidebudaojiejue，suoyimeiyicizhengchaodoushiduiganqingdexiaomo。

 ruguoniyouchongtu，nvrenkeyizhudonghenanrentanluntamendexiangfahezhengchao，baochilengjing.huanweisikao，congerfupingshuangfangdeqingxu，jiejuewenti。

 nanrenhuiduinimenzhijiandeguanxiyuelaiyueyouxinxin，tazhidaonishiguanxintade，suoyitayouyongqihenitouluzijidexiangfahezhenshidexiangfa。

 womenbushizheiyangma？dangwomenbuxinrenyigerenshi，womenzhihuibaochijingti，yongqingxugongjiwomendeqingxu。zhiyouxinrenyigeren，womencainengzaitamenmianqianbaoluzijicuiruodeyimian，younaixinjiejuewenti。

suoyinanrenhenilihunbushiyinweinijingchangchaojia，ershiyinweinichaojiahou“hehaofangshi”youwenti。

 zongshidengdaiyigerenditou，hushizijidewenti，yigerenyiyudeganjueyuelaiyueduo，zaijialidediweiyuelaiyuedi，renhexiaoshidoukenengyinfatadefumianqingxu，congerjiandingdilihun。

03、在亲戚朋友面前给男人面子

 fuqizhijianzuijihuideshizaiqinqipengyoumianqianzhizaowenti。nirenweinishiduide，suoyinizhanzaidaodedezhigaodianshang，zaiqinqipengyoumianqiantanlunnanren。nirenweimeigerendouhuilijieni，bangzhuniyiqitanlunnanren；

danshinihulvelenanrendexinli，tahuigandaoxiuchi.xiukui.meimianzi。

 biaomianshangkan，takenenghuidaochugenzheni，tingnishuohua。danshishishang，yigenanrenzaojiuhenifenxinle。yidanchuxianwenti，tajiangchengweidianzhu，rangnizijizuomeijianshi，zheiyangnijiububichengdannidecuowuhewenti。

xianranshilianggerendehunyin，zuihouzhiyouniyigerenzainuli。

nijinlierwei，taxiushoupangguan。hunyinshiyigechengfawenti，yifangduo，lingyifangshi0，jieguozhishi0.

renhehunyinweijidoubushiyitianliangtianxingchengde，yebushiyiciliangcimaodunxingchengde，ershirifuyiridejiya。

 wozhidaonixianzaixinqingbuhao，xintaibengkui，danshiqinglengjingxialai，renzhenduidainidehunyin，zhaochunimenguanxizhongcunzaidedongxi。“chenjixinshang”。

jizhuzaihunyinzhongzuobudaodeshiqing。

 weishenmewozongshijianyi，dangnidezhangfulihunshi，nibixushouxianwendingnidexintai，ranhoukaolvnishixianglikaihaishiliuxialai。chujuedinghou，nikeyicaiquxiangyingdexingdonglaidadaonixiangyaodejieguo。

 raner，xuduonvhaicongyikaishijiuqingxuhua。tamenfaxiechouhen，shuoshenme，zuoshenme，buguanhouguoruhe。dangtamenshiqusuoyoudetuilushi，tamenzuizhongbuxianglikai。zheibushizaidazijidelian，jiangdizijidejiazhima？

nirenweinanrenhuilijienideqingxuma？tazhihuirenweinifanfuwuchang.bukeliyu。

jiarunizhishixianglikai，neimenizenmenaodouwusuowei，danshiruguonibuxianglikai，neimeyixiasizhongxingweiqianwanbuyaozuo：

1.人尽皆知

womenshenbiandoujianguohenduorenbajiashifangzaibiaomianshangshuo，

youzhijietousu：“jiehunzheimeduonian，taweizheigejiazuoleshenme？”

hanshasheying：“xingfudehunyinbarenbianchenghaizi，erbuxingdehunyinbarenbianchengfengzi。”

youanchuotousu：“hehe，zheigejiazhiyouwoshiwairen..”

 womenzhouweidequanzihenxiao。suoweihaoshibuchumen，huaishichuanqianli。hepengyouzaiyiqi.jiaren.tongshimentoululetamendehunyinzhuangkuang，nidenanrenzainiyanzhongbianchengleni“qianfusuozhi”。

 jiarunihaixiangwanliu，jieguoyidinghuihenbeican，yaomeshilaogonggenghenxinbuyaoni，yaomeshinimenjixuzaiyiqi，bierendengzhekanxiaohua。

 shide，nihenkelian，ninidezhangfushikehende，danshiniyaojizhu，nidezhangfuyeshinidelian，nisipolelian，zuihoubuganzou，zhinengshuomingnidedixianhendi。helaogonglihunzenmegoutong？

2.破坏对方的声誉

 ruguodiyizhongfangfashixiangmeigerenbiaomingnideganqingyouwenti，tashanghaileni，neimedierzhongfangfagengjiduan，gengwuqing，yejiushishuo，pohuaitazailingyigequanzilideshengyu。

 biruduifangdanweidachaoleyijia.heduifangdezhangbeiyiqiku，dengdeng，rangmeigerendouzhidaotadehuai。yexunidangshihenku，henshengqi，danzheiyangzuoshiweilerangduifangzhudingyaoshibai，danyewanquandapolenihejiedezuihoujihui。yinggaishuobuyinggaishuo，nishuo，nidefuqideaiyejieshule，takeyihaowugujidilikaini。

3.一直诽谤对方

 ruguohunyinweijishiyinweibanlvchugui，neimeyouxierenshihuaiyi，qingxubengkui，ranhoukaishihuaiyitamendepengyou.tongshi，huozhezongshiyongyixiejiliedeyuyanlaicijiduifang。

比如：

“nihaizheiyangchugui，niyouzigema？yikaishiwozhenshixialeyan，zenmejiajini？”

“nijuedenipeideshangwoma？woweizheigejiafuchuleneimeduo，nijingranzheiyangduiwo？”

“wozhenshigekuren，tanshangnizheiyangdelaogong，zhendaomeia！”

“woshigexiaohua，wozhendejuedezijiyiwenbuzhi！”

 niyijingbiaodaleyixieqingxu，danniyoumeiyouxiangguonidexingweihuiduibicichanshengshenmeyingxiang？mianduinidefeibang，duifangyikaishihuijuedezijicuole，dannidejianchihuirangduifangjuedewulunniruhechengrenzijidecuowu，nidoubuhuiyuanliangta。jirannizuobudao，nibuxihuantama？zuihaozhijiebangni。

4.涉及对方的父母

 yidanniyudaohunyinwenti，nijiuhuiqianchedaolingyifangdefumu，yaomezaifumumianqianbaoyuanlingyifangdexingwei，yaomekaishizhizelingyifangdefumucuole，meiyouhaohaojiaoyutamendehaizi。gengzhongyaodeshi，tamenzhijiekaishizemaduifangdefumu，fourenduifangdexingge，bingzhijieshangshengdaotamendejiating。

 fumushimeigerendenilin。shenmeshinilin？“nilin”a？yejiushishuo，yidanchupeng，wulunnizaihouqifuchuduodadenuliqumibu，douhuizaiduifangxinzhongxingchengwufaxiaochudedongxi“xinjie”。

yidanwokandaoni，wojiuhuixiangdaoniduita.duitafumu.foudingtaquanjia，nirangtayihouzenmehenitongchuanggongzhen？

 yinci，ruguonimenzhijiandewentikeyizailianggerenzhijianjiejue，nijiukeyizaineibujiejue。buyaorangbierenjuanruqizhong。canyuderenyueduo，nimenzhijiandemaodunjiuyuehunluan，yuenanjiejue。

 ruguonibuxingcaidaozheixieleiqu，hunyinguanxibiandegengjiajianghua，erduifangmeiyounaixinyunigoutong，neimegankuaitingzhizheixiecuowudezuofa。xianzainijihumeiyoujihuichangshifancuowu，ruguonizoucuoleyibu，nikenenghuiwanquanmeiyouxiwang。

 niyinggaimingbai，dangnizhangfujuedinglikainishi，tashijishangshifeichangtongkude。bijing，nimenyiqiandeguanxihenhao。nimendouweibicifuchulehenduoshijianhechengben。zhishaokeyishuo，jishinimendeguanxilengmo，yebuyaowangjicaichan.haizi.jiatingzheixiexianshiyinsuqianchedaotaa，lihunjitazaochengdesunshibuyayuni。

likaini，tabuhuigandaokuaile，danbulikaini，tajueduihuibuganxin。

yinwei“lihun”beihouwangwangyouyigeluoji：

 helaogonglihunzenmegoutong？nihualehenzhangshijianrangtamingbai：nizhendeweizheigejiatingfulehenduoqian，tayeweizheigejiatingfuleqian，dannikenengbushihe，nixiangchudebuhao，nideweilaibuhuibiandegenghao，henizaiyiqi，tahuijixuguozhejusangdeshenghuo。suoyi，xianzai，wulunnishiqianbeideqiqiuhaishiqiangliedebaoliu，taweishenmeyaohuitouni？niyoushenmezhidetahuiqude？