丈夫出轨同事被发现后直接要离婚，怎样走出老公出轨带来的阴影

 zenyangzouchulaogongchuguidailaideyinying？xiaosunhezhangfujiehunshinian，youyieryinv，danshizhangfuqueyinweiyiqingerchugui，zhangfujingchangzaijiagongzuo。

 raner，xiaosunfaxian，tazhangfudeshoujibingmeiyouyizhilikaita，jishiquxishoujian，tayebudebunazheshouji。houlaijingguoxiaosundediaocha，tafaxianzijihetongshichuguile。yinweiyiqing，tamenbunengzaiyiqi，suoyiyizhiliaotian，zheishixiaosunzhidaode。

dantanpaihou，xiaosunbingmeiyoudengdaozhangfudedaoqianhechanhui，ershiduifangjiandingdishuoyaolihun。

 xiaosunhairenwei，rangtajixuzaihaizimianqianguoshangmeihaodeshenghuo，shenzhiyongzijideshengmingweixieduifang，danzheixiejiliangzaiduifangyanzhongshibuxieyigude。ruguonizaizheteng，wojiuyaolihun。zheishixiaosunzhangfudetaidu。

 xiaosunyekaishizize，shibushizheimeduonianzijizhiguanxingongzuo，duizhangfudeguanzhushaole，shibushibudonglangman，meiyoucaitouzhangfudexinsi。

 tabazhangfulihundesuoyoucuowudouguijiuyuziji。tazhengwandoushuibuzhe，shimian，ranhoufuyonganmianyao。zheizhongfanfudabailetadeshenti。tazhidaozheizhongzhuangtaishicuowude，dantawufabaituonitan。

具体怎么办？

第一，接受现实

 zenyangzouchulaogongchuguidailaideyinying？jinguanwomenbuyuanyichengren，zhangfuyijingaishanglebieren，tayaohewomenlihun，suiranwomenhaizaiweitazhaojiekou，shuowomenzheimeduoniandeganqing。

tamenjigeyuedeganqingzenmedidangbuzhu，erqiewomenhaiyouhaizi，zheibugongpingwoyebuganxin。

 danshizheixiehuagenbenbuqizuoyong，womenbudebuchengren，zhangfuyijingchuguiaishanglebiedenvren，tayijingfoudinglewomenguoqudeyiqie。

jishixianzaiguitianqiuduifanghuilaidisanxiasi，danjieguowangwangbutaihao，fanerhuishideqifan。yaoqingchudizhidao。

zhangfubeipanlejiating，tayaolikaizheigejiating，womenyuejieshouzheigexianshi，jiuyuenengqingchudilejiexianzhuang，bingjinkuaizouchuqu。

第二，不再有期待

 dangwomenjieshouxianzhuang，mingbaizijijiangmianlinshenmeyangdekunnanshi，womenjiubuhuiduiweilaibaoyoutaidadeqiwang，yebuhuiquxiangyouyitianwomendezhangfushifouhuihuidaojiali，guoshanghaorizi。

 womenbuzaichenniyuzhongfudezhuangtai。youyiduanshijian，womenjuedewomendezhangfuxianghuidaotadejiating，youyiduanshijian，womenjuedetahedisanzhexiangguoye。zheizhongzhuangtaishiwomenjijusangyoutongku。

fangxiaduizhangfudeqiwanghou，womenbuzaihusiluanxiang，ershikaishizuodangxiadeshiqing，kaishitaitouxiangqiankan。

 buyaohaipa，lihunyebuyaohaipa，meiyoubanfamianduiziji，fangxialengmodehuanxiangheqiwang，wuluntaxianzaizuoshenme，doubunengdaraowomendeqingxu，womenyinggaiyouyigegenghaodexintai，shenghuohuimanmanshangwendingdeshenghuo。

第三，了解婚姻中的问题

 lihunhou，henduoqizijuedezijizuodebugouhao，duizijiyouyizhongpingpandetaidu，juedezijizuocuoleshenme，suoyizhangfuchugui，beipanlejiating。

 jishizaiyuzhangfulihunhou，tayeshenshendixianrulezheizhonghuihenzhizhong。huihendeqingxuhuitunshitadexin，shitaneixinjidutongku，fangfoguoqudenuliheyituzaineiyikebeidapo。

 danwomenxuyaolejiedeshi，hunyinzhongzhenzhengdewentishishenme，shuangfangdouyouzeren，tadezerenshishenme，zhangfubushiwanquancuode，tazuobishicuode。

zenyangzouchulaogongchuguidailaideyinying？womenxuyaozuodeshiduizijijinxingyidingdexiufu，zhongdexinxin。