bansuizheduanxiaoxi、shoujiweixindeshixing,niyuniaiderenfaxinxideshijiannaizhibizhenshipengmiandeshijiandouduo。neimanibidehaohaodixuexizenyangzaiduanxiaoxizhonghetatiaodou——nixuyaozaiduanxiaoxizhongdoutaquwan,yeyaoweiraoyidianjiminhefengqu。huazhenqingganjigouzhengguima?xiabianjiutaolunyixiadajiadetiyi。
方式1:开头难
1、要有创意。
rujinzaoyinanyixiechengyitiaoniduchuangxingdeduanxiaoxileba,keshijiaruninengxiangdaoneiyangdeduanxiaoxi,bianhuijilingyifangliuyoukegumingxindeyinxiang。tahuiduinitebiexiai,binghenyoukenenghuixunsuhuiying。
•doulingyifangxiao。ninengjitamenjiangyigedajiahaowandegushi,huozhezaicizhiqiandehuihua。
•shuoyijuyoukanfadepingjia,yibanlaijianglingyifangdoushihuixiufude。
•jinkenengbaozhengyuanchuang,hongyangzishendeshejifengge。
2、问一个难题。
tiwentihuiranglingyifangganjuenibushisuiyifaxinxi,zhishiyouyubixufaxinxierfaxinxi,bingguanzhulingyifangdeniantou。zaitiwentishi,yaoliuyiyixiajigefangmian:
•weichijianyue。wenyiwenlingyifangguoderuhe,lirutapenyoudeshengripaiduiruhe,huozhetadelvyouzenyangneiyangdenanti。
•wenyigenenggoudechuduozhongduoyanghuidadenanti。bubiwenzheixienenggouhenjiandanyong“shi”huo“fou”huiyingdenanti。jilingyifangyixieshineikongjian,shitanenggouhuixunwenniyixienanti。
•bubiwenhennandenanti。jiaruniwenyixieshehuixuenandian,lingyifangjiumobuzhedanao,burongyihuiyingle。
•bubiwenwuqudenanti。jiarunijinjinshuo“jinriguoderuhe”“nichifanlema”neiyangdenanti,nihenyoukenenghuiwufadedaohuiying。
•baozhengzixitiexin。jiarutabujiuwanchenglenaxiexinxiangmuhuozheganleshenmedadexingwei,neimajiufaxinxiwenyiwentashierkaizhanderuhe。
3、liuyiyingyudeyufaheyufacuowu。
zheirutongjiaruniliangpengmian,nixuyaobaozheng yiguanzhengjieyiyang。zaifaxinxishi,yaojianchayixiashibushiyoucuo。
•jiarunideduanxiaoxililoudongbaichu,zeranglingyifangganjuenilianchayanduanxiaoxideshijianyemeiyou,duilingyifangbuzuguanzhu。
•ziranniwuxubaozhengmeiyicidoujizhi,fangfowenxuejiayiyang。yaoshizaixiewanduanxiaoxiyihoulveweijianchayixiajiuhaole。
4、不必太过分。
zaifaxinxishi,weiwancaisuanshizhongyao。yaoshishifangyalifayitiaonijuedefeichanghaodeduanxiaoxijiuxing,wuxuzuosiyouxiangqutaohaolingyifang。nimeiyingdanghuaxiaobubiyao1fenzhongzhishangdeshijianqusisuozheizhongnanti。
•bubiyizhizuodiyigefaxinxideren。jiaruniyizhineiyang,lingyifangbianhuiganjuezheilisuoyingdang,jiedaoniduanxiaoxishiyebuhuineimajidongle。youshihouranglingyifangxianrangnifaxinxi。
•bubiyouyiquzhuangfengqu,huazhenqingganjigouzhengguima?huozhehuadabadeshijianquxianggaizenmefaduanxin。
•duanxiaoxitiaodouheshijitiaodoudexiangtongzhichubianshijiaruniyaoxianghaodeshijixiaoguo,jiubixufangsong!
方式2:维持另一方的专注力
1、kailingyifangdewanxiaohua。
wanxiaoshitiaodoudehaofangfa,ninengshidudijixiaotayixia,bingshitayejixiaoni。neiyangnengranglingyifanglejienibushiyigeyansurenzhenerwuliaoderen。
•bietaiguofen。liruninengshuotaxiaikanwuqudeyingpian,huozheyitiandaowanhuaizhejita。
•baozheng lingyifanglejieniyizhizaiwanxiao,bieranglingyifangganjuenishiqueshizaiquxiaota,nijinjinxiangdoutawanbale。
•jiarunilejielingyifangderuming,jiukeyizaifaxinxishiyaoshangta。
•fayigexiaorong,shitalejienidequeshizaiwanxiao。
2、zhuyaobiaoxianchuniduitadeguanzhu。
jiaruniyaoxianggenjuduanxiaoxitiaodou,neimajiuzhaoyigefangfa,ranglingyifanglejienishiguanzhutade。ninengwenyiwentaderichangshenghuoruhe,huozhejuedezenmeyang。
•jiarutashengbingle,jiuwenqibingkuangzenyang,shibushizhuanhao。
•youshihouzaiduanxiaoxizhongtianjiatademingzihuitayanqianyiliang。
•wenyiwenlingyifangduixinshangyingdedianyinghuozhecanyindiandejianyi,tahenyoukenenghuiyuenichuque!
•zanyanglingyifang。weiwandebiaobaikualingyifangyixia。lirunijuedezhiqiantachuandehenmei,huoshinixiaitadexinzuodefaxing。
3、fayidianyourendeduanxiaoxi,ranglingyifangxiaoxiaojidongyixia。
nibuyongwen“nirujinchuanshenmani?”zenmeyangdehua,nizhibixuweiwandebiaobailiaoboyixiajiukeyile:•suibiandishuoshuonigangxiwanzao。
•zhijieledang,shuo“wonaozilixiangdequanshinineiyelichuandezhangqun。”
•shuo“wodedianbingxiangliyouyipinghongjiu,meiyounizaitakanshangquhengudan。”neiyangniyejiunenggouyaoyuelingyifanglaiyinjiu。
4、bubikanqilaitainannai。
zaifaxinxishiyidingyaolizhi。nibunengfayidaduideduanxiaoxihuozheyikouqiwenxuduo nanti,lingyifanghuiganjuehaofande。
•baozheng dajiafaxinxideliangfeichang。jiarunifa5tiao,tacaifa1tiao,zheibingbushinaxiehaoshier。
•xiaoronghefuhaobiaoqingnengjuyoufeichanghaodeshijixiaoguo,keshibubitaiguoyingyongta。jingtanhaoheyiwenyeshizheiban。
•bubiyijiedaoduanxiaoxijiuhuiying。yaoshibushishenmexinjideshi,jiudengshiduofenzhong、huozhejigexiaoshihouzaihuiying。jiarulingyifangyitianhoucaihuiyingni,neimaniyebubimashanghuiying,neiyanghuikanqilainihenji。
5、biejixiwangyugenjuduanxiaoxijiunengchuangjianbicidexinyoulingxi。
meiyouyiqieguanlianshigenjuyixiefensuidejuyujulaichuangjiande。ruguonifaxinxishi,qingjilaoduanxiaoxijinjinyizhongtiaodoudefangfa,huozhefanganjiexiaquganshenmedefangfabale。
•qingweichiqingqingsongsong。faxinxishiweilegenghaodihaowaner,erbushiweilegenghaoditantaoyansurenzhendehuatitaolun。
•jiaruniqueshixiailingyifang,neimahuanshijinkenengyuetachuqupengmian,erbushizhiliuzaiduanxiaoxishang。
方式3:完毕
不必一发信息就发了不停,这就如同在夜店你也不愿和另一方侃侃而谈谈起來不停。要是吸引住另一方的兴趣爱好就可以了。
•jiaruzaifaxinxishi,nishuodehuayouqiduo,neimashimanxialaideqingkuangxiale。
•jiaruniyizhifajiaozhangdeduanxiaoxi,keshiquemeiyouhuodefanhui,neimejiubiezaifaguo。
•ruguonijuedeliangrengangkaishimeiyouhuashuole,jiubiezaifaxinxile。
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