怎么建立夫妻间的安全感

　　zenmejianlifuqijiandeanquangan，laopomeiyouanquanganyouhenduoyinsu：zixiaozaiqianqueaidejiatingfenweizhongchengzhang，shangyiduanlianqingzaoyudaolemengpian…zheidoubushilaopozijidecuo，ruguozhangfuyinerganjuelaoponanyixiangchu，chanshengchuzhizelaopo、yanfanlaopodexintai，fanerhuiranghunyinshenghuodeqingkuanggengcha。

　　laopomeiyouanquangan，yijingshikeguanshishile，jiuyourudajiashifuqigongtizheigexianshiyiyang。laogongshouxianyaozuodeshibieba“meiyouanquangan”zuoweilaopodequexian，fanershizuoweilaopodeyibufen，xinpingqihedejieshouzheigeshishi。

　　laogongbixuyaoxianjiena，cainengjinyibuchengxinchengyidixiangqizibiaoshuniaibuaita、duozaiyita，ranglaopokanjiannidezhenxinshiyi，jinersaoqucongqiandeshangba，tigaozixinheguishugan。buran，ruguozhangfuxinliyanfan，biaocengshangyongdezaihao，jiuhuibeiminganlaopojiechuan，ranglaopoduilaogonggengweishuyuande。

　　zaiciqiangdiaoyibian：meiyouanquanganbingbushilaopozijidecuo，laogongyaofazineixindijieshouzheigeshishi!zheiyitiaoshiqianti，henguanjian。bingmeiyouzheigeqianti，yihoulaogongzuozaizainuliquanshibaifeigongfu。

　　zhenxinshiyijienalaopo“meiyouanquangan”yihou，laogongshijiyinggaizenmezuoni?keyicaiyongyixiazhei3gejutidefangfa，bangzhuqizizhaodaoguishugan，tigaodajiafuqijiandeqinmiwujianganhexingfugan。

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　　dangqizibiaoxianchulexinqingdiluoshi，laogongnenggouqingqingdilejieta“nizale”，tayaoshixiangshuodeshi，niyejiuxixinzhuanxindilingting;tayaoshibuxiangshuo，niyejiupeibanta，zhangciyiwangnvshenghuixiangyaojiangde。

　　dangtazhangkouxiangniqingsushi，yiqiejiurongyiduole，nijiunenggouchousibojian，lejietadexiangfa，lejietazenmehuishiwang，yekeyijianjiandidongtadebuanshinalilaide。

　　congnilingtingdeguochengdangzhong，haohaofanshengzishenyiguandeyantanjuzhiyoubutuodangdediqu，suihoujishijiuzheng，rangqixiancongwozheiertihuidaoniyeshilejieta、aitade。yidanyoulenidelijiehezhichi，tajuedezijibingbushiyigeren，jinerjiuhuitebiefangxin，kenengjiutigaoleguishugan。

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　　zenmejianlifuqijiandeanquangan，meiyouanquangandelaopodouyouyigegongtongdian：tamenhuibuyanqifandewenlaogong“niaibuaiwo”。erzhangfujiarubiaoxianchuleyanfan，huiyanzhongdajidaolaopo。yiner，dangqizineiyangxunwennishi，qingxixinqieqingqingdigentashuo“woziranaizheni”。

　　chukaixixinhuiyinglaopoyiwai，laogonghaiyingdangzhudongjingong。qishijiushilaopomeiwenni，niyedepinfande、fanfudejijigaozhilaopo“wozhendehenaini”，“wohenzaihuni”，“jinguanwopingchangfeichangmang，youdeshihouhuigubudeni，danniyizhizaiwoxinli”，“jinguanwobushanyanci，danduinideaishizhen”…

　　zaisanxiangqizibaozhengzijiduitadeai，duifupingtaxinzhongdejiaolvhebuanyoufeichanghaodexiaoguo。

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　　yueguanzhushenme，jiuhuiyuehuizaihunaxie，yuanbenyanlizhiyouyidianxiaohonggeda，zuihouyinweiguofenguanzhu，zheiyixiaogedajiuhuichengweiyizuodashan，yaderenchuanbuguoqi。

　　buyaoxiangtaiduo，buyaomangmuqusikao“meiyouanquangan”zheijianshiqing，yebiejiangqizizhongdesuoyouyantanjuzhi，doukanzuoshimeiyouanquangan。

　　niguofenguanzhu，huibuzhibujuedibaqizidangzuoyigeruoxiaohebanshourende。ermeiyouanquangandelaopoyeshibijiaomingande，nvshenghuixianzhuganshoudaonideyouyi。