夫妻之间怎么会有安全感

　　fuqizhijianzenmehuiyouanquangan，zheigewentiqishibijiaochangjian，“meiyouanquangan”yeshichangjiandefenshoudeliyou，neiyangqinmiguanxizhongdeguishugan，jiujingshishenme?shuodaodi，anquanganjiushiyizhong“xiangxin”，meiyouanquanganshiyizhong“haipa”。

　　zenmecainengrangtazaiqingganzhongyuelaiyuehenyouanquangan?

　　meiyigerentianshengdouyoubeilejie、beijiena、aiyubeiaideyaoqiu，ernannvguanxishuodaodijiushiyichang“qingganxuqiu”deboyi，dangzheigexuqiuhuodemanzubianshiandingganjiben。

　　ruhezhaohuizijizugoudeanquangan?

　　womenjianyiruxiasuoshi——

　　1.要保持金钱上的单独。

　　xiangduiwendingdeshenghuolaiyuanshigoujianandingganjiben。nvxingyaodongdezaiguanxilidandu，zijinengyouyifengongzuo，huoshiyougudingdeshenghuolaiyuan。zheiyangjiusuanfashengshenmeshi，yebuzhiyurangzijitaichuyubeidong。

　　fuqizhijianzenmehuiyouanquangan，jiandaonantizhongwomenshuotarujinzaijialimianzuoquanzhimama，zaizhengzhishangyidingshizanqiebunengdandude。keshi，niyizhibaochizhegenzhichangshangdesixianghechupeng，zheiyidianhenyoudaoli，zhishaoburongyishizijiheshehuituojie。

　　zhidaohaizizhangdaleyihou，niyexuyaoguihuayixiaweilaiderensheng，shijixudangquanzhitaitai，huoshiquzhaoyifenzijixiangyaodegongzuozhong。

　　2.不追求自己的伴侣

　　“tashigenanren，chaojiashiwubirangzhewo”，“zheigerenshiqinaideren，tabixuzhidaowodekanfa”zheishidaduoshunvshengxinlingshenchucunyoudeyizhonglejie，haoxiangbixuyanqianzheigenanrenjubei“xinlingganying”，nengdongxinixinlidexiangfa，zhangwozijidexuqiubinglijifuzhuxingdong。ninenggenjuzheigelaipandinglingyifangxibuxihuanni，jiqiaizhenideshuiping。danshi，zheizhongxiandingxingdesilufeidanmeiyouyichu，fandaojingchanggufuni。niyonglezishendebiaozhunlaiguidingairen，xianeryijianzheishibuheshide。

　　3. 自我关怀冥想训练。

    meiyouanquanganderen，yibanxinlingshenchudoushiyouzhezibeiqingxu，haipazijibukeyixiyinzhuairen，weiyouzijichongzu“hao”cainengliuzhulingyifang，shishishangzheizhongxintaishiyigequantao。zaigezhongmingxiangxunlianmoshizhong，ziwoguanhuaimingxiangxunlianzhongshipeiyangxinliduizishendelianmin。

　　4.打开自身的心扉

　　zaiwomenjieshouzijishenai，yucitongshirongxuzijiaiduifangdeshihou，dajiakenenghuidanxin，haipazijishoushanghai。jiarushizhongjurenyuqianlizhiwai，neiyangyouzenyangnenghuodezijixiangyaodehunyinguanxini?huoxuwomenkeyiyizhong”pinsipinhuo“deqipo，fangshouyibo，buxumeiyouanquanganzhuzaizhewomendexingwei。ziran，bijiaohaodeqingkuangjiushizheiduanganqinghuijieguoshi，erzuichazhuangkuangyezhibuguoshizainijingzhongjiqujiaoxun，yibiangenghaodelejieziji。shizhangkeyijiaoyuwomenlejieziji，yekeyibangzhuzirunwomendouaiyujianqiangnengli，zheizhongshijiandoushibingbushitulaode。