婚姻幸福快乐与上班的路相关?

婚后怎么维持好家庭 ?“买房，买在哪里”，这基本上是全部小两口完婚时必须考虑到的重中之重。当代生活工作压力太大，夫妇彼此通常全是工薪族。针对房屋究竟要买在哪儿的探讨，商议出来的結果通常是选在彼此所在单位的圆心。

 neiyangdejuecekanqilaihaoxiangshizuigongpinggongzhengde ，youyubicishangbandeshijianjibenshangyiyang。danshi，niyaoguoma，fufubicitangruozaiwaichushangbandeneishihou，yigexiangzuozou，yigexiangyouzou，nianfuyinian，rifuyiri，youjianghuihuiduihunyinxingfuganchanshengfumianxinxideweihai。hunhouzenmeweichihaojiating?hunyinlianaishiyihuishima?

同一个方向，同一个总体目标

 zai90houlihunyulaiyugaodejinri，jinridenianqingyidai，duibiyuwomendefubei，haoxiangzhenduitingzhihunyindejuecegengweiqinglv。youshiniyehuibumingbai，weiheyiduifuqi，mailaicheyemailaifang，bubixiaohaizi，shenghuokanqilaichushibujing，quepianyaohuileyidianxiaoshierduqiliyi。

 shifouyoushi，jiarushenghuolimeilepantou——jibuyongcunkuangoufang，yebuyongxianghuyangyuxiaohai，neiyangdehunyinhuifouyuelaiyuejiaoweimingan?tashiyoujianghuide。

 youyujiaruyouxianghudezongtimubiaodehua，liangkouzizaipingchangderichangshenghuojiuhuiyoudaliangdegongtongyuyan。yidanfenjieduandijinxinglezongtimubiao(biruqixinhelimailaidaodiyitaofangwu)，suochanshengdemanzuganyehuirangfufubicidexinkaodegengjin。

 jiaruyouzhexianghudezongtimubiaohuitigaohunyinxingfugandehua，neima，youmuyouqitafangfatishengzheileixianghuzongtimubiaoganni?shehuixintaixuedejushenrenzhijichulilunweirenmenchushileyixieqidi：

 dajiadegerenxingweizishihuiquyixiedingyixianglianluo，erzheileilianluotongchangshitoushenyurenmenpingchangcaiyongdeyixieyuhui。biru：wozherekafeideren，huiganjueyigelurengengweideyoushan。pingchangrenmenyeyaoshuo“yigewennuandehuaili”。

 neima，renmendeyanyuzhongshiruhemiaoshuyouzhexianghudefangxiangni?renmenzaishenghuozhong，yongdao“fengyutongzhou”laimiaoshudajiayibiantongyigezongtimubiaonuli;er “fendaoyangbiao”、“gebendongxi”，zeshiyongyuxushudaxuebiyeyihoudahuoerdeshenghuoyibuyoubingjideqingkuang。

 bunankanchu，zaidajiadejiyili，“benzhetongyigefangxiang”he“yibiantongyigezongtimubiaonuli” zaidingyishangshilaolaodilianxizaiyiqide。

同一个方向关联更强

 neima，meirishangbandouchaozhetongyigefangxiang，neiyangxiguanxingdijihuazaiqizhongyigedingyi，jiunenggourang“tongyigezongtimubiao”zheiyidingyiyeyuelaiyuejiaoweihuoyuexingma?zheizairenmenjiangyaofabuyu《shiyanxintaixuekanwu》(journal of experimental social psychology)deyixiangkexueyanjiuzhonghuodelequeren：heairenshangbanfangxiangyizhiketishenghunyindexingfugan。

 zaidiyigediaochatongjizhong，renmendiaochatongjile280weidingjuzaiguowaidejihungongxinzu(junzhihunlingwei8nian)。zuixian，beifangzhehuiyingletamenxianjieduandehunyinxingfugan。

 jiexiaqu，tamendechuletamenzishen，jiqizhixiqinshudesuozaidanweixiangduixingyujiadefangxiang(biru：xinan、daxibei)。ciwai，shouzhongyechushileyixiliebiedecailiao，baohanfufubicifenbieshangbansuobixudeshijian、changyongdedaibugongju、xiaohaizishuliang、shourushuiping、shibushilingwaishangbandeng。

 zaidiergediaochatongjizhong，xueshuyanjiumenzhongguoxianggangdejiefangle139weijihungongxinzu(junzhihunlingwei13nian)。beifangzheyehuiyingleyouguantamenxianjieduandehunyinxingfugandengyixilienanti。

 ciwai，yinweizheiyiciquanbudebeifangzhedoulaiyuanyuyutongyigedachengshi、bingdouchengzuoditiezhanshangban，yincitamenzaiyizhangditieditushangbian，biaomingletamenyuzhixiqinshudeshangbanxianlu。

 2gediaochatongjidejieguodoufajue，shangbanfangxiangdeleisishuipinghuishunxiangweihaidajiadehunyinxingfugan。zheixieshangbanfangxiangjiaoweitiejindefufu，xiangduieryanlingrenmanyitamendehunyin。jiusuanshizheixiebulingwaishangbandefufu，huoshichengzuobuyiyangdaibugongjudefufu，zheiyiyijudouchuangli。

 keshi，2gediaochatongjidejieguohuanshibukeyichedilingrenxiangxin——huifouyouyuzaitongyigefangxiangshangbandefufu，zaixiabanlehenrongyizhuangtouhebaomingcanjiayixiexiuxianhuodongni?

 yinci，xueshuyanjiumenyouzaishiyanshilibianrenyipipeiyinanyinvdelinshixingdadang。tamenzaixuanbushiyangangkaishiqianyou5fenzhongdesuiyixianliaoshijian(shiyanzhetuociyaotiqianzhunbeilingyigewuzideshiyanqixie，rangliangweicanyuzhedulijiaowangle5fenzhong)。

 suihou，zheiduidadangbeigaozhi，tamenjianghuijinxing2gebuyouguandemeirirenwu。diyigemeirirenwudekexueyanjiuzhongxinsixiangshidiaochatongjijianshenyundongzenyangweihaigukejiezhekaizhandechanpinpingjia。erdiergemeirirenwuzeshirangtamenzuoweiyiduidadangyiqitantao，suihouxiangdaxueguanlibantiyixiezenyangtuidongxueyuanshenghuodetiyi。

 zaidiyigemeirirenwuzhong，liangweicanyuzheyaofenbielaidaofenbiedegongzuozhongjianjuyaling10xia，suihouhuidaoyuandian，gongfanfu10ci。juyalingzishenmeishenme，zhongyaoshitamendexianlulijingleshejifangan。

 zaiyixiezhuangkuangxia，tamenfenbiedegongzuozhongjianzaitongyigefangxiang，liangweicanyuzhechaozhetongyigefangxiangzoudong;erzaiyixiezhuangkuangxia，tamenbixuchaozhefanguolaidefangxianglaidaofenbiedegongzuozhongjian。zaijinxingjuyalinghou，renmenrangliangweicanyuzhefenbiedaobuyiyangdewuzilitianxiexinxileyifenwenjuandiaocha，tixingzhongbaohantamenduidadangdeyiyuan，jiqiduijiexiaquyaokaizhandehedadangyiqitantaodeqidai。

 shujuxianshi，zheixietongxiangzoudongdecanyuzheduidadangdeyinxianghuibizoubuyiyangfangxiangdecanyuzhehaoxie，lingwai，tamenduixiayigemeirirenwudeqidaiduyehuigenggao。

同一个方向给幸福婚姻雪中送炭

 yaoweichihunyinxingfukuaile，xunzhaobicidexiangtongdianhexianghuerweinulidezongtimubiaoshihenzhongyaodeshier。yixiangbudaodeshi，yizhiyuyixiekanqilaiyidianerdoubuyouguande“xiangtongzhichu”，birushangbandefangxiang，yekeyiduihunyinzaochengtingdadeweihai。

 renmendeyijuyebudanjinxianyufufu，zaiqiyelibiangongzuozhongdepengyou，tangruocongdiantijiaoxianglaidaogongzuozhongjianshichaozhetongyigefangxiangdehua，huoxuyehuigengwei“qixinheli”digongzuozhong。

 keshi，hunyinweichiqueshishiyigehenfanzadegongchengxiangmu，chaozhetongyigefangxiangshangbanhuoxunenggou“xiangduixing”ditigaohunyinxingfugan，danyejuebuhuishinengwanhuihunyindequannenglingdanmiaoyao。hunyinlianaishiyihuishima?