婚姻修复：不想离婚怎么挽回婚姻

　　buxianglihunzenmewanhuihunyin，fuqiganqingpoliedekunjingbingbuyidingshiyiyezhijianlailinde。youkenengshirifuyiridezhengzhi、zhangqixinghulvedejingshenxuqiu、panbiandeliefeng，huozherichangshenghuoyalixiadeyuelaiyueyuan。dangyifangkaishizhiyi“zheiduanganqinghaiyouxiwangma”shi，shijishangyijingzoudaolexuanyabianyuan。danwanjiuhunyinbingbushikaoyiju“duibuqi”huo“zaijiwoyicijihui”jiunengshixiande，zheixuyaoxitonghuasikao、mudexingxingdongyuchizhiyiheng。benwenjiangcongshehuixinlixue、goutongdejiqiaoheguanxixiubuduicekaolv，weinintigongyitaokeluodishijiejuefangan，bangzhuniwanliumianlinposuidehunyin。

　　一、挽救婚姻前，先问一下自己3种情况

　　zaizuochurenhexingweiqian，nixuyaoxianpingjingxialai，mianduihunyinlideguanjianfenqi。

　　“fuqiganqingpoliedegenbenyuanyinshisha?”

　　biebanantijianyiguinawei“sanguanbuhe”“waiyu”huo“meiyouqian”。womenxuyaoshenrufenxi：

　　实例：

　　laopomaiyuanlaogong“conglaibuguanzhujiazhong”，danlaogongjuedeziji“pinlemingyangjiahukoujiuyaoai”。shencengcimaodunshishuangfangjiu“yiwu”degainianbuyiyang——laopobixuqingxushouhou，laogongjuedewuzhitiaojianjiuyaoaideyizhongtixian。

　　yuyangoutongjiqiao：shibushizhangqixingtaobimaodun，huozheyongchizequdaibiaoshu?

　　jingshenxuqiu：shibushiyouyifangzhangqixingbeihulve(rushenai、beizhongshi、beirenlijie)?

　　jiazhiguanchongtu：shibushizaijiaoyuhaizi、shanyangfumu、qiancaifenpaidengguanjianwentizhongcunzaiyagenmaodun?

　　“niyuanbuyuanyiweixiufuguanxifuzeren?”

　　fuqiganqingpolieyibanshibicigongtongzuoyongdejieguo，danwanliushixuyaorenxianmaichudiyibu。ruguobayiwusuoyoutuijianjilingyifang(ru“quanshinixingzihencha”“nimamazongtiaoboshifei”)，zhihuirangduifanggengjiajiandingleliqujuexin。

　　重要心理状态：

　　“jishiduifangyouwu，woyeyuanyixiangaibianziji，yinweiwoyaowanliuzheiduanganqing。”

　　“nishifounengjieshouzuihuaidedasuan?”

　　wanjiuhunyinbingbushi“yidingnengqudechenggong”chengnuo，fanershi“woyuanweixiufuguanxifuzhunuli，danjieguokenengburuyuqi”。tizaotiqianzuohaozhunbei，nenggoubimianyinguoduxiwangerqingxushikong。

　　二、挽救婚姻的5个关键因素

　　diyibu：lengqueqiguanlifangfa——zhongzhisunhai，fujiankeguangoutongjiaoliu

　　mashangtingzhi3zhonggerenxingwei：

　　jiuchanbuqingxunwen(ru“nijiujinghaiaiwoma?”“kebukeyibuxianglihun?”)

　　chizemaiyuan(ru“quanshinihuidiaolezheigejiating!”“nicongweixiangguowodeganjue!”)

　　xiaojibeiguan(ru“wobugouhao”“liquwonihuiguodegenghao”)

　　开设“冷却期”：

　　zhiyaoduifangqingxuguoji，zhudongyaoqiu“dajiadoulengjingjitian，linshibushuozheijianshiqing”，fangzhimaodunjihua。

　　yong“feibaoligoutong”zhongxinqidonghuihua：

　　gongshijisuan：“wozhuyidao……(keguanshishi)→wojuede……(xintai)→womenxuyao……(yaoqiu)→niyao……(yaoqiu)”

　　实例：

　　“zuijinyizhoudajiachaolesanci(keguanshishi)，woganjuehenpibei(xintai)，woxuyaoyigenengningjinggoutongjiaoliudeziranhuanjing(yaoqiu)，niyaojinyeyiqichuquchidunfanliaoliaoma?(yaoqiu)”

　　dierbu：shencengsikao——xunzhaohunyinlide“yuanxiong”

　　zhizuo“hunyinshenghuogerenzhenggaicuoshi”：

　　nazhibixiechuninengxiangdaodequanbuchongtudian，bingguileibiaoming：

　　shenghuofangshi(rujiawuhuofenpai、zuoxishijianbiao)

　　jingshenxuqiu(rushouhoushizhang、zaijingshenshang)

　　waibuyali(rujingjifudan、poxizhijian)

　　yuanzewenti(ruwaiyu、jiatingbaoli)

　　qubie“kehuajiemaodun”he“bunengdiaohemaodun”：

　　kehuajiemaodun：tongguogoutong、rangbuhuonidingguizechuli(ru“chengnuomeigexingqiyicishenduduihua”)。

　　bunengdiaohemaodun：xuzhongxinshenshihunyinshenghuodekexingxing(ruyifangjianchibuxiedingkeyizu，lingyifangwubishengyun)。

　　disanbu：gaibianziwo——yong“genggai”zhengshichengxin

　　更改的核心逻辑：

　　buxianglihunzenmewanhuihunyin，wanjiuhunyinbingbushi“quyuelingyifang”，fanershi“bazijibianchenggenghaodeairen”。nigenggaibixumanzulianggebiaozhun：

　　duiyuhunyinlideguanjianfenqi(ru“wotaizisi，rujindongdehuanweisikao”)。

　　zhangqixingkechixuxing(ru“wobaomingcanjiagoutongkecheng，huibuduanxuexizenyangbiaodaganqing”)。

　　具体行动方位：

　　qingxukongzhi：genjumingxiangxunlian、yundonghuoxinlifudao，jiangdibulizhizhengzhi。

　　xingxiangshengji：genggailalilataxiguanxing，zhuzhongyibiao，tishengzixinxin。

　　jinengtisheng：xuexipeixunairenshanzhanglingyu(rutaxihuantouzilicai，ninengzhishijichucaiwujichuzhishi)，tishenggongtongyuyan。