常言说,“忍一忍,风平浪静;退一步,海阔天空”。在生活中,并不是所有的人都愿意去忍耐的,更不是所有的人都能够管理好自己的情绪的。有些人很难控制自己的情绪,特别是在不顺心的情况下,很容易发怒,试图通过脾气暴发解决问题。实际上,没有人会在乎你是否生气,而你的乱发脾气根本解决不了任何问题,他脾气不好,反而很可能加重问题的解决难度。对成大事者而言,脾气暴躁是无知的表现。
tapiqibuhao,piqibaozaoderen,wangwangqueshaokuanguangdexionghuai。tamendeneixinzongshishifenmingan,jiurutongdingshizhadan,yichujifa,zhiyaoyudaobuhezijixinyihuozheyudaozijibumandeshiqing,jiuhuituranjianpiqibaofa。huoxuwomenxuyaodebujinjinshikuaile,womenxuyaodehaiyourennai。zhiyoujuyoulekuanguangdexionghuai,cainenggouzhenzhengdirennai。yinwei,zheigeshihoubuhuijuederennaishiyizhongtongku,ershijuederennaishiyizhongjianchidaodi,yeshiyizhongziwoxiulian。
suhuashuo“rongtarenbunengrongzhishi,zuotarenbuganzuozhishi”,nenggoudadaozheigejingjiederen,huiyougengguangkuodefazhankongjian。ruguoyigerenzongshiweileyidianxiaoshijinjinjijiao,huozheshiweileyidianxiaoliyierduibierenfapiqi,neimezheiyangderenbukenengdedaogenghaodefazhan。buyaorangzijichengweineizhimeiyourenxihuandeniao,yaodongderuherangzijibiandegengjiashourenhuanying。
kanaijirenwei,yubierenxiangchushi,yinggaixuehuizunzhongbieren,jinliangjianshaoduibierendeshanghai,hexiederenjiguanxidejichushibicizhijianhubushanghai,erpiqibaozaowangwanghuishanghaidaobieren。jingguojishinianyanjiuhetiyan,kanaijitongguoxiamiandegushixiangrenmenzhanshileyurenxiangchushibimianshanghaideyishu。
kanaijidezhinvyuesefen?kanaiji,likailekansasishidelaojia,laidaoniuyue,danrenkanaijidemishu。dangshitadezhinvzhiyoushijiusui,gaozhongbiyeyijingsannianle,dankanaijiquefaxiantazuoshidejingyanjihuweiling。jingguojiniandefazhan,xianzai,tayijingshixibanqiuzuiwanmeidemishuzhiyile。
不过,在刚刚开始工作的时候,她身上的缺点十分明显,有很多不足,卡耐基基本上每天都会因为她考虑不周而责怪她。有一天,卡耐基又想批评她,但卡耐基马上意识到自己的岁数比约瑟芬大了一倍,自己的生活经验几乎是她的一万倍,为什么要这么苛刻地要求她呢?卡耐基想到自己十九岁的情形,发现那个时候的自己还没有约瑟芬表现得好,很多事情也没有约瑟芬做得那么认真。
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qizhongqiongrenpiqidadezheiduangeci,worenweishihenduoxianzainianqingrendezhenshixiezhao。
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卡耐基通过对侄女教育态度的转变,向我们展现了一个很现实的问题,那就是不要对别人总是那么苛求,如果总是苛刻地要求别人,那么自己会经常发怒,别人却不会在意你的怒气。卡耐基正是意识到这一点,经过自己的分析发现原来侄女的表现并没有那么糟糕,这能够缓和他们之间的关系。那么,今天职场中的我们要怎样控制自己的情绪呢?需要做到以下三点。
diyi,dongdehuanweisikao。dangnifaxianzijikuaiyaokongzhibuzhuzijinuhuodeshihou,jiuyaodongdehuanweisikao,zhanzaiduifangdejiaoduquxiangwenti。renmenzongshishanyuweizijizhaojiekou,ruguonizhanzaiduifangdeweizhilaisikaoyixia,nihuifaxianruguozijishiduifang,huoxulianzheigeshuipingyedabudao。suoyishuodangnimianduilingdaodepipingshi,bufangzhanzailingdaodeweizhisikaowenti,nijiunenggouxuxindijieshouduifangdesixiangle。
dier,duibierenyaoqiubuyaoguoyuyange。chenggongderenhuiyankediyaoqiuziji,danshiduiyubierenzehuibijiaokuansong。zhiyouzheiyangcainenggouchulihaobicideguanxi,renyurenzhijiancaihuibianderongqia。zaigongzuozhong,ruguonizongshiyangediyaoqiunidetongshi,neimenimenzhijiandeguanxiwangwanghuibiandebijiaoganga。zheiduinidechenggongshimeiyoubangzhude。
disan,pingshiduoyuedu,molizijidexingge。qizhong,yuedushiyizhonghenhaodebanfa,yinweizaidushudeguochengzhong,nengrangyigerendeneixinbiandepinghe,tongshiyounenggouzengjiazijidezhishiliang。dangyigerendehanyangzaibuduantishengdeshihou,tadexinggeyehuibiandebijiaopinghe,chuliwentiyehuibiandexiangduilizhi,qimayushibuhuijizao。
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