情绪与压力管理：如何控制自己的情绪

 qingxuyuyaliguanlizaishenghuozhongyouweizhongyao，henduorenqingxushanglaile，buguanbugu，henrongyijiufangxiankuibai，xuehuiruhekongzhizijideqingxuhenguanjian，tebieshiduizijiqinjinderen，qingxuyujiankanggengyaozhongshi， jingshen jibingwangwangjiushipingshideqingxuwentichulibudang，manmanleijiercheng，ruhekongzhizijideqingxuni?

一、情绪与压力管理：如何控制自己的情绪

 yourenshuo，zijitebiechongdong，mianduiwentishiaifapiqi，qingxuyujiankangyouzhehendadeguanxi，qingxuyujiankangdeguanlianshenzhizairichangdemeishimeikedounengganshoudedao，neimegairuhekongzhizijideqingxuni?

 kongzhiqingxuyuyaliguanlizhendehennan，danshiruguojuexingouda，erqiezhendeyuanyiqusikaozheigewentidehua，yeshiyougaishandejihuide。zheigegaishandeqierudian，jiushikaolvqingchuzheigewenti：dangzijiqingxuchongdongdeshihouneixinjiujingzaixiangxieshenme。

 ruguonaixinjuechayixiadehuajiuhuifaxian，renzaishengqideshihoutounaozhonghuiyouzheiyangyigexiangfa：doushirangwoshengqiderendecuo，bushiwodewenti。keguandishuo，danglianggerenyoumaodunshi，yibanbuhuizhishiyigerendewenti。danqingxudecunzaihuirangrendeshiyexiazhai，huirangrenzhikandaoduifangdecuo，erkanbudaozijidewenti。

 suoyi，bimianchongdongdezuiguanjianyidian，jiushicong“doushiduifangdecuo”zheizhongpianzhizhongzhengtuochulai。zheijiuxuyaoyouzishengdegongli。jutizenyangzishengni?

 youyigefangfashi，dangnishengqideshihou，bazhuyilicongduifangshenshangchoulichulai，bingzhuanxiangguanzhuziji，nikeyijizijizheiyangyigexintaianshi：wojiuzhendeneimeduima?lengjingzhihou，nijiuyoukenengfaxianyixiebuyiyangdedongxi。birunikenenghuifaxianzijihenshengqi，bingbushiyinweiduifangzuocuoleshenmeshi，ershiyinweiduifangmeiyoudadaozijideqiwang。

此外，每个人都还不自觉地奉行着双重标准：一方面，别人对自己好时，起初你会感激，但时间一久就会慢慢适应并认为这是自己应得的，一切都是理所当然的。另一方面，一旦别人做了一件让自己不爽的事，就会出离地愤怒，并认为这个人再也不值得信任，然后伤心失望，以至于完全忽略了，对方之前也曾为自己付出过很多。 遇上难解情感困扰？

 biruhenduorenchengjiazhihou，yiranxuyaofumudeyuanzhu。xianzaifangjiazheimegui，xuyaofumubangzhucoushoufu;youlehaizi，yexuyaofumuguolaizhaogu。danshi，dangliangdairenshenghuozaiyiqishi，yinweiguannianshangdebutong，shenghuoxiguandebutongdengzhongzhongyuanyin，huidaozhifumuhezinvzhijian，baokuopoxizhijianchuxianhenduomocahemaodun。

 ruguowomenlixingxiangyixiang，jiuhuifaxianbushaowenti：yifangmian，fumuduizijidefuchuhuibeirenweishiyinggaide，“fumudangranyinggaiweizijidehaizifuchule，sheijiabushizheiyangni”。lingyifangmian，tamenyoujingchangnanyirongrenshangyibeishenshangdegezhongbuzu：chenjiudeguannian、buliangdeshenghuoxiguan、kanbuguandeyixiezuofa。

 dangwomenjuedebierendefuchushiyinggaide，erbierendequedianhebuzushibuyinggaideshihou，jiuhuigandaobumanhefennu。danshijishang，henduorencongweixiangguoweibierenfuchuguoshenme，zhishizijideqiwangmeiyoumanzu，jiujuedebeikuiqianle。

 buguanshihejiarenzaiyiqi，haishihepengyouxiangchu，dangwomenyoubuman，duibierenhenshengqishi，xianbuyaojiyuzhizeduifang，kuaisujinxingqingxuyuyaliguanli，fanguolaiwenyiwenziji：woweiduifangzuoguoshenme，yipeideshangduiduifangyouzheiyangdeyaoqiuheqiwang?yidanzheiyangxiangle，henduoshihoujiuhuifaxianzijidezhizehuibiandebuzaineimelizhiqizhuang，zheiyangdehuabumandeqingxujiuziranhuihuanhexialai。