女生一直没人追的原因是什么？为何长得不漂亮的却有人追？

 nishibushizairichangshenghuozhongkandaoguoneiyangdenvsheng：tamenbingbuduomedehaokan，shenxingyebingyouquehan，naizhidangtamenlizairenduilideqingkuangxia，jibenshangmeirenhuizhuyidaotamen。wuzhongnvshengzhaobudaonanpengyoushinawuzhong？shubuzhizaitamendebeihou，jingchangyouyixingpengyouzhuisui；tamenpengdaokunnandeqingkuangxia，yezonghuiyouyixinghuixiashouxiangbang；xiangbizheixiehaokandenvsheng，tamennaizhibeizhuiqiuwanmeidepincidaliang。nvshengyizhimeirenzhuideyuanyinshishenme？

 henduorenhenyoukenenghuimihuobujie，budoushuonanshengxihuanhaokanpiaoliangdenvshengma，weiheyouyixieqimaobuyang，naizhibunengjiaozuopiaoliangdenvsheng，queyizhinenghuodeyixingdeqinlaini？

ruguonifajuezheigewentideqingkuangxia，nideneixinhenyoukenengzaoyiyongyouyigehuidale，duima？

 erzheiyihuidaqiahaoshi：biaomianbingbushijueceyigerenyouhuolideweiyiyaosu，youhenduozhangxiangzhiwaidedongxi，nengrangyigerenshifanggengbutongxunchangdefengcai。wuzhongnvshengzhaobudaonanpengyoushinawuzhong？

 jiaruniyizhizaikandaoyiweiyixingdediyimianjiubeita/tasuoxiyinzhule，neimayoukenengnishibeilingyifangdeqichang、zhangxiangdengchudongle。

 erjiaruniyizhizaihemouyiyixingjiaowangdequanguochengzhongrijiushengai，zaochenglehaogandu，neimabiaominglingyifangchudongnide，yidingshizhangxiangzhiwaidedongxi。

 buguanzhenduinanhaizieryanhuoshizhenduinvshengeryan，zaichengrendequanqiuli，dahuoeryebusha：dajiadabufenrendouqingxi，zaizheixiedajiazhenzhenzhengzhengxiaideyixingtexingzhizhong，“zhangxiang”shizuibuzhiyitide。

neimazheiyi“zhangxiangzhiwaidedongxi”shijizhideshishenme？naxiedenvshenggengnenghuodetarendezhuiqiuwanmeini？

congshehuixinlixuedeshijiaoeryan，juyouxialiesangetexingdenvshenggengchangbeizhuiqiuwanmei。wuzhongnvshengzhaobudaonanpengyoushinawuzhong？

共情能力

 nvshengyizhimeirenzhuideyuanyinshishenme？congdajiarichangrichangshenghuodeshijiaoeryan，“tongqingdali”zhideshiyizhongshanyulejietarenyongyidenengli。

 ercongshehuixinlixuedeshijiaoeryan，tadaliangdeshizhiyizhonggongqingnengli，tashiyourenjiguanxililunxinlixuezhuanjiamakesizuixianmingquetichude，youyizhehuanweisikao、gantongshenshoudeng，xushudeshiyizhongganshoutarenneixinshenchudenengli。

gongqingnengliqiang、tongqingdalidenvsheng，tamenjingchangnengganshoudaolingyifangdexintai，erqienengdagaituiduanchutadeniantou。

zhengshiruci，tamengengmingbairuhequzunzhongtaren，zenyangshouhaotarendezizun。

 zaidianshilianxuju《nihao，jiushiguang》zhizhong，nvyihaoyuzhouzhoubianshiyigeshifentongqingdalidenvsheng，tazizhizaipenyoupengdaonantideqingkuangxia，gaiyongruhedefangfaquxiezhutamen。

 dangribendongmanshetuanhuodongdegewujuzongyijiemubeijiaowuzhurenchexiao、dahuoershenshouyanlidajishi，takeyongzishenershicanyuxiaogushisaishidechuyangxianglijing，quhuoyueqifen。

 zuohaopenyouxinruiyinweimamadefouren、tongxuemendeqiyaernaonubenkuideqingkuangxia，taningjingdixushuzishenershixiangjindetihui，erqiechuanshoujixinruizishenjingchangyingyongdexinlidiaojiefa。

 yuzhouzhoudexindishanliang，zhuyaobiaoxianzaitadetiexinshangbian，tazongshinengjiangzishendezishifangjinhepenyouyiyangdegaokuanbishang，yongzishendeshenyoutihuiquweihubaoyanglingyifangdezizunxin。

zhengshiruci，bulunshinanhaizihuoshinvsheng，tashenpangdepenyoudoushifenxihuanta、guanzhuta，qidaijiaodashuipingdiquweihuta。

yeqiahaoshitadetongqingdali，rangtahuodeleqingchunshiguanglizuiwanmeideaiqing。

潜心用心

dajiachangshuo，yongxindenvxingzuipiaoliang。

 keguanshishiyedequeshineiyangde，yigenengzhiliyumoushiqingdenvxing，tadeyanzhongshifangzhedeshijiandingbuyideguanghui，tadedeshenshangmimanzhedeshicuicandeguangyun。

 yigenvsheng，jiarunengduimoushiqingbaozhengshifendeqianxinheyongxin，biaomingtadexinlishiyouzongtimubiaoyouzhuiqiuwanmeide，biaomingtaduizishenyongyouyankedeguiding，qidaikeyibashierbaozhengzuihaoshi。

 bayongxinzuoweiyizhongxiguanxing，zheileixiguanxingbianchengdangranyihou，tajiubeishenshenyindaoleyigerendeqichangzhizhong，tahuilingrenkanshangqugengweianwen、wenzhong，youyizhongjingshuishenliudejingmijuede。

 yigenvshengjiaruxiguanqianxinyongxin，biaomingtakandaishenbianderenheshidoushifenrenzhen，biaomingtashiyigexiangshoushenghuo、xiangshourenshengderen。

 yongxindenvsheng，huijirenyizhonganwenkaopudejuede，huilingrennenggengweianxindihetaxiangchu、jiaowang，keyijiairendaliangdeguishugan，yekeyidailaishenbianderendaliangjijizhudongdedongneng。

 zhenduineiyangdenvshengeryan，rongmaohaineimaguanjianma？huidaxianeryijianshifourende，youyutamendeguanghui，zaojiuchaoguolequanbuwaizai、qianbodedongxi，rangtamenbianchengzuinannengkegui、zuiyougushideren。

情绪自控力

yourenyiqianshuoguo：“yigerenjiarukeyiguanlizijidereqing、chongdonghehaipa，neitajiushengyujunwang。”

 youcikejian，diaojieqingxudenenglizhenduiyigereneryanshijiqiguanjiande，tabuzhifanyingzaigongzuozhong、richangdeyurenxiangchuzhong，yucitongshihaifanyingzaiqingganzhizhong。

 yigekeyicaozonghaozishenxintaidenvsheng，tongchangdouyongyougengqiangdezikongnengli，tamensiweigengwanshan，tamengengmingbaizenyangyongxintaizhiwaidefangshiquhelidichuliziyuan。

 hezheixieyongyouyouliangqingxuzikonglidenvshengxiangchu，ninengganjuechuduixiangbingbingbushiyijianxiaohaorendongnengdeshier，fandaohuidaliangdiganshoudaomanzuganheguishugan，nengcongzheiyiduanqingganzhonggengqiangdebeiquanyu。

 nvshengyizhimeirenzhuideyuanyinshishenme？neiyangdenvsheng，jibiankanshangqubuneimahaokan，tamenyeshichongchizhezheyouhuolide，zuoweiyigenansheng，weishenmehuibuqidaizhehetajiaowangni？