我因一时心软拿钱给小叔买房，想离婚又下不了决心怎么办

 xianglihunyouxiabulejuexinzenmeban？renmenkeyizanshimeiyounengli，dantamenbunengmeiyouyongqi。yigemeiyouyongqiderenzairenheshiqingshangdouhuiyourouguaduan，jibuzixinyebuduli。zheiyangderenhenrongyixianrujintuiliangnandejingdi。zongdelaishuo，shenghuojiangxianrujiangju。

 shenghuoxianrujiangjubingbukepa。kepadeshi，nibuzhidaoruhedapoyouxi，niyebuhuidapoyouxi。zheigeshihou，ruguonizhishikuzhenaozhe，nijiejuebulewenti，fanerhuizengjianidetongku。

ruguonixiangdapoyouxi，niyexuyaoshiyongta“poli”suoyi，bijing，renyidingyaoyouyongqi，fouzenideshenghuojiuhuiyituanzao。

 zuotiankandaoyourenzaitaolun“luoci”youderen，youderenshuoluociderenhenxiaosa，youderenluociderentaichongdong，chizaohuiweizijidechongdongmaidan。

 zheizhongshiqinghehenduoshiqingyiyang，keyifenweizhengfanliangpai，meigerendourenweizijideguandianshizhengquede，meigerendourenweiduifangdeguandianshicuowude。

shishishang，henduoshiqingdoubunengyigaierlun，yinweishejiderenbutong，qingkuangyebutong。

 jiuna“luoci”zaizheijianshishang，suiranyouxierendeluocishiyizhongchongdongdexingwei，danbingbushimeigerendouyinweichongdongerluoci。youxierenzhendehentitie。tamenxuanzechiluoluodecizhilaizuzhizijidesunshi，buxiangrangzijiyibeizidouzaiyifentamenbuxihuandegongzuozhong。

 duiyuhoulaiderenlaishuo，tamendeluocibujinxuyaoshensishulv，haixuyaowomenqianmiantidaode“poli”yuchongdongluociderenbutong，weizijizhisunderen，ruguomeiyouyongqi，jiuwufaxiadingjuexinluoci。

 haiyouyizhongren，suirantamenzaigongzuozhongyeyudaolewenti，youcizhidexiangfa，dantamenzuochulelingyigexuanze：ruguotamenbucizhi，tamenbixujianchigongzuodaozuihou，zhidaowentijiejue。

 zuochuzheiyixuanzederenxuyaogengduodeyongqi，yinweicongrenxingdejiaodulaikan，renmenzaiyudaokunnanshiwangwanghuitaopao。zheishiyizhongxinlicengmiandeziweijizhi。suirantamenbuquedingtaopaohoudejieguo，dantamenzongshixiangxiantaopao。zhishaotamenmianqiandeweixianyinggaibimian。

 congzheigejiaodulaikan，xuanzebucizhiersiyugongzuoderen，meiyoushizudeyongqishibukenengde，yinweiyaozuochuweibeirenxingdejueding。

 shishishang，hunyinyushangshugongzuofeichangxiangsi：yuyigerenjiehunyuzhaogongzuofeichangxiangsi；hunyinwentiyugongzuowentifeichangxiangsi；shenzhilihunyeyucizhifeichangxiangsi。

jiranyouneimeduoxiangsizhichu，youxianchengdexiangfagongwomencankao，dangranwomenkeyizhijieyingyong。

 yishangmiantidaodegongzuowentiweili。ruguonidehunyinyeyouwenti，bingqieyoulihundexiangfa，nikeyixuanzeliangzhongfangshi：yaomelihun，yaomebulihun。ruguoniyouyubujue，nijiuhuixianrukunjing“xianglihunquebuganlihun”zainizhaozhong。

 worenshideyigepengyoujingliguozheiyangdehunyinwenti。yinweitayishixinruan，tinglezhangfudefeibang，naoziyirejiubasuoyoudeqiandoujilejiefumaifang。jieguo，dangtahetadehaizixuyaoqianshi，takaishidanxin。

 pozhangfudejiarenbuyuanyihaiqian，tamuqindejiarenyebuyuanyishenchuyuanzhuzhishou。tadezhangfushualegezhonggeyangdeliumang，shuotameiyoubanfa，suoyitajintuiliangnan。suirantaxianglihun，dantameiyoubanfahuiqu，suoyitayizhizaizheili“xianglihunquebuganlihun”zhongyuandixuanzhuanzhuangtai。

xuduorenzaitingdaobierendezheizhongjinglishi，huibufuzerendishuo：“buzhishini，henduorendehunyindouyouzheiyangdewenti。”

 xianglihunyouxiabulejuexinzenmeban？zheishiyigezhengquedefeihua，buyongnishuoyezhidao，henduorendehunyindouyouzheiyangdewenti，guanjianshiruhejiejue，erbushibutongbuyangdeanwei。

zheigewentibenzhishangshiyigewenti“jiangju”ruguoyaojiejue，bixujiejue“poju”。

xianglihunquebuganlihunderenwangwangxinruan，shenzhiruanruohuonuoruoyebuguofen，fouzeyebuhui“bugan”，yebupalangpahu。

 ruguoninengrenshidaozheigegenbenwenti，wentijiuhuidedaohenhaodejiejue。jiranshiruanruodaozhinidehunyinxianrujiangju，nijiubixubaituoruanruo。youliangzhongfangfakeyixuanze，dannizhinengxuanzeyizhong：

第一条路：离婚

 lihunbunengkaochongdong，yinweichongdonglihunwangwangdebuchangshi，kenengdebudaorenhedongxi。lihunyeyinggaiheshangmiantidaodecizhiyiyang。zaiquedingnibixulihunhou，nixuyaozixikaolvbingbatanachulai“poli”lihunjiuhao。

第二条路：不离婚

 bulihunjiuxiangshangmiantidaodebucizhi。niyexuyaozixikaolv，biaoxianchunideyongqi。zhiyouzheiyang，nicaiganzaibulihundeqingkuangxiajiehun“sike”。

 yishangmianneigenvrendehunyinwentiweili。ruguotaxuanzebulihun，taxuyaodapoyouxi，nuligongzuo：takeyizhizaomafan，bazijibianchengyigehuairen，zhidaotanahuiqian；yekeyishiyong“yituiweijin”yaoqiudefangshi，suiranlvexianbeiwei，dannengbaqiannahuilai，yenengdadaomude。

 xianglihunyouxiabulejuexinzenmeban？wulunshizhizaomafanhaishiqitao，tadouxuyaoduizijicanren。ruguotanengfudandeqibingfangxiata，zheizhongcanrenshiyizhongyongqi。dangran，ruguonizaiyuhunyinwentizuodouzhenghourengranbuqizuoyong，nibiewuxuanze，zhinengzoulihunzhilu。