感情需要性吗？爱与性的区别！

 ganqingnengkongzhima？wangyouyouganqingma？zhangqiyilaiyanjiurenleixingxingweiderenyijingzhuyidaorenleidexingxingweishibianhuade、yishouyingxiangde,yinciyouxierenyoushitiyandexingyuwangyuqixingduixiangdetiyanshixiangfande。zaizheilitichuzheiyigejiashe,kenenghuiduicimoshichanshengdeyiwen:xingduixiangshijibenxianzhizaigetisuolianaidehuobanzhongma? ganqingxuyaoxingma？duizheigewentidedaanshifoudingde,yuanyinruxia:

一、性欲和爱情在功能上是独立的。

 ganqingnengkongzhima？jinguanxingyuheaiqingtongchangshixiediaoyizhixingde,danshicongtamenshiyoufuwuyubutongmubiaodeshehuixitongsuojuedingde。jiuxiangsuoshuoxingyushishouxingjiaotizhisuotongzhide,xingjiaodemudezehuishixingyushengzhimudedetongyijiehe。raneraiqingshishouganqinghuozhefuqiganqingsuoxitongzhipeide,zheiyizhongxitongxiadeganqingmubiaoshiyoulianggegetizhijianchijiujiehelaiweichide。

 jinhualilunjiarenweizairenleifazhandehuanjingguochengzhong,ruguohaizizaizaoqiyoufumushuangfangdezhaogu,tamengengrongyicunhuo。bingqiekeyitongguojianliyigechongmanhuolibingqiejiankangdeqingganguanxi,quebaoletongpeiouyiqiwanchengzuijibendexingjiaohuodongheshuangfangganqingsuobiaoxianchudeshehuixingweilaiwanchengzheigemude。henxianranbushisuoyoudejiaopeidoufuhefuqiqinggandegeshi。xingjiaohefuqiqinggandezuijibendeguochengzaigongnengshangdoushigezidulide。pubiandouhuirenweixiangduijindaideburudongwudeshiyingxinglaishuo、congshengtaixueshangshuoduishengzhijiqiaozaiyidingtiaojianxiadelinghuoxingshiyoubangzhude。zheiyizhonggongnengdeduliyunxurenleimeiyouganqingerxingjiao,erqiekeyimeiyouxingjiaoeryouganqing。

 xingyuheaiqingzaigongnengshangshidulidezheigeqiantiyousangehanyi:diyigetimeiyouxingyuyeyinggainengjingliaiqing;diergetikeyitiyanduiqitarendeaiqing,yinweitabingbushiweiyidexingsuozhixiangdeduixiang。huanjuhuashuoyixinglianzheyinggainengyutongyixingbiederenlianai、tongxinglianzheyekeyiyuyixingzhelianai;disanzheizhongxianxiangtongchangzaijinjulijiechuhuozhangshijianshentijiechudeqingkuangxiafasheng。

二、爱情并不是内在的固有的指向同性伙伴或异性伙伴。

 ganqingxuyaoxingma？qianbianyijingzhichuxingxingweibingbuyidingxianzhizaiaiqingdejinglizhongneimejiushuomingaiqingzishenbingmeiyoufangxiang。zheiyigejielunshijiyuaiqinghexingyudejiashedefazhanqiyuan。henzaojiuyourenzhuyidaoxingyufazhandemudeshixingdezaishengchan,suoyihenrongyidechuyigekansihelidejielun(suiranshilingrenzhengyide) :weilexuanzexingdemubiao,getiyinggainulixunzhaoshiheshengyudehuoban,suoyixingyuzaibenzhishangshizhixiangyixingtongbande 。genjuzheigeguandiantongxinglianheliangxingliandexingduixiang(zhishaoshizaimouxieanlizhong) jiubiaoxianchuleduizheigehengliangbiaozhunneizaidetuoli。

 zheijiuanshilejinguanmouxiegetikenengyouwendingdequshiquaishangtongxinghuoyixingzhe,danshizheizhongqushimeiyouneizaidejichu。tamenkenengfanyingzaixingdongshang,dianxingdeshichengnianrenzhixiangyudaozhenzhengdeqianzaidexinghuoban。erdangtiaojianshiheshizheixiegeticainengyuyixinghuozhetongxingzhizhongderenheyigerenlianai。

 wangyouyouganqingma？jinxienianlaichuxiande“hunwaiqing”,shuotamenzhijianyouaiqingzeyouxieqianqiang,huanjuhuashuoyebuguoshi“kuaicanshi”deaiqing;youyuwangluodexingqi,“wanglian”pinpinchuxianmeiyouyuwangquerangbiciaidesiquhuolai。chuantongdedaodewenhuahenanquanzhuyishidedaduonvxingzhongqingqingxing,nanxingzhongxingqingqing(suiranxiandainvxingyousuogaibian) 。meiguozuijindeyixiangyanjiubiaomingaiqingkeyi“dianran”danaolimiandelianggequyu,zheilianggequyuzhijianyurendenengliangheyukuaidexinqingjinmixiangliandanzaiaiqinglailinshi,nanrenhenvrendefanyingshiyouzhequbiede:nvxingdefanyingshilangmanderanerduinanxinglaishuoaiqinghaihui“dianran”yuxingyuxiangguandedanaoquyu。woguodechenyiyunjiaoshoushuo,aiqingshiyuwang、jiqing、jingshenhelizhideyoujijieheshishengli、xintai、meideyuchengnuodewanzhengtiyan。