分手之后想挽留，和男友分手后怎么挽回最有效？

 fenshouzhihouxiangwanliu，henanyoufenshouhouzenmewanhuizuiyouxiao？fenshouzhihou，niyoumeiyouguoyizhongganshou，nichangshiwangleta，quechajuezijiwufaziba，bianshibunengziba，nanyikangju。niyuanyihetafuhe，danshidangwomenxuehuifangxialianmian，xiangtashiruodeqingkuangxia，taquebukenhenizaiyiqi，zheigeshihouniyexucaiyishidao，nishizhendeyaosangshitale。chaochaonaonaodexunhuan，zhizhiyifangwanquanhaoguangleduinidehaogandu，bianweimeifawanhuidejushi，zheiyeshiniyaojiandaodema？neima，qiadangdewanhuifangfashishenmeni？

一、汇总往日，寻找难题的根源

 fenshouzhihouxiangwanliu，duiyiduanbuchenggongdeqinggandehuiyishikutongde，zheiyidianwochedikeyilejie，keshihuiyizhendeshishifenxuyaode，youyuzhiyaochixuhuiyiwangri，dajiacainenggouchixukaizhanziwofansi，nengzhenzhenzhengzhengzhaodaoganqingwentidegenyuan。shijiwomenkeyihuiyizheizhongneirong：

1.nimenzaiyiqideqingkuangxiawucizhengchaodechangjing；

2.shijulingyifangchangchangchizenidehua；

3.fenshoudeshihoudeqingjing；

4.fenshouzhihoutadewugezhuanbianhewugemeibian；

5.wanhuiquanguochengzhongzaochenglingyifangxintaijinyibuebiandeshiqing。

 suihou，womenyaotiqianzhunbeiyizhibiheyigebenzih，bashangbianquanbuhuiyidezhuyaoneirongyongwenbendefangshixushuchulai，suihoumeirikanyibian，shencengciguinapouxi，xunzhaozheilibiandeguanlianxing。erzheilibiandeguanlianxinghenkenengbianshizaochengnimenfenkaidezhijieyuanyin，dajiazhiyaoxunzhaozheizhongyuangu，caikeyiconggenyuanshangchulinimendefenqi。

二、断联，做最好的自己

 xunzhaonantidegenyuanyihou，bubijiqiexiangbierenzhiqian，naizhishiyaoqiufuhe，wojianxinxuduonvhaizaifenshouzhihou，tongchanghuiganshoudaoshenrudekuijiu，zhujianyishidaoyouyuzishenqianyishide“zuo”sunhailelingyifang，zuizhongzaochengzheiyiduanhunyinpolie。zheishijishangfeichanghao，zaizheiliduanqingganzhong，nikeyiyishidaozishendenanti，jiubiaomingnidexinqingzaoyizhujianjianjiandiquyuwending，shizhenxinshiyiyaoxiangwanhuizheiyiduanqinggan。

 erwoweiheshinibubijiqiezaizheigeshihouquzhaotani？youyudajiabixujibiciyigexintaidiaozhengdeshijian，duanlianzuixianbianshijidajianeiyangyigehuancundejiyu。youyu，bulunshitaruguobuaileyeba，aipaleyeba，huoshiwanhuifangshibuduiyeba，huranlailindesuiyiheshineikongjiandoushihuishizheizhongzhuangkuanghuodezhuanhao。

 cizhi，duanlianzaiwanhuizhonggengzhuyaodexiaoguobianshi，weichixinxiangan，tigaohegaibianxianzhuang。youyujinqiyouhenduonvhaizhaodaowodeshihouhuishuo，fenshouzhihouwobingmeiyouquzhaotaa，keshitahuoshimeiyourenhedefanying，yebuhuijijizhaowoliao。yaolejie，dajiazaizheilisuozhideduanlian，buzhishijianyideshinimeiqulianluotajiukeyile，jiaruzaiduanlianqinishenmeshidoubuzuodehua，neimaduanlianjiumeiyourenhedeshijiyiyi。

三、复联，创建份后的感情连接

 zaihelideduanlianhou，ruguoniyongyouchongfendezichanzaicichuxianzaitayanqianshi，zhikaodenghoukendingshibuhaode，dajiahaibixugenjujinyibudeshijicaozuojiechuantadefanying。erxuduoyaoxiangwanhuiganqingdenvxingtongchangzailianluolingyifangzheiyibushangchulecuolou，tamentongchangbuzhigaizenmeyutarengoutongjiaoliu，jiulianjianyidejiechuandouburongyi。nifeijinxinsidewenhao，shijishangzhenghaopululenidexuqiugan，bingqiezaitalaikanbianshibutongbuyangdexiantan，naizhiganjuenijiushizaisaorao，tayexudoubuxianghuiyingni。

 fenshouzenyangwanliu？zheierjiaoweituodangdexingshibianshiyuqinguzong：ninengjitamenfalexinxi，shoujiweixinyebaduanxiaoxiyeba，naizhifaledianziyoujianhaikeyi。jiangnidebuzhengquehuizongyixia，suihoubiaomingjinqiyiduanshijiandouburongyidajiaotale。keshijinji，zaiyongcideguochengzhongyidingbunengtaimenglie，bubitaobizeren，jinjinkeguanxingdelunshukeguanshishi。yebubibahuashuodetaiqueli，wanyilingyifangxinliyeyouyisichiyi，nideshanshuoqicibianshiyinweijishuangfangliuyouyixiekongjian。