40岁女人老公有了外遇该怎么办？

 duiyunianjin40denvreneryan，chaimiyouyanyizhujiandebatamenxunchengle“huanglianpo”，chuleyaoxiaoxindejinshenweihuhunyinwai，haiyaozhuyifangzhiwailaiqinxi。wanyiyoubuxingdeshiqingfashengzaizijitoushang——40suinvrenlaogongyoulewaiyuzhihougaizenmeban？

一、收拾悲伤，好好的生活

 ouyu(35sui，youeryuanlaoshi)：wowenta，40xusuidenanrenweilewaiyuerlihundeshihou， womennvrenzheishigaizenmeban，tarushideshuo，mianduizhezheixiesuishidouyoukenengzhidaonitoushangdeshanghai，nvrenwangwanghennandezuodaobinglaijiangdangyushuilaituyan。danwojuedeyigenvrenbuguanzairenheshihou，doubuyaoweiyigefuxinledenanrenshangxin，yinweizuizhongshanghaideshizijidexin。ruguoneigenanrenyaoshiwuqingde，gengshishanghaibudaotadexin。suoyiyaoshoushibeishang，haohaodeshenghuo。

fouzeruguojixuhulveziji，zhemoleniziji，neimezhenzhengdehuaidanshihuiyouyousheilaichengzhini？

二、现实在当前，选择了隐忍

 qianqian(36sui，gongsizhiyuan)：wodangshiwenta，40suinvrenlaogongyoulewaiyuzhihouwomengairuhe，tashuo：yourenshuo，nvrenzhaoduixiangdeshihouyaozhengdashuangyan，jiehunzhihoujiuyinggaizhengyizhiyanbiyizhiyan。cihuasuiyouxiexiaoji，quezongshijudashihua。nianjin40denvrena，zongshiyoutaiduodewunaiheyali，mianduizijidelaogongdechugui，tamenjishihuihendeyaoyaqiechi、jianjiaofakuang、zalandongxi，tizhedaozaimanwuluanzhuan，danshinihuiguotou，tamenyoubudebukaolvzhehenduodewenti：ruguolihunle，wozheishiyougaizenmeban？haiziyougairuhejiaoyu？shenghuogairuhebaozhang？hainengzhongxinlaizujianhaoyigedexindejiatingma？

 zaizheichangcankudezhanyizhong，tamenzongshichuyubeidongdezhuangtai。yushihenduonvrenxuanzezaizhangfuwaiyu40suizhihou，zuizhong，haishixuanzeleyinren。“maozi”yijingbeikouzaitoushangle，erlihunquebuyidingshidejiejuefangshi，zhinengbazhangfuwaiyu40suidetongkumaizailexinli，zhinengzouyibukanyibu。

 neime，weishenme40xusuinanrenweilewaiyuerlihunni？duizijishenghuodexianzhuanggandaobuman，meiguojiazhoushengdiegedaxuedejingshenbingxuejiaoshoujiaerwen·kelalusuoboshicengjingzhichu，guole40suishengri，bushaonanxinghuiduixianzaideshenghuocenggandaojiujiehebuman，juedeshiyedebushun，hunyinzhongdebuxing，renshenglangfeiletaiduoshiguang，gankaizijiyizhizaixinkufendoumeiyouhaohaoxiangshourensheng，shenzhiduizhouweideyiqiexinshengyuanqi。