母亲怎么挽回婚姻

　　muqinzenmewanhuihunyin，hunyinlidepanbian，jiuxiangyibajiandaocijinguanliandeguanjian，rangzhongduojiazhongshenxianbeishangdewoxuan。yingduilingyibandewaiyu，yourenxuanzeyidaoliangduan，youxierenkunyukuanrongyuyuanqidenitanzhong。panbianzhihoudehunyinshenghuo，haikeyijixuma?zheizhongqingkuangmeiyoudaan，danhuidayexubiwomenxiangxiangdegengjiafuza，yegengjiamanhuaixiwang。

　　一、叛变并不是婚姻生活的“死刑”

　　henduorendourenwei，yidanganqingfashengpanbian，rutongyizhangbaizhiranlemo，shizhongwufafuyuan。danshishishi，panbianbingbushihunyinshenghuodezhongdian，fanershilianxidedazhuanzhe。ziliaoxianshi，yue30%dehunyinshenghuozaijinglilechuguizhihou，jingguobiciqinfenzuizhongzouxianggengwenguzhuangtai。rutongtaoqilielenenggouxiufu，hunyinshenghuodeliefengyekenengzaixiubuzhongrongguanghuanfaxindeshengmingli。zhongyaobingbuzaiyu“hainengbuneng”，ershizaiyu“shifouyouyiliheconghuilaimiandui”。

　　二、叛变其背后的“隐型数据信号”

　　chuguibingbuyidingshiturandi“chuxianyiwai”，fanershiguanlianzhangqixingnantiquanmianbaofa。lirufufuzhangqixingqueshaogoutong，jingshenxuqiuwufamanzu;huozheshenghuoyalizhixia，yifangzaiwaibutanxunfuwei。dangganqingbianwei“sheyoushigongchu”，qinmiganmanmanwailiu，panbianjiujianghuichengweiniuzhuanjumiandejiduanfangfa。yiner，xiufuhunyindediyibu，bingbushichizehuokuijiu，fanershirenqingpanbianqibeihoudezhenzhengnanti：zheiduanganqingdaodichuleshenmewenti?ruguowentimeijiejue，jibianmeiyouwaiyu，hunyinshenghuoyeyoukenengmaixiangdiaoxie。

　　三、再次的前提条件：尊重和真挚的“互相救赎”

　　panbianzhihoudehunyinshenghuonengfoujixu，zaiyubicizhijiande“xiubuyixiang”。beibeipandeyifangyaoqueding：duifangshibushizhenxinshiyihuigai，huoshizhixiangyao“linshifuwei”?erfancuowuyifangyidingyaozuodao：zhenchengjiaodaisuoyouxijie，jijiduankaiyudisanzhedelianluo，bingnenggoujieshouzhangjiude“xinlaifujian”。zheiyiguochengmeiyoujiejingkezou，bixuyicicizhenzhidehuihua、xingdongshangdegenggai，yijishijiandeyanzheng。jinjinzhishiyifangkukuwanliu，lingyifangfuyansaize，hunyinjiuxianglandongdechuan，zhongjiuhuizaiduyanmei。

　　四、宽容并不等于“回到从前”

　　jixudefufu，tongchangshenxianyigewuqu：renweixiufuhoudehunyinshenghuoyao“heyiqianyiyang”。keshishishang，qinshenjinglipanbiandehunyinshenghuo，wubizhongxinjianlixiangchuzhidao。liru，zhidinggoutongjiaoliubiaozhun，tishenggongtongdeshenghuozongtimubiao，naizhixunzhaozhuanyexinlizixun。kuanrongbingbushimochujiyili，fanershifangxiachouhen，yongxindefangshizaicixianglian。rutongyikebeijufengduanliededashu，jibianzaicizhangzhi，shangbahaihuiyizhicunzai，danshuganyehuiyincibiandegengjiajianyi。

　　五、无法再继续的“保持清醒挑选”

　　muqinzenmewanhuihunyin，ziran，bushisuoyoupanbianzhihoudehunyinshenghuodoushizhidexiubu。zhiyaoduifanghaowuhuiyi，zaiciwaiyu;huoshibeibeipandeyifangyizhiwufazouchuxinliyinying，meiyicigongchudouxiangshijiekaishangba，neiyanglijifangkaishouyeyoukenengshibicizhijiandedacidabei。hunyinxuyaodaodedixian，dangxinlaiwanquantanta，mianqiangweichifanerhuirangbicishenxiangengjiashenrudekuchu。zhenzhengdeaiqing，baohandongdezunzhongshifouyounenglizaicizheiduanganqing。

　　六、修复婚姻的“隐型获得”

　　zheixiequdechenggongtaguopanbianheiyingdefufu，tongchangdedaochuhuyiliaodefazhan。zheixierendongdelegengshendudigoutongjiaoliu，zhongxinshenshizijidexuyao，naizhiduiyuhunyinyoulegengjiaxianshishenghuodexiwang。yiweijinglilelaogongchuguidenvxingpengyoushuo：“zhiqianwomenxianghuozaitonghuali，rujinfanergengjiaqingxibicizhijianzijidedixian，gengyoudanliangmianduiweilaidekaoyan。”panbianhenyoukenengcuihuiyiduanguanxi，yekenengchengweiranglianggerenzhenzhenzhengzhengwanshandetupokou。

　　hunyinlidepanbianshiyichangmonan，danzenmemianduimonan，qujueyuguanliandexiachang。zaicihuowanbi，meiyoujueduideduiyucuo，zhongdianzaiyushibushizhongshibicidetiyan，yuanbuyuanyiweixiubutouruzhenzhideqinfen。aidianshijuhaicunzaizhe，xinlainenggoufujian;jiarusunhaiyijingwufaquanyu，fangshouyeshiyizhongbaituo。zuizhuyaodeshi，buyaorangpanbianjiedingnimendehunyin，fanershiyongshijixingdongquedingtajianglai。