出轨男人了 女人咋办?

老公出轨了 怎么办?它是个让全部女人都头痛的难题：他出轨了，离還是离不了?实际上，潇潇洒洒提出分手的，数最多占5%。留到婚姻的，還是大部分。

 qianghanruxilali，meirutongliya，douhuilaogongchuguiyihou，tiaoxuanzaicihunyin。rangnvrentongchudebudandanshichugui，yeshiyihoudeqianxinwankuzhengtuo。yingduilaogongchugui，juedaduoshushurenhuicaiyongsanzhongjiduanhuafangfa：laogongchuguilezenmeban?zhangfuyouwaiyuzenmeban?

1.恼怒地牵扯

2.消沉地忍受

3.zaiqiancheyurenshouzhong，wangfanqifu

結果呢?

瞎忙。

youjuhuashuodedui，fanyushijiaoside，yudoushiweiside。

neiyiduanhunyinshiruhesilede?

yuangubingbushichugui，zhishichuguihoudezhibingquanguochengbutaihao。

难题出在哪里?

yingduichuguinanren，nvrenchanghuiyousanzhongfumianxinxixintaizhuangtai：

tadexinyuwowuguan，wozhihouzaban?(meiyouanquangan)

nandaoshuojiushiwozuodehenchalemeiyou?yaoburantaweishenmehuiyiqingbielian?(ziwohuaiyi)

woaitazheixienian，rujinliantayebukekao，woyenengxinlaishei?(queshixinrengan)

zheisanzhongfumianxinxixintaizhuangtaideshizhi，nenggouyongyijuhualaiguina：

shiquleni，woyigerenchengbuxiaqu。

zaizheiyiquanguochengzhong，meinvmenbuduanzaiwen：

gairuhegenggaiwozhangfu?ruhetahuiduiwomenhao?

zheizhongwentidehexinshi：zenyanggenggainanren。

jiarunanrenjiyubugenggaini?

你就没法了。

 fajuemeiyou，nideyiqiedouyifuyuzailingyigerenshoushang，taxintengniyidian，jiugaoxingjidong，chadianeryaoqiweibu;taduinilengmoyixie，jiushouzuwucuo，juedequanbuquanqiudousangshisediao。

zheibingbushiyiqiezhengchangdehunyinguanxi，gengxiangyongrenyudadizhudeguanlian。

 dangnineixinyeyou“shiquleni，woyechengbuxiaqu”deniantou，neizheiyiduanhunyinjiushishuoshilingde，nijimeibanfawanhuilaogong，yebukehuoqueta。

yaoshimeiyourengeleixingshangdedandu，niganshenme，doushizaiziquqiru。

nishangxinluolei，zhaojiasuku，doushihenyiqiezhengchangde，dannilaiquyuelingyifang，huoshimailigongzuozhongchangshiwangjihunyinkunao……

这种通通不起作用。

zhenshijueceniqingxude，bingbushiniganlenaxie，zhishiniruhexiang。

ruguonideguishugan、xinrengan、shiyongjiazhigandoushiyoutarenjiyu，niderenshengjiuhuiyizhishiling。

renshengyishilinghuibianweiruhe?

ninengjuederenshengdequanbuxingfukuaileyuyouzhedoushixincunjiaoxing，doushilinshiyubugudingbudong，laiyuanyubierendejiyu。

ninengjuederenshengdezaihuohuiyonghuancunyou，doulaiyuanyubierendebulingrenmanyi。

xuduonvrenziyaliezuidishuo：“renmenyuanbenshizhenxingfude，douguaitachugui，yiqiedoujihuile。

zhenduitameneryan，shenghuojiushizheiyangzougangsi，yicichucuo，renshengjiuquanwuqidai。

怎样在不离异的状况下，寻找是的解决方式?

1冻洁

dongjie，jiushishuojiangniquanbudejiuyishi、xintaiyugerenxingweidoulengzangqilai。

yingduichugui，guoduonvrenjiangdisanzheshizuosiduitou，shijishangjiaodadeduishoushinideaimo。

nikeyimanxialai，yiwangjiushinijiezhutalaidedaoguishugan，rujinnikeyiyikaozijidexinlilaizhengdeyuanyideyishizhuxing。

dongdemanxialaidenvren，dabufenyongyouguangmangjianglai，ercaozongbulexinmodenvren，tongchanghuishenxianliangjihua。

2察觉

aiyouerzhong，shehuixuejialuyisifencheng：chuziyubixudeai，hezengyudeai。

rentuanbenshehuixintaixuebizumasiluozefencheng：chuziyupinfadeai，hecunyoudeai。

danbulunruhequbie，shizhidouyiyang：

zengyudeaihecunyoudeai，caishenxinjiankang;

chuziyubixuhechuziyupinfadeai，bushenxinjiankang。

“有你保证……”

“我想你为我……”

“有你务必……”

zheizhongdouguishuyusuoyaodeai，huihanyoubipodeweier，rangzishenmeifachengcai。

jibiannibudui，niyehuisichuzhaoxishengpin，jiangyiwuguijieweitarenshoushang。

weiyounigangkaishichajue，chixuzhanmanxinlidekongbaiye，jiunengrangaizaiciliudongxingqilai。

3寻找问题点

duizhengzhiliao，caikeyichugenhunyinzhongdebingkuang。

zaiziwopouxidejibenshang，zaijiaxintaishudaodengfuzhugongjufangshi，yibubufenlienanti。

4二次吸引

youqudeshi，dangnichongzurenshiziji，yehuirenqingpengyouguanxizhongcunzaidebuzu。

 nizaiquanguochengzhong，yaoyouchongzuxixin，yaoshiyouxindezhuanbian，jilingyifangchanshenglianaideganjue，wanhuiaiqingyejiushunlichengzhang。zhangfuyouwaiyuzenmeban?