假如你的丈夫婚外恋​怎么办?

 zhangfuhunwailian zenmeban?zhongyouyitian，nibujingyizhongfajuenidechuguilaogongle，danzuichunibuganxiangxin，youyunijuedenidelaogongbudakenengduinineimezuo。keshiruguoniyongzishendeshuangyanjiandaotashi，yixiaxiarutonggepiaopodayuqishixiongxiongdedahuilai

 zhongyouyitian，nibujingyizhongfajuenidechuguilaogongle，danzuichunibuganxiangxin，youyunijuedenidelaogongbudakenengduinineimezuo。zhangfuhunwailianzenmeban?keshiruguoniyongzishendeshuangyanjiandaotashi，yixiaxiarutonggepiaopodayuqishixiongxiongdedahuilai，nidexinlitongchumeifaxushu，naizhixiangqiguoduanyisilezhisuanleba。nichangchanghuishimianzheng，bingqieniyizhizaidianjizheta。nizaban?niquandouzuobulai。

chuguinanrenle，yulaiyuguangfanle。tashishiji，bubihuiyan。

 zenmefangdisanzhe?henduonvshizaihunyinjiatingzhongshiyanshifenhenruonaizhidijianderenwujiaose。tamenmeiyoudandudeguannianhegongzuonengli。tamencongmeizaihunyinpolieqiantihuidaoweiji，yinerweijizhenshilailinshitamenjiangyuelaiyuenanyirenshou，tamennaizhihuiyuelaiyueqianchuangbaikong，yipengjiusui。

neima，yingduilaogongdewaiyu，zenyangkexueyanjiudijiejuehunyinpolieni?renmenlaitanyitanta。zenmefangdisanzhe?

1.尽可能维持理智，分辨方式

 nimeifabaochijueduideningjing。zhangfuchuguiwogaizenmeban?yinweiyigerenshizhongyuzishenrushui，jieguojingranyubierenyouguanlian，erqiehaiyanzangdezheibankegumingxinhezhangqi，xiangzhezheileijuedeshishizaitaideexinxiangtu、naonu，yincijingjingdezuozheijianshiqingxianeryijianbushishijide。

 danbuningjingbingbuyiweizheninengfahuo，suihouxiangquanqiuxuanbutadexieegerenxingwei。congmingnvrenyingdanggaoqingchu，naopiqihexunzhaolianminbingbukeyijiejuekunnan。tazongshibatatuidaodisanzheerdewenrouxianglibian，yidedaodisanzheerdekuanweihetiexin，neiyangtacaihuiyuelaiyueyuan。

 yiner，jibianninfajuelingyifangwaiyu，yebubizaishiduofenzhongneibianchenghanfu。fanguolai，jinkenenglejiedangjindezhuangkuang。chuguilaogongduozhangshijianle?younaxieshijiyiyi?biciyounaxieguanlian?zhinengzhangwozhuangkuang，renmennenggouweixiayijieduanchongfenzhunbei。

2.思考自身能否接纳

 laogongdewaiyushitazishendenantima?ninengchucixiangqi：nandaoshuobingbushima?tawaiyunandaoshuohuanshiwodewentima?shijishang，lizhisisuo，renmenjingchangdayingdehunyinshenghuoshizheizhong“0.5 + 0.5=1”fangshi，yinciquanbudeshierdoubukeyijianyixianxiatuiguangdaotashoushang。

 shijishang，nanshengdewaiyutingdashuipingshangyouyumuqiandehunhoushenghuozhangshijianjuyoumaodun。huanjuhuashuo，pingshihudongjiaoliuhegoutongjiaoliuhaowuyiwencunzaidewenti，zheiyinantihuoxushishuangzhongde。yinerjianghuibixuyixiefanshemian。

suihoukaolvdao1genanti：nikeyijienama?

 zheiyinantigengweijiannanheruili，danbuguanzenyangdoubukeyifangzhi，renmenwubiyingdui。jianghuiyoubijiaofuzadeyaosu，baohanxiaohai，babamama，jiazhong，jingjifazhan，zichan，xinyudeng，bingxixinhengliangtamen。dangnibukeyijienata，huoxu，nizhibixutiaoxuanliyijiujiuxingle。

3.挽回婚姻

 daliangnvshihuitiaoxuankuanronglaogongdechugui。zhangfuchuguiwogaizenmeban?huoxu，zheijinjinqianbodekuanrong。shijishang，waiyudailainvrendexintaibahennanyigenchu。huoxutamenzhongjiuburongyiwangdiaozheijianshiqing，dantamenbuxiangyaozaiduo。

 danjirantiaoxuanzaiciguo，nijiupobudeyiyingduidisanzheer，yingduinanyirenshoudehunyinshenghuo，zheibixutingdadedanlianghexinxin。hunyinshenghuoheganqingbingbushiqianxun，qianxunhebeiweidaochenaili，hunyinshenghuochuxiannantiyihou，yebingbushizhaohaoduogehaoguimisuiyiqingtu，jiunenggenggai。congshizhishangjiang，bixuxuanyongkexueyanjiudefangshi 。shuochuanle，tashi1gegenjunanrenxintaipouxidekexueyanjiulicheng。