婚姻和好：夫妻吵架后冷战

　　fuqichaojiahouxianrulengzhan，hunyinbinlinpoliequebuzhiruhepobing? jiliedezhengchaorangbicishanghenleilei，mingmingxiangkaojinqueyouhaipazaicichongtu，hunyinwanhuideguanjianzaiyudapojiangju。cuowudechulifangshizhihuirangguanxixueshangjiashuang，erzhengquedepobingcelvenengzhongxindianranaihuo。huazhenjiaoniyongxinlixuefangfahuajiemaodun，ranghunyinzhonghuowennuan。

　　常见问题：

　　qishixiangzhidaofuqichaojiahouzenmepobing，zuoweiqingganzixunshi，wozaizixunhunyinwanhuideanlishujuzhongfaxian，daozhihunyinchaojiazhuyaoyouyixia6gefangmian：

　　HowTo

　　zuoweizhuanyeqingganxinlizixunjigou，womenjiyushangqiangechenggonganli，weininzongjiechuyixiazhenduifuqichaojialengzhandewanhuibuzhou。zheixiefangfajingguoshijianyanzheng，nengyouxiaoxiufuhunyinguanxi。

　　问题一：情绪失控导致沟通中断

　　jiejuefangan：dangzhengchaofashengshi，danaodexingrenhehuijinru"zhandouhuotaopao"moshi，zheishilixinggoutongjihubukeneng。jianyicaiyong"6-6-6lengjingfaze"：lijitingzhiduihua，zoudao6miwaidedifang，zuo6cishenhuxi，dengdai6fenzhong。zheinengbangzhuqianeyepicengzhongxinzhangkongqingxu。zhihoukeyiyong"sanmingzhigoutongfa"：xianbiaodalijie("wozhidaonihenshengqi")，zaishuozijideganshou("wogangcaiyehenzheji")，zuihoutichujianyi("womennengbunenghuangefangshiliao")。mubiaoshirangshuangfangcongqingxunaoqiehuandaolixingnaozhuangtai。

　　问题二：翻旧账的恶性循环

　　jiejuefangan：xinlixuezhongde"caigenikexiaoying"gaosuwomen，weijiejuedemaodunhuibuduanfuxian。jianyisheli"maodunjishiben"，bameicizhengchaodehexinwentijiluxialai，meizhougudingyige"maodunjiejueshijian"zhuyitaolun。taolunshizunshou"yishiyiyi"yuanze，yong"guoqu-xianzai-weilai"kuangjia：chengrenguoqudewenti("shangciwoqueshizuodebuhao")，mingquexianzaideganshou("zheiciwoxiwangwomenneng")，guihuaweilaidezuofa("xiaciwomenkeyishishi")。mubiaoshijianliwentijiejuejizhi，bimianwentiduiji。

　　问题三：冷战中的关系僵局

　　jiejuefangan：genjuyilianlilun，lengzhanshidianxingdehuibixingyingduifangshi。pojiedeguanjianshichuangzaoanquandelianjiejihui。keyichangshi"jietishipobingfa"：diyitianfatiaoguanxinduanxin("jidechiwufan")，diertianfenxiangyouqudeshi("kandaozhihenxiangzanmenyiqianyangdemao")，disantiantichujutixuqiu("nengbangwozhaoxiachongdianqima")。meicihudonghoujiyuduifangshidangkongjian。mubiaoshizhongjianqingganlianjieyoubuzaochengyapogan。

　　问题四：信任感严重受损

　　jiejuefangan：xinrenzhongjianxuyaojinglirenzhi、qinggan、xingweisangecengmiandexiufu。jianyishishi"90tianxinrenzhongjianjihua"：diyigeyuezhezhongyanxingyizhi(shuodaozuodao，napaxiaoshi);diergeyuezengjiatoumingdu(zhudonggaozhixingchengdeng);disangeyuegongtongwanchengxinrentiaozhan(rubazhongyaoshiqingjiaojiduifangchuli)。guochengzhongyaoyunxuduifangchayan，danbuguoduzizheng。mubiaoshirangxinrenxiangjirouyiyangtongguoduanlianzhongxinqiangzhuang。

　　问题五：亲密感持续下降

　　jiejuefangan：xinlixuejiayuehan·getemandeyanjiubiaoming，richangde"qinggantoubiao"juedingguanxizhiliang。keyikaizhan"3×3qinmilianxi"：meitian3cijijiguanzhu(renzhentingduifangshuohua)，3gezhitijiechu(paipaijiandeng)，3jukendinghuayu。meizhouanpai2xiaoshi"zhuanshushijian"，jinxingxuyaoxiezuodehuodong(yiqizuofanhuopintu)。mubiaoshizhongjianqingganyinxingzhanghude"cunkuan"。

　　问题六：原生家庭介入矛盾

　　jiejuefangan：jiatingxitonglilunzhichu，fuqixuyaojianliqingxidebianjie。keyishishi"huanchongdaijihua"：diyibutongyilichang(womenliangxiandachenggongshi)，dierbumingquefengong(sheifuzeyunafanggoutong)，disanbusheliguize(rufumulaifangtiqianshangliang)。yudaogansheshicaiyong"ganxie+jianchi"huashu("xiexieguanxin，womenhuichulihao")。mubiaoshijianli"womenvswenti"erfei"wovsni"delianmengguanxi。

　　zheixiefangfaronghelerenzhixingweiliaofa、yilianlilunhejiatingxitongzhiliaodengxinlixueyuanli，jingshijianyanzhengyouxiao。jianyigenjujutiqingkuangxuanze2-3gezuipoqiedewentizheshou，jianchi6-8zhoujiunengkandaomingxiangaishan。ruxugexinghuazhidao，womendehunyinzixunshikeyiweininliangshendingzhixiufufangan。

　　花镇2023年数据显示：

　　zhenxingfenshouwanhuichenggonglvyufenshouyuanyinqiangxiangguan，jiazhiluochaxingwanhuilvkeda71%，yuanzebeipanxingjin9%。