第一次约会注意事项 6个细节不容忽视

　　dasuanfenshouzenmefaxinxijita，zaiwomenzaoyufenshoudejuedingshi，youshihouwufazhijiemianxianglingyifang，yincitongguofaxinxilaichuandazheiyixiaoxibianchengyizhongxuanze。danshi，zenyangqiaomiaodebiaodachuzhunbeifenshoudeyongyi，queshiyigexiweiqiemingandehuati。dajiaxuyaoxunzhaoyigejunhengdian，jiqidaichuandizhenshideqinggan，danyoubuxiangshanghaitarendezizunxin。yiner，zaituisongfenshouxinxiyiqian，kaolvyixiayixiajigefangmian：zuixian，xuanzeyigeheshidejihui，baozhengshuangfangkeyipingjingxialaijieshouzheiyixiaoxi；cizhi，lijiertanchengdibiaodaniganshouhequeding，danyeyaozhuyiyuqidewanzhuanyuzunzhong；zuizhong，kongchushiduyudi，bianyuxiaoxinchulilingyifangkenengyoudegeleifanying。zairucideqiantixia，womenkeyijizijigenduifangzaojiuyigexiangduipingjingdefenshouquanguocheng，jinliangbimiansunhaihetongku。

　　表达真正感受：

　　dasuanfenshouzenmefaxinxijita，zaiquedingyubanlvfenshoushi，zenyangtongguoxinxichuandiwomenzijideyongyishiyigexuyaoshenzhongkaolvdeyinsu。zaidechuzuihoujuedingyiqian，shouxianniyaoshensishulvzijidezhenshiganshou，bingmingquedingyifenshoudezhuyaoyuanyin。zhiyoudangwomenduizijidejuedingyouzugouderenzhilejiehou，dajiacaikeyigengqingchu、gengyouxiaodibiaodachuqu。yiner，zaijibicifaxinxiyiqian，baozhengzijiyijingchongfensikaobingzhunquedibawozijideganshouhequedingshishifenzhongyaode。

　　选择适当机会：

　　xuanzeyigeheshidejihuiyiyangyeshihenzhongyaode。quebaozaiduifangzhengmanghuoxintaibuhaodeqingkuangxiaqutuisongfenshouxinxi，yinweitamenkenenghuijiangdilingyifangjienaxinxinengli，bingkenengdaozhixinxidewujie。fanguolai，tiaoxuanyigeanjinghexiangduilianghaodehuanjing，baozhenglianggerenzhijianyougengduodeshijianyukongjianlaifenxizheigezhongyaonanti。

　　选用委婉地语言表达：

　　zaituisongfenshouxinxishi，zuihaoshiyongweiwandiyongyuheyudiaolaibiaodazishen。bimianzhijieerlengkudibiaoda，jinkenenglijieduifangdeganshouhezizun。womenkeyigenjuyanyuzhongshidangdeguanaihelejielaihuanjiexinxichongji，yucitongshiyekeyijiangdiduifangfangyuxinli。biru，womenkeyicongwodejiaodukaolv，tanrandibiaodachuzijiganshouhedanyou，tongshihaikeyitanjilingyifangdailaidehaochuhuoshibicizhijiandeganji，yicijianqingxinxizaochengdeshanghai。

　　给予适当的解释说明确立的心态：

　　fenshouxinxizhong，bujinyaobiaodachuzijiganshou，haixuyaodechukexuedejieshihequelidexintai，yifangzhilingyifangdecaicehedanyou。queqiedibiaoshufenshoudezhuyaoyuanyin，jinliangjianshaomohubuqinghuohanhubuqingdebiaoda，yifangzhijibicidailaigengduocaixiang。yucitongshi，womenyeyinggaibiaodachuzijidejuexinheyongqi，nengrangduifanggaoqingchuzheiyebushiyishichongdongdejuece，ershiyinweijingguoshenzhongkaolvdedaodejieguo。

　　呈现尊重与理解：

　　zaifenshouxinxizhong，dajiayingjinliangbimianzeguaibierenhuoshiguoduoshanghaitarendeaiqing。zhanshichuduifangdehaogennimenyiqijinglidegaoduzhongshi，tongshihaiyaolijieduifangdejianyiheganshou。jinguanwomenquedingfenshou，yeyaoyipingjing、lixingdexintaiquchulizheiduanganqingchedijieshu，bingliuxiayigelianghaodeyinxiang。

　　为彼此留有室内空间和解释缺口：

　　zuizhong，zaituisongfenshouxinxiyihou，jibiciyixieshijianyukongjianlaixiaohuazheiyixiaoxi，yejizijiyixieshijianlengjingfenxi。duifangkenenghuiyougezhonggeyangdefanying，baohanjujuejieshou、youshang、naonudeng。womenyinggailijieduifangfanying，bingzaibiyaoshijiyushidangdehuifuhejieshi。yucitongshi，yexuyaolijieduifangdejuece，buyaoqingyiquyindaohuodiaozhengbierendexiangfa。

　　dasuanfenshouzenmefaxinxijita，zaituisongfenshouxinxishi，womenyinggaizhencheng、zunzhongyulijie，qinfenjiangdiduibicidesunhai。zheiduanganqingchedijieshuhenyoukenengshitongkude，dantongguoshidangdefangfahexingweiqubiaoda，womenkeyiweiduifangliuyouyigegenghaodezhuiyi，bingweijinhoudegongchuguanliandiandinggengwengudeqianti。