冷爱：能成为情感专家的人都在感情上受过伤害吗？

　　fenshouhouputongpengyouzenmexiangchu，shiyizhongchuzaidutebianyuanguanxi。jinguanaiqingyijieshu，danyiranqidaibaocunbicizhijiandeyouyi。zheigeshihoujiuxuyaobicibicizunzhong、lejiehejiaoliu。jianliquelidebianjie，buhuizaitaolunyiwangdeqingxu，fanershizhuanzhuyugongtongdexingquheaihaohuatitaolun。fangzhizhengchaoheqingxuhuaqingjing，yipingjingdexintailaikandailingyifang。lijieduifangsirenkongjian，danshiyeyaoyoushidangdeguanhuaiheguanxin。fujianyouyixuyaoshijianheqinfen，danzhiyaoshuangfangdouxiang，jiunenggongtongzouguozheiduanlvcheng，jianliqizhenzhengyiyishangdepingpingdandanerbaoguideyouyi。

　　建立一个新的共同爱好

　　fenshouhouputongpengyouzenmexiangchu，fenshouhou，buguanaiqingruhejieshu，weichiputongpengyouguanxixuyaoshuangfangdenuliheyitongyixiang。danzaibaochizheileiguanxideguochengdangzhong，yizhongzuijiandandefangfashijianliyigexindegongtongaihao。xunzhaoyixiangshuangfangyouxingqudehuodonghexihao，binggongtongzhuiqiuta，keyizengjinbicidelejieyuhudong。youbieyuyiwangdeaiqingguanxi，genjugongtongaihaodechuanlian，pengyouzhijiandelianluonenggougengjiashunchangyuziran，xiezhubicimanmanhuifuhetigaoguanxi。

　　尊重对方私人空间

　　zaifenshouhou，weichiputongpengyoudeguanxi，bixujiyubicizhijianchongzusirenkongjianyuziyou。hunyinganqingchedijieshu，shuangfangxuyaoshijianququanyuxinlingdechuangshang，zhongxinshenshizijiheyihoudeluxiang。lijieduifangdejuecehezijuexing，bubiguoyuzhizheyiwangdeqinmiguanxi。jiyubicichengzhanghefazhandekongjian，jianxinlianggerendeweilai。

　　建立一个新的沟通方式

　　fenshouhou，henduorendouhuizaoyuchedigaibiangoutongfangshiwenti。yiner，jianliyigexindegoutongfangshihenguanjian。genjuxuanzeshihezijideshejiaogongju，birumianduimiandejiaoliu、shouji、duanxinhuoshejiaowangluo，xunzhaochushihebicizhijiandefangfa，bingjianliyouxiaodegoutongxiguanxing。zaigoutongdeshihou，yaobaochilizhiyouyihedexintai，fangzhizhengchaoheqingxuhuaqingjing，jinliangjianshaopengchumingandewenti。zuizhongyaodeshibicilingtingyulijie，jishijiejue，yiweichiyoushandeguanxi。

　　设置确立的边界

　　zaifenshouhouweichiputongpengyouguanxi，shezhiquelidebianjieshihenzhongyaode。zheijiuyiweizhebicibixubicizhijianlijiehezunzhong，fangzhitaoluncongqiandeqingganyutongku，bingbazhongdianfangzaijianliyigexindeyouyishang。shezhijiexianzeyiweizhebicibixuqingxiyuanzehedixianhechengdu，bunengrangcongqiandeaihenjiugeweihaidaorujindeyouyi。ciwai，yaozhidaobubihuxiangyilaitaiduo，weichishidangdeguanhuaiheguanxin，erqiejinliangjianshaojingshencengmiandeqianshe。

　　不断优化和适应

　　weichiputongpengyouguanxixuyaobuduandiyouhuayurongru。fenshouhoudeyouyikenengmianlingezhongtiaozhanhetiaozhan，erbicibixuxianghuzhijianbaorongyulijie，weiyouyidegaizaojiyushijianhejihui。zaizheiguochengzhong，qinshenjingliyiqichengzhangbianhuayeshizhengchangde。yiner，bicishizhongbaochibaorongdexintai，xiwangzaiyouyidaolushangbuduanxiangqian，erqiejianxinbicizhijiandenulihegenggai。

　　汇总

　　fenshouhouputongpengyouzenmexiangchu，fenshouhouweichiputongpengyouguanxishiyixiangxuyaonaixinyunulirenwu。genjujianliyigexindegongtongaihao，zunzhongduifangsirenkongjian，jianliyigexindegoutongfangshi，shezhiquelidebianjie，jiqibuduanyouhuaheshiying，nenggoubangzhubicizaicijianliqipingfanerbaoguideyouyi。zuizhongyaodeshi，chixubaochibaorongdexintai，yongshanyihezhenxinduidailingyifang，weixindeyouyidaxiajianshidejichu。