不懂得区分包容与忍让的女人 总会受尽委屈

 henduonvrenchangchangzai aiqing lifenxiangqingchubaorongyurenrang，yushizaiganqingguanxizhongzongshishouweiqu。jintianwomenlaijiangganqingzhong“baorong”he“renrang”dequbie，yijiruhecainengrangganqingjinruliangxingxunhuan“zhengzhengdezheng”。

话不多说，上菜：看故事。

 yigezhoumo，xiaoazaijiaxianzhewushibianxiangzuozijidenashouhaocaijilaogongchi，zuodaoyibanshifaxianjialimeiyoushengchou，biandadianhuaranglaogongdaishanglai。laogongdaying5fenzhonghousongda。

 xiaoaxiangzhezijimanyidezuopinjijiangwancheng，shuliandedaogongdiaochuaidexingzhuang，neicaiserangrenyikanjiuweileizhanfang，coujinyiwendandandexiangqiqinruxinpifuxianglianpian，fangrushejianmanmanganshouziweizaizuilimanyan，huiweiyouzhang，zaiweileidejizhizhanfangxia，laogongdeyanjingyuelaiyuemingliang，dingdezijilianfanhongguang....

 “laopo，niyaodejiangyoujinimailaile，zheitianqiredewoquanshenshihan。nizuoleshenmehaocaia，wa，weidaohaibucuoe。”laogongba“shengchou”fangjinxiaoadeshouli，zoudaoguobiannaqiyikuairoushuodao。

 xiaoacongzijimeihaodehuamianlichulai，kanzheshoulidejiangyounuhuonanxiao，xinlixiangdao：“ninengbuzheimechunma，wohaoxinjinizuocai，wodouxianghaolewomenjiexialaiyaofashengshenme，jieguorangnimaishengchounijuranjiwomailailelaochou，ninengbuzheimechunma，zhu!!"

"woaita，wobunengshengqi，shengqishibuhaode，woyaorenxialai，bunengzhizeta，buranshuangfangdouhuibushufu。

 xiaoaxinlilianggexiaorenzaidajia，zuizhonglizhiyingle，xiaoarenzhefennushuo：“laogong，nimaideshilaochou，woyaodeshishengchou，nizaijiali，wozaixiaqumaihuilai，mashangjiukeyichifanle。”

记住小A的内心对话，这是关键线索。

shijianlaidaoyizhouhou，haishiheshangciyiyangdeshijian，zhoumo。

 xiaoarangzhuzaixiangxiademamajilaileyixietujidan，fangzailouxiadekuaididian，ranglaogongxiabanhuijiayiqinahuilai。zhengzongdetujidane，yingyangjiazhifeichangdegao，haojiudoumeiyouchile，xiangxiangxinlijiuyouxiechan。

 laogongjintiangongzuoshangyeshouhuoleyidaxishi，zijidexinkunulizhongyuhuanlailezhiweishangdejinsheng。jinianle，zhiqianzongshiyinweizheiyangneiyangdewenticajianerguo，xianzaizhongyudechangsuoyuan。pobujidaidexiangshunjiandaojiaheqinaidexiaoalaiyigedadadeyongbaoyiqifenxiangzheigexiyue。yushinashangjidanyidaposhijiejiludesudubenhuijia。

 dakaimen，kanjianxiaoawanzheyaozaituodi，huaizhebunengyizhidexinqingyegubushanghuanxie，paoguoqubaxiaoabaoqilaizhuanquan，zijijinshengdexishihaimeichukoujiutingdaoshoulidejidanheqiangbixiangzhuangfachucuixiangsheng。zheiyishengyexiangqiegejiyiyangqieduanlefuqijiandegoutong。

 xiaoazhengtuokailaogongdehuaibao，xinlihuodongxunsuwancheng，kuaidaoxiaoadouyishibudao，zuilidehuajiuyichukou：“nishibushiyoubinga，zuoshiqingzheimemaoshi，zheishiwozhuanmenrangwomajinidaidetujidannibuzhidaoma?”

“baobei，meishier，wozaijinimai。”

 “zheibushimaibumaidewenti，nizuoshiqingzongshizheiyang，shangcirangnimaishengchounijiwomailaochou;jiwozuofanchijieguorangwoladuzi;nijiwoanmo，woyetongleyigexingqi。”

“neinixiangzenmeyangma?”

“nihaiwenwoxiangzenmeyang，nizijizuodeshiqingnidecuozainalinizijihaibuzhidaoma?“xiaoaweiqudekuleqilai。

laogongzhanzaiyuandi，shushouwuce。liangjiu，tuikaimenzouchulejia。

xiaoatiwen：“xianglaoshi，wobaorongtazheimeduotagenbenjiubuzhidaogandong。woxianglihun。”

 wodehuida：wodehexinshiweilaifangzhedeliyinuli。dangnibazijideshiqingzuohaole，ruguoduifangbulvxingzijideyiwu，neiwoxiangnishizhaocuoleren。danshizaizheiliwoxuyaochengqingyixia“baorong”he“renrang”dehexinguanxi。

budongdequfenbaorongyurenrangdenvren zonghuishoujinweiqu！

一、包容是爱，忍让是怕

baidubaikeshangdejieshi：baorongshibaohanherongna，renrangshirenruqianrang。

 zaiyiduanguanxili，baorongshiwonengjienani，jiandanlaishuojiushiwodeshijiehenda，nikeyiyouhewobuyiyangdezuofahuoxiangfa，womenbuyiyangyebuyidingchanshengchongtu。renrangshiwoweiledadaomouxiemudeerzanshixingdegerangzijideliyi。changjiandeshiweilewomendeguanxibubeipohuaierxuanzerangzijishouweiqu。

 biruxiaoa，laogongmaicuoleshengchourangzijijuedehenshengqi，danshiweilebu chaojia ，jiubashengqiyazhixialai。zheishirenrang。

 neiruguoshibaorongni，baorongdexintaihuodongshi：wojialaogongzhenkeai，zheimedaderenjuranhaifenbuqingshengchouhelaochou，yijinlaihaitouchi(touxiao)。baorongdexingweishangshi：zhenshigexiaokeai，nibietaizheji，caihaimeishuni，woqumaishengchou，dengwomaihuilaizuohaolezaichi，guaia。

baorongdehexinshitadeyiqiedoushiwoxihuande，napashineixiehenzhinendexingwei，wodouxihuan。

二、包容得爱，忍让得恨

 zheigeshijieshiyimianjingzi，niruheduidaibieren，bierenyehuiruheduidaini。xiaoadeqingxubengkuibushiyinweijidansuilezheiyijianshiqingzaocheng，ershiyouyuxiaoawujiele“renrang”jiushi“baorong”，zhangqileijideqingxudaozuihourongrenbulecaizhijiebaofa。

 guanyubaorongyurenrang，womenhuanyigejiaodulaikan，duiyutalaogongeryan，tazuihouyeshixinzhongxinxupengpai，danshimeiyouxuanzehexiaoazhengchao，zheiyeshiyizhongrenrang。

leisideshiqing，xiaoazuoguobushao。

 meicideshiqingsuiranyousuojiejue，danshiqingxuquemeiyoubeiguji，duocideweiqudiejiaqilai，yejiuyoulexianzaixiaoaduilaogongdexiexuhenyi，rongbudezaiduoyidiandeqingxu，ganqingrongbudebandianshiwu，jinrulengdasuoshuode“fumiansanjiao”。

zheiyeshiwoshangpianwenzhangjiangdaodezhengzhengdezheng，fuzhengdefu。

三、如何把忍让转换成包容?

 suhuashuodehao，dadaoliwoyehui，danshiyoujigerennengzuodaoni? shuoshihua，xiangyaobadadaoliluodihaizhenbushiyijianrongyideshiqing。womenkanbingshiyishenghuitongguozhengzhuanglaipanduanbingdegenyuan，zaiganqingzhongyeyiyang，huiyou“xianxiang”he“dongji”，zhiyaozhangwohaolezheilianggeci，luodijiubunan。

 xianxiangshifashengdeshiqing，biruxiaoalaogongxingfenbuyibaoqixiaoanongsuilejidan，zheishixianxiang。 neidongjishishenmeni?dongjishilaogongzaihuxiaoa，xianghexiaoayiqifenxiangzijijinshengdexiyue。

womenbashiqingzailiyibian：

1、xiaoaguanxinlaogong，jilaogongzhunbeilefeichangyouyingyangdetujidan;

2、xiaoalaogongzaiyixiaoa，xianghexiaoafenxiangzijidexiyue;

3、laogongbuxiaoxinnonghuailexiaoazhunbeideliwu。

womenbuhuiguyishanghaiaiwomenhezhongshiwomenderen，chufeimeikandaoai。

xiaoakandaole1zijizhunbeideliwuhe3laogongnonghuaileliwu。

 ruguonengkandao2laogongzaiyizijisuoyixianghezijifenxiang，neixiaoadechulishiqingdexianhoushunxujiuhuixianchuli2，zaichuli1he3。shiqinghuibiancheng：“wa，laogongnishengzhile，taibangle，wohaokaixina(qinqin)。danshiwojinizhunbeideliwuhuaile，wohenxinteng。”

 laogongkandaoxiaoadeai，takenenghuishuo：“meishi，guoliangtianwodainihuijiaqukankanmama，zaijialichi，woyeyaobashengzhidehaoxiaoxigaosuyuemu。zou，jintianwoqingnichidacan。”

kandaolema?shiqingjiuzheiyangbeiqingyidejiejuele。

 dangwomenkandaoshiqingdedongjibingqiekendingledongji，zheijiushiaishizhengxiang，bazhengxiangzaisanfachuqu，zheiyangjiunengdedaozhengxiang，zheijiushizhengzhengdezheng，aibianhuizainiwozhijianliudongqilai。

本文作者 ：xiangming， ，shanzhanglianaiwanhui，tuodan，zhangqiguanxiweihu，hunneiganqingxiufu，jiatingdonglixiufu。