情感咨询：交往多久的情侣可以考虑留宿呢？

　　weishenme40suidenanrenrongyichugui？zheiyiwentidaozhilegaoduguanzhu。zaizhongnianshiqi，nanshimianlingezhonggeyangxinlizhuangtai、shenglixueheshengcunyali，rushiyefazhandeduanban、jiatingyalidehouzhongjiqishenfenrentongdekunjingdeng。zhongzhongyinsuxiangfuxiangcheng，shitamenyishouwaijieyouhuo，shiqubenlaiduihunyindezhongcheng。yiner，zhangwo40suinanrenfeichangrongyichuguideyuanyinzhenduiweichijiatingwendinghegerenxingfuyouweizhongyao。

　　人生低谷所引发的自我迷失

　　40suishiyigemingyundezhuanzhedian，jingchangbansuirenshengdigudelailin。zaizheigejieduan，nanrenhenyoukenengjuedeziwojiazhidezhiyiheshenfenrentongdeyihuo。tamenkaishikaolvrenshengyiyiyumubiaoshibushiwancheng，duizishendeguoquyuweilaiganjuemimang，jinerhenrongyichanshengxinlidebuanhebumanyi。zheileiziwomishideganhuirangnanrentanxunyizhongxindedecijixingfengan，shidetamenhuixianruwaiyuyouhuodangzhong。

　　日常生活中的反复枯燥

　　gongzuozhong、jiazhong、yiwudengzhongfurichangrichangshenghuokenenghuishinanrenjuedewuquheyayigan。40suinanrenyijinrudaoyizhongxingyefazhandepingjingqi，gongzuoshangyinggaimeiyouxintiaozhan。danzaijiazhongrichangshenghuo，tamenchengdanjianfuzhezhaoliaojiatingzeren，danqishihenshaohaiyoujihuizhuixunxinzhongdemengxiangyuxingqu。zhenduiqipantanxianhecijideyouxinanrenlaishuo，zheileifanfukuzaodeshenghuorongyizaochengtamenzhuiqiucijidexingshi，qizhongyebaokuowaiyu。

　　自我价值的改造与认证

　　40suinanrenzhengchuzaiyuzhiyejiatingshenghuodezhongyazhixia，tamenzaoyugezhonggeyangqixuguiding。haoduorenqidaizaigongzuoshanghuodegengdadezaojiu，yucitongshihaiyaomianlinqijiatingzerenhepeibanernvdemeirirenwu。zheiyeshidetadeziwojiazhihezizunxingchenglehendadeyali。zaizheiyangdeqingkuangxia，zhaodaoyigewaiyumubiaojianghuichengweiyizhongtuolixianshi、fujianziwojiazhidexingshi。waiyumubiaoduiyutamendechengzanheshangxi，keyimibuneixinshenchudekumenhebuquedinggan。

　　与伴侣的沟通不到位与情感缺失

　　zaihunyinshenghuozhong，40suinanrenjiangmianlinyubanlvdegoutongbudaoweiheqingganqueshiwenti。suizheshijiantuiyi，fuqijiandereqinghenyoukenenghuimanmanxiaosan，cengjingdetianmizhujianbiandepingpingdandan。ciwai，yalihejingjifudanyeshinanrenqianqueyubanlvyiqifenxiangshijianhejingli。zheiyangdeqingkuangxia，nanrentongchanghuixunzhaojingshendejituo，xiwangdedaoguanzhuyubeirenlijiedeganjuele，erwaiyubianchengdadaozheizhongxuqiudetujingzhiyi。

　　社交圈子的变化和神秘感要求

　　suizhenianlingzengzhang，40suinanrendeshejiaoquanzihenyoukenengfashenggaibian。tamendelaoyouhuoxuyijingchengjialiye，yongyouzijideshejiaoquanzi。yucitongshi，bansuizhezhiyeleixinglidefazhanqushi，tamenkenengyudaoxinrenjijiaowangguanxijiyu，zheiqunrenhenyoukenengjuyouyingxianglihexingfengan。zheileixinxianganhebuyiyangshejiaoganshouyinqiletamendetansuoyuwanghechuangxinjingshen，shitamenyizaoshouwaiyuyouhuo。

　　汇总

　　weishenme40suidenanrenrongyichugui？buyiyangderenqunyouzhebutongdeyuangu，danrenshengdigu、fanfukuzaofaweiderichangrichangshenghuo、ziwojiazhidegaizao、yubanlvdegoutongbudaoweiheqingganqueshijiqishejiaoquanzidebianhuaheshenmiganyaoqiu，shi40suinanrenfeichangrongyiwaiyudeqianzaixingyuangu。zhangwozheixieyinsu，nengbangzhuwomennenggougenghaodifangfanhechulihunwailiannanti，weihubaoyangyigejiatingdewendingxinghexingfukuaile。yucitongshi，duinanrengerenlaijiang，yeyaoyishidaozheizhongqianzaixingyaosu，tishengrenzhinengliheqingganguanli，qinfenweihubaoyanghunyinhejiatingxingfu。