女人情商低怎么办

 qingshang shilianghaodedaodeqingcao，shiziwojili，shichizhiyihengderenxing，shitongqingheguanxintarendeshanliang，shishanyuyurenxiangchu，bawozijihetarenqinggandenenglidengdeng。ruguonvrenqingshangdi，shishibushunxingaizenmeban?

一、处理自己消极情绪的能力

 kongpazheishiqingshangguanlizuizhongyaodeyidian：ruheyouxiaodeguanliwomendefumianqingxu，shiqibuhuiyingxiangdaowomendezhengchangshenghuohepanduan。yaoxianggaibianwomenduiyuyijianshideqingxu，shouxianyaogaibianwomenduiyuzheijianshiderenzhifangshi。

二、面对压力时，冷静对待的能力

jihurenrendoujinglizheshenghuodeyali。yalizhixia，zuizhongyaodeshiyidingyaobaochizhenjing。yixiashijigeduice：

 a.ruguoniduimourenshengqibuman，zainihuishuoyixierangzijihouhuidehuazhiqian，shenhuxi，ranhoucong1shudao10。daduoshuqingkuangxia，dangnishudao10deshihou，nijiunengzhaodaoyigegenghaodegoutongfangfa。ruguoshudao10hounihaishishengqi，neinijiugaizanshilikaizheigewenti，denglengjingxialaizaitaolunzheigehuati。

 b.ruguonigandaojinzhang、jiaolv，podianlengshuidaolianshang，huxixiexinxiandekongqi。dangwomenchuyujiaolengdehuanjingxia，jiaolvshuipinghuiyousuoxiajiang。qianwanbiehehankafeiyindeyinliao，tamenzhihuirangnigengjinzhang。

 c.niyaoshigandaohaipa、jusang，shishiyixieyouyangyundong。(kuaizou、manpao、paobu、qizixingche、youyonghehuachuandoushiyouyangyundong。)jizijiyixienengliang。womenshiyongzijishentidefangshihendachengdushangyingxianglewomendeganjue。dangnizaitiyanshentidehuolishi，nidezixinyehuiziranzengzhang。

 d.ruguonigandaopibei、kunhuo、tingzhibuqian、haowulingganshi，bufangzoudaoshiwai，qingkongyixianidedanao。rangzijibeidaziranbaoguoba，nidexinziranjiunengpingjingxialai。

（女人情商低怎么办 ）

三、读懂各种暗示的能力

 neixiejuyougaoqingshangderenpubiangengnengjingquedijiedutarendeqingxu(congduifangdezhitiyuyan、koutouyuyanhebiaoqingzhong)。tamenyegengdongderuheyouxiaodizaigoutongzhongbiaodazijidexiangfa。nikeyizheimezuotigaozheixiangnengli：

 a.dangwomenzaiduifangshenshangkandaoyigewanquankanbudongdebiaoqingshi，zaizuorenhejielunqian，xiangxiangyixiangzhishaoliangzhongkenengdejiedudaan。biru，nidepengyoumeiyoujinihuidianhua。yishi，tahulveni;ershi，tataimangle。zaijiedutarenxingweishi，womenxuyaoqugexinghua，zheiyangjiunenggengkeguanyixie。fangzhibimiantarendeyidabanfajiushidakaizijideguandianyushijie。

 b.xuyaoshijiuwenqingchu。ruguoyoubiyao，jiuyaohaohaoxunwenduifangdaodiweishenmezuolezheijianshi。niyinggaitiyixiekaifangshidewenti，ru：“wohenhaoqi。ninengbunenggaosuwoweishenme.....”bimianzhizeyupanduan。

四、坚定且在必要情况下能表达困难情绪的能力

 “yaoxiangzuoziji，nijiuyaochangkaixionghuaidebiaodanizijirenweizhongyaodeshiqing，womenxuyaolichangfenmingdibiaodachuzijidejiexianherennaidefanchou。“—— harriet lerner

 qingshangdiderenchangchangbudongderuhebiaodazijideqingxu。zaiwomendeshenghuozhong，youyixieshihou，yidingyaojizijihetarenshezhijiexian，fouzebierenjiubuzhidaowomenzaiyideshishenme。zheijiuyiweizhewomenxuyaolianxiqubiaodafoudingdeqingxu。nixuyaozaibuganjuedaoxiukuideqingkuangxiaduibierenshuo：“bu!”youshihou，bawomengengzaiyideshiqingfangzaishouwei，zhengqunidefuchusuoxudechoulao。zheiyangnijiuhuishaoshouzhemoheshanghai。

neidaodiruhebiaodazheiyangdeqingxucaishiqiadangdeni?

nikeyiyongxyzfangfa——dangnizaixdeqingkuangxiazuoyzheijianshiwogandaoz。yixiashiyixielizi：

“woqiangliegandao，woyinggaizaiweigongsifuchuneimeduodeqingkuangxiadedaogengduoderenke。”

“zuotianchiwancanshi，dangniquxiaowodeshihou，wogandaohenshoushang。”

 jizhu：qiejizaijuzilishiyong”ni“zuoweikaitoushuochunidezenan。biru：“niyinggai”“nibixu”。yinweizheiyanghuirangqingtingzhegandaobeimaofan。zheiyangtamenjiugengbuyuanyitingnishuole。

五、在亲密关系中表达个人情绪的能力

yaoweihuqinmiguanxi，jiuxuyaoyouxiaodebiaodachuwenroudeaici。

 xintaixuejia john gottman renweiqinmiqinggandebiaodashifenzhongyao。zheishirenheyizhongweilegengqinmideguanxierzuochujijilianjiedexingwei。

 koutoushang：“jintianzenmeyang?”“ganjuehaome?”“woaini”“wohenxinshangni”“nizheimeshuodeshihou，wokexihuannile”“wohengaoxingnenghenigongduzheiyangdeshiguang”“nishirucidehao”“zhendehaobaoqian”deng。

zhitishang：jijideyanshenduishi，yongbao，weixiao，shuangbeiquanzhuduifangdejianbang。

 xingweishang：jiduifangtigongshiwu、yinliao;yigejingxinzhunbeideliwu;bangyigemang;gantongshenshoudeqingting。zheixiedounengshidenimendeqingganbiandegengjin。

 genju john gottman deyanjiu，zailianghaodeguanxizhong，yitiannei，shuangfanghuizuochushangbaicizheiyangdejudong。chixude、bianhuandeduiaidebiaoda，jiuhaobishiaideweishengsu。