情感咨询：男友为什么不愿意跟我结婚？

　　faxianlaogongjingshenchuguilezenmezuozuimingzhi，zaiwomenfaxianlaogongjingshenchuguishi，womengairuhemingzhidijiejuezheizhongqingkuangni？zaiduiyuzheiyangdezhuangkuangshi，womenyinggailengjingfenxi，biaoxianchulewanshandechulifangshi。bubijinghuangqueding，ershiyinggaitanchengjiaoliu，xunqiulejiebicineixinshenchudeyuangu，yeyidingyaoduitihuikaizhanqingtu。zaizheiguochengzhong，yaobaochilizhihelizhi，tongshihaixuyaojiandingbuyidebaohuzijidezunyanjiexian。jieheshijiqingkuang，dajiakeyicaiyongshiyidefangshijiejuenanti，rufuqigoutong、xunqiuzhuanyezixun，huoshizuihouzuochushidujuece。zuizhuyaodeshi，womenyinggaijianchibuxiebaohuzijixingfuhezizun，zuochuzuimingzhidetiaoxuan。

　　怎么看待发觉配偶精神出轨

　　faxianlaogongjingshenchuguilezenmezuozuimingzhi，yingduifajuepeioujingshenchuguidexianxiang，womenyinggaibaochilengjing，yibaohuzijidexintaihefuqiguanxi。xiabianketigongyixiejianyi，xiezhunizaizheigenijingzhongzuochuzuimingzhijuece。

　　1. 接受现实，接纳状况

　　zuixian，dajianiyaoyongganzhimianxianshi，yishidaopeioudejingshenchugui。zheiyinggaishiyiduanshifenjiannandechujing，danjienashishishixiangqiantuijindediyibu。zhongzhixiaojibeiguanhekuijiu，fanershiyaoquedingyishidaolezheishiyigehenideguanlianxiangguanwenti。

　　2. 寻求适用与理解

　　zaizheiyangyigejiannandeshike，xunqiushiyongyulijieyouweizhongyao。heyaohaodepengyou、qinrenjizhuanyezixunguwengongxiangnideqingxu。youxierenlingtingnidexinsheng，keyitigongxinlizhichihezhongkenjianyi，bangzhuzijijianqingtongkuyuyiyuqingxu。

　　3. 保持理性，防止极端行为

　　zaidiyicifajuepeioujingshenchuguishi，womenkenenghuijuedenaonu、fennuhepanbian。danshi，zuizhongyaodeshibaochilixing，fangzhijiduanxingwei。bimianduipeioukaizhanchize、weixiehuobaochou。zheizhongxingweizhihuijiazhongwentisunhai，duixiufuguanximeiyouxiezhu。

　　4. 沟通与了解

　　chuangjiankaifangshidegoutongdefangshi，shizhelejiepeiouxinlideyuanyinjidongyin。henyoukenengjingshenchuguishenhoucunzaihenduofuzawentihejingshenxuqiu。genjuzhenchenghuihua，xianghuzhijianlingtingbierendexiangfa、tihuihejianyi，womennenggenghaodilejiebicizhijian，xunzhaochuliwentidezhongyaotujing。

　　5. 寻求技术专业协助

　　zaiduidaipeioujingshenchuguiwentideshihou，jishuzhuanyexiezhunenggoutigongzhichiyuzhichi。hunyinzixunshihuoxinlizixunshiyongyouzhuanyezhishihejineng，nenggoubangzhufufuchulikunhuohetigaogoutongjiaoliu。tamenkeyibangzhufufuzaicilajinguanxi，bingtigongzhangqixinghunyinshenghuoweixiudefangfahejiqiaotiyi。

　　6. 保护自己的界限和自尊

　　zaiduidaipeioujingshenchuguiwentideshihou，baohuzijidejiexianhezizunshishifenzhongyaode。bubihulvezijidexiangfayuxuqiu，jibianshizaijiejuehunlianwentishi。jianshouzijidebiaozhunhesixiang，bubiweifanzuorendedixian。ruguogandaonanyishihuai、xiufuguanxihuozhaodaoxinlai，zuochushihezijiguanlijueceshifeichangbiyaode。

　　7. 确定是否必须完毕关联

　　zuihou，womenyinggaijieheshijiqingkuangheneixindexiangfazuochuqueding。bulunshiyuanliangtahouzhongxinjianlilianxi，haishixuanjieshuhunyin，douxuyaoshensishulv。kaolvdaohunyinshenghuodekechixu，zijideaiqinghexinlijiankangjiaoyushizhuyaoyinsu。jilao，zuochuduizishenyujiatingzuihaodejuedingshizuiguanjiande。

　　faxianlaogongjingshenchuguilezenmezuozuimingzhi，yingduipeioujingshenchuguidejiongjing，womenyinggaiyilizhihemingzhidexintaijiejue。genjuxunqiushiyong、renzhihejishuzhuanyexiezhu，bingweichiduizishendezunzhongyujiexian，dajiadoukeyizhaodaochuliwentihebaituokunjingzuihaodefangshi。buguanxuanzeshenmeyangde，zuizhongyaodeshijianchiziwoneixindexiangfahemeihao，fujiangenghaodeshenghuo。