恋爱困惑：应该选择爱你的人还是你爱的人

　　nvshengyumoufenshouyibanduojiu，zheizhongqingkuangdaozhileguangfandetansuoyuwang。shijishang，nvshengyumoufenshoudeshijianyewangwangqujueyuqingxudebianhuahegerenjibenqingkuang。youyixienvshenghenyoukenengxuyaotourujirihuojigexingqideshijianqushensishulv，pingguzijidetihuiheduiweilaideqidai。danshi，yeyouyixienvshenghenyoukenengzaojiuzaifenshouzhiqianjiuyijingzhujiananzikaolvdao。zuizhongyaodeshi，meigerendouyoubutongdechulifangfa，buguantamendagaiduozhangshijianlaizuochujueding，douyinggaibeizunzhongyulijie。buguanyumoufenshoushijianshizaiduanzanxinghuoshiyouzhang，guanjianzaiyuweilexunqiuzijideaiqinghelingrenmanyi。

　　nvshengyumoufenshouyibanduojiu？

　　kaolvdaofenshou，shisuoyourenzaiganqinglikenengmianlindeyigeguanjianshishikeke。danduiyunvshenglaijiang，tamenquedingfenshouxuyaotouruduojiu，zaiyuhenduofangmian。xialiejiangbutongjiaodulaitantaozheizhongqingkuang。

　　心态条件的限制

　　心灵深处的波动和期待

　　zaiganqingli，nvshengdeqingxubodongkenenghuizhishitamenkaishisikaofenshoudegailv。dangaiqingzaoyucuozhehuoshiheduifangdeqiwangmeifaxiangfuheshi，nvshengxinlingshenchudebodonghuijiazhong，zheishihoutamenyibanhuikaishikaolvyaobuyaojianchixiaqu。zheiyijieduankenenghaixuyaotamenhaofeiyiduanshijian，laisikaoyubanlvdexiangtongzhichuhemaodun，yijiduiweilaideqidai。

　　内心深处的矛盾和挣脱

　　nvshengzaijuedingfenshoushi，tongchanghuiqinshenjinglineixinshenchudemaodunhezhengtuo。tamenhuihengliangzijidexiangfa、banlvdeyoudianhequedian，jiyufenshouyouguandezhuduoweihai。zheiyiguochengkenenghaixuyaotamenhaofeiyiduanshijian，laidiaojieduozhongyaosu，yizuochuzuihoudequeding。

　　个人成长的考量

　　追寻个人成长的向往

　　nvshengyumoufenshoudeshijianyehaihetamenduiyugerenchengzhangdexiangwangxiangguan。youyixienvshengkenengjuedexianjieduandeguanlianshufulezishendechengzhangkongjian，tamenqipandandu、zhuixunxinzhongdemengxiang。zaizheiguochengzhong，tamenhuihaofeishijiansisuoshibushifangqixianjinguanlian，yizhuiqiugerenchengzhangdehaojihui。

　　人生观和价值观的矛盾

　　youshihou，nvshengquedingfenshoushiyouyuyubanlvderenshengguanhejiazhiguanfashenglechongtu。tamenyehuifaxianzijihebanlvzaizhongyaodeguannianshangchuxianfenqi，biruduiyuhunyin、jiazhong、gongzuodengderentong。zaimianduizheiyangdechongtushi，nvshengxuyaoshijianlaisisuoshibushihaiyaojixuyubanlvgongtongfendou，huoshitanxungengfuhezishenguanniandebanlv。

　　nvshengyumoufenshouyibanduojiu，zongdelaishuo，nvshengyumoufenshoudeshijianyeyousuobutong，zaoshouxintaizhibiaohegerenchengzhangdekaoliangchanshengdeyingxiang。youyixienvshenghenyoukenenghaofeijirinaizhijigexingqideshijianqushensishulv，erlingyixiezeyoukenengzaifenshoudeshihoujiuyijingzhankaileneixinshenchudemaodunhezhengtuo。buguandagaiduozhangshijian，quedingfenshoushiyizhongyongganxuanze，nvshengxuyaobeizunzhongyulijietamendequeding，youyurenrendouyouzhipeiquanxunzhaozijideaiqinghelingrenmanyi。