热恋中怎么判断男人是否把你当备胎？

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　　软弱与分手的威胁

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　　负面情绪的发泄

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　　害怕和不安的源泉

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　　希望得到关注和重视

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　　建立新的沟通交流和认可

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　　探寻问题的本质和对策

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　　寻求专业协助

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　　复建稳定与互相照顾

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