我的网恋不靠谱，应该如何挽回老公的心

　　benshenyouwentidenvrengenyigenanrenlianaiduojiuhuifenshou，zaiganqingzhong，zishenyouwentidenvrenyuyigenanrengongchushijianzhangduanbingmeiquedingxinghuida。danshi，zheihuajieluleyigeshiji，jidangyigenvrenzishencunzaidewentishi，talianaiguanxiyexubuhuizhangjiu。gezhongwentijiangbaokuoqueshaozixin、bugouchengshu、guoduyilaibierendeng。zhongzhongyinsukenenghuidaozhibenshenyuairendemoca，zaochengguanxiehua。danshi，meigerendeqingkuangdoubuyiyang，gebiechayihenuligaibiandounenggouweihaitanlianaidejielun。yinci，jinguannantinvrenjiangmianlinjudadetiaozhan，danwufapanduantamenyuyigenanrenlianaideshijianye。

　　失调的期望造成矛盾更新

　　benshenyouwentidenvrengenyigenanrenlianaiduojiuhuifenshou，liangrenzaiyiduanganqingzhongxiangdedaobutongdedongxi，bunengdadaodegongshi，neixinshenchudemaodunzhujianjiashen，zuihoukenengzaochengfenshou。

　　lianaiguanxizhongcunzaigezhongqiwang，jiangbaokuoduiaiqingdezijintourushuiping、guanxindexingshi、goutongjiaoliudegongzuopinlvdeng。dandangyifangshiyigezishenyouwentidenvrenshi，taqiwangkenenghuiyinxingweifangshi、jingshenxuqiudebudangerbiandeshidiao。biru，takenenghaixuyaoguoduguanxinhuoshiguoduyilailingyifangqumibuneixindemeiyouanquangan。dandangzheileibupinghengdeqiwangwufamanzushi，tayexukaishichanshengmaodunhebuman。

　　zheileimaoduntongchanghuimanmangengxin，yinweishuangfangzaiganqingzhongdouxiwangbierenkeyimanzuzijiqiwang，dandangyifangbunengmanzulingyifangdeyaoqiushi，huichanshengmocahechongtu。erduiyuyigezishenyouwentidenvreneryan，tayexugengwufashiying、rangbuhuoshidiaozhenghaozijideqiwang，kenenghuidaozhimaodundebuduanshengji。takenenghuizaiwuxingzhongzengjiatayali，shituyongcaozonghuoshishiyalaiwanchengzijideqiwang，erzheizhongzuofajingchangjiazhonglelianxideebian。

　　自我认同与不安宁心态导致不能创建平稳关联

　　zishenyouwentidenvrenwangwangquefaziworentongheqingxukongzhinengli，zheijiudaozhilianaiguanxibuwendinghefenshoudegailvtisheng。

　　qianqueziworentongdaibiaozhetakenengbunengquelizijideyaoqiu、jiazhiyujiexian，feichangrongyimishiziwozaiganqingzhong。tayexuhuibuduandishuncongduifangqiwang，erhushilezishenzhenzhengdexuqiuhetihui。zheizhongxingweiwangwanghuiyinqixinliqiangliebumanhejinzhang，dangzheizhongyalijudashi，tayexuxuanzefenshoubingxunzhaozuiheshidelianaiguanxi。

　　chucizhiwai，buanningqingxushidaozhifenshoudeyigezhongyaoyinsu。zishenyouwentidenvrentongchangqingxurongyibodong，kenengqinshenjinglixinqingdiluo、kongjuheqingxubengkuidengzhuangkuang。zheiyangbulianghaodeqingxuqingkuangduilianaiguanxizaochenglejidadegongzuoyali，henyoukenengnengrangduifangjuedechengshoubuzhuhepibei。zhangciyiwang，gezhongqingxudebuquedingxingkenenghuishilianaiguanxiwufachixu，zuizhongzouxiangfenshouzuizhongdejieju。

　　自我提升自我改变的概率

　　suiranzishenyouwentidenvrenmianlinfenshoufengxian，danshitamenhaiyoujihuigenjuziwotishengziwogaibianlaijianliwendingdelianaiguanxi。

　　tanlianaibingbushiyichengbubiande，dajiadouyouchengzhangziwogaibiandegailv。zhenduizishenyouwentidenvreneryan，genjutigaoziworentong、suzaoqingxukongzhinengliyuxuexichuangjianjiankangdeshenghuoqiwangdengfangmiandenuli，tamennenggaibianxianzhuangdexingweimoshihejingshenxuqiu，jinertishenglianaiguanxidewending。

　　chucizhiwai，jianliwendingdelianaiguanxiyexuyaoshuangfanggongtongfendouyulijie。dangtamenxiangyaoyuairenkaizhanyouxiaogoutong、chuangjianbicizunzhonghezhichengdeguanxishi，fenshoudegailvjianghuijianshao。yucitongshi，yeyaolingyibandebaorongyulijie，gongtongchengdanyuyiwu，weiguanliandewendingyingzaolianghaodeziranhuanjing。

　　benshenyouwentidenvrengenyigenanrenlianaiduojiuhuifenshou，yiner，jinguanzishenyouwentidenvrenlianaiguanximianlinfenshoudekaoyan，danshitongguoziwotishengziwogaibianjianchibuxiedenuli，yijishuangfanggongtongdenuli，tamenyiranhaiyoujihuijianliwendingdelianaiguanxi，bingyuairenyitongmianduishenghuozhongdekaoyan。