花镇情感：这样表达需求感让爱越作越甜

xiaoyachulaiguangjiegouwu，huazhenqinggan，bujingyizaimalubiandeyijiadianneifajuelezishenxiaidexie，kebatakaixinhuaidiao：

“aiyo，taipiaoliangle!bianshitale!”

tayubabunengdikanleyoukan，youtuoxiaxiezilaibuduandeshiyifu，erzheiyiqie，doubeilaobankanzaiyanzhong。

小雅问老总：

“zheigeduoshaoqiana，woyaole。”

老总撇了她一眼：

“yiqianer，buzhekou。”

xiaoyayankanbulingmin，bianhelaobansichanlanda，laozongzheicaisongzui：

“suanla，nvhaiwokannishizhenyaoxiang，neiyangba，rangnipogean，yiqianyi，niquzou，zheijianzhidaodedixianle。”

xiaoyapengzhezheixinxiegebilinjuxianbai，xiangbudaogebilinjuyitingjiumengle：

 “tianna，najiapinpaixiedianyizhiquanshinenggouzhekoude，womenqudeqingkuangxiajiusuanbingbushidazheqilai，yedounengshengxiadahaojibaia，xiaoya，nichidakuile!”

xiaoyayixiazijiulengzhule。

 dadaolishuodaozheier，ninyedongle，xiaoyagenbenbuyinggaiyikaishijiusidingzhuzheixinxie，laozongzaoyikandechutafeidezheixinxiebunengle，yuemoyuebiaomingtayaodingle，jiranzheiyang，zongzhidaijiaergu，bierenbuzhuannizhuansheini?

zheidadaolifangdaotanlianailibian，yeshiyiyangde。

 niyaomeirangbierenxiaixihuanni，huazhenqinggan，niyejiuxianmingxiandexianluleduibierenyouqu，zaizheileizhuangkuangxia，lingyifanghuiyishunjianganjueyougongzuoyali，youyali，zuibianhenyoukenengbuyongshuo，keshiyehuicongneixinyingduinizaochengbiyile。

有的人跟我说：

“nandaoshuowozhaonanshengxianliao，jiusuanshipuluxuqiuganle?”

 jijizhaonanshengxianliao，shijishangjiudengtongyutiaodongxi，wenjiaqianyiyang，zheiquanshihenyiqiezhengchangdedongxi，bingsuanbushangpuluxuqiugan。

 eryidanniyizhizainanshengmeiyouhuiyingnideqingkuangxia，nifengkuangdefaguoxuduo xinxijitamen“nizaiganmani?”、“shuijuele?”、“ganshenmebuhuiwo?”、“woneimexihuanni，qingbiebuliwoa!”

 neicaichengweipuluxuqiugan，nideyijuyidongdouhuiduitashuo，shiwoduoqipanyunixianliao，niyifenzhongbuhuiwoyenanaodeyaorenmingle。

xixinkanyixiaxiabiandejige，nishibushizhongdanle?

taiguokaojinlingyifang，ranglingyifangxianzhujuededaoniduitayousuochayi;

taijijilianluota，pinlvgao，pinciduo，tahuiyiju，nilikehuiwuju;

shashidoutingcongta，tayaoxingchen，nibujiyueer;

qianquexiangfa，shashidouzhengxuntadejianyi，haoxiangliletanirichangshenghuodoubukeyizili;

yizhichangshizhuyaobiaoxianzishendedao guanxinhuorenke;

bubujinbi，lirubierenhuiniyoushigairi，nilikezhiwenlingyifangneijiujingshinatian。

 fangxin，yidannineiyangganle，nanhaierduininengmengranxingweisuoran，jiusuantayuanbenshiduinihenganxingqude，yehuirangnitishengdiannanduxishu。

 tahuijuedezongzhinidouneimaxiaiwole，neinijiuhaohaodizhuiba，zhuishangnayitianwolingrenmanyile，zaikaolvdaoxubuxuyaogennizaiyiqi。

 yinci ，dajiatebieqiangdiao“bubipuluxuqiugan”，zhendeshineiyangde，bubijinideyishichongdonghaileni，zheidanshizongshirangdaozuidejiayafeizoude。

neima，ruheyinzangxuqiuganni?

dajiacongyixiajigefangmianxueqi：

1、lejie“gongpingcaisuanshizhuiqiuwanmeiganqingdejindao”。

 xuduo nvsheng，yidanxiaishangmouyigaolengnanshen，xinlijiuyouyizhongmingxiandexinyuan，zheileixinyuanbaohandanbuxianyufangkuanrongdadu，duilingyifangyiweidehao，meishimeikeqiangualingyifang，zhidenglingyifangyigeshujuxinhaoniyejiuhuiyiwufangudepuyiwang。

shuoyigeyouqijiduanhuadeshili，bianshi《tianlongbabu》zhongdeyoutanzhiheazi。

 youtanzhidiyicikandaoazi，shizuoweiqidannupudezhenshishenfenheazipengmiande，zhiyouguizheningwangazi，diercipengmian，tayeshipuyiwangqinazidejiao。

 congyikaishi，youtanzhibazijifangdaolebeiweidaochenailidebuwei，danshizheileitingcong，bingmeiyoujiyoutanzhichanshengnaxiehaodejieguo。

shijishangnvshengzhuinansheng，yeshiyigedadaoli。

弗洛依德说过：

 “tangruorenrichangshenghuozaiyizhongfaligenggaidetongchudangzhong,bianhuijiermishangzheileitongchu,batashizuoyizhonghuanle,bianyuhelixingzishendejingyu，cushizishenhaoguoyixie。”

 xianshishenghuozhongziranburongyiyousheixiangyoutanzhiyiyang，zuodeneimaguo，keshidijiandexiangnianzheyigeren，beilingyifangdepianyanzhiyuchudongzhe，shiyizhongtongchuyoupianyaoxingfudeganshou。

 keshi，zheileixinlizhuangtaiburongyijinihuodenizhenshixiangyaodebeiguanxin，beizhongshi，naizhishishenai，tazongshijinibianchengbeiyongtai。

 yinci ，ruguonibennengfanyingdizaochengyiqie“shengehualingyifang，dihuizishen”xiangfayihou，nixuyaogaozhizishen，niaita，danjuebuxiaoyuta，jiaqiangzheileirenzhinengli，yigongpingnaizhishaogaoyulingyifangdezishichuxianzailingyifangyanqian，caikeyizhenshidehuodeganqing。

aiqingdedingyishixianghuzhijianyangwang，dangtayangwangnini，niyejiudangrankeyihuodenizhenshixiangyaodedongxi。

2、xuehaoyanzangxuqiugan。

 ruguonixiaishangyigenanhaierdeqingkuangxia，shunlichengzhanghuiyaoxianghelingyifanggoutongjiaoliu，zaiyiqi，qinjin，yehuiyaoxiangbeilingyifangguanxin，tengxi，weijie。zheizhongxuqiugan，shibansuizheziranhuanjingshunlichengzhangzaochengde，nanyibeiwanquanxiaochu，keshiwomenkeyiyanzangta，rangtabujizishendexingdongzaochengfumianxinxigongxiao。

zheier，youyizhonggaizhengdefangfahenfeichanghao。

 nizhaohaoduogeguanlianzuihaoshideyixing，badajiachupengdecishu，xianliaozhanbi(bianshiyicihuihuazhihoudajiaweixinliaotianjiludefenbiehuihuazhanyoulv)，yunidezishi，yuyanjixialai，suihouzaijiluyixiazishenheaiderendehuihuacishu，fenbiezhanyoulv，zishi。

 bizhaoyixia，bianyimuleran，ninengfajue，yuanxianzainiaiderenyanli，suirannihenyoukenengrengzaijieliyangai，keshinixuqiuganchongpei，zhenduixinghenqiangdemoyangzaojiuzhilule，rutongxueyuanzaiguanzhongxishuaxinyan，yizhitaobuchujiaoshidehuiyanyiban。