花镇情感咨询师骗局吗？长久甜蜜的恋情到底是如和维持的？

 yiqiannagebucilaokutingnidanxintiaoxuanchishaderen，huazhenqingganzixunshipianjuma？rujinsuikoushuochudeshi：“nidaodixiangchisha，gankuaide”，zhiqiannihuoxuhuimaimengdegentashuodao：“qinaidenijiwoxuanyigema”errujinqueyangtoufantayigechaofeng，jixukanlaidan。

 yiqiandajiawuhuabushuo，changchangxianliaoliaodetianming，dianhuayidayigeduozhongtou，meiyicibixulianlianbushederanglingyifangxiangua，rujindetaquebiancheng“xianzaoxiyitian”，“yongcanchiyizhou”“jiabanjiadianjiabangeyuezuoyou”de“damangren”。

 yiqiantahenbuneng24xiaoshidougennizhandaoyiqi，bugaoxingtahuimashanghongren，shengqileshitaxiantuoxie，rujintaquewuyuanwugujiuxiangjingjingdi，“jingjingshishei”zheijuhualiannidouwenfanle。

 youshihouyoudianerxiaofenqi，sanleba，fangfoyebuhui，meishenmeyuanzewentidenanti，genghekuangxianghujianyebunengshuoruguobuaile，busanleba，youbugan，youmubiaogenmeimubiaoyiyang，sheiyebuyuanxiayibeizijiuneimepingpingchangchangdeguoxialai。

 zhishangzheizhongshifouxianzaidenizhenglijingde?shijishangqingganmanmanguirupingpingdandan，bingbukongbu，kongbudeshiganqingzhengbeisuiyuexiaomodaijin，danniqueshushouwuce。

 nirengranhaishenaizheta，tayebuyidingbuaini，neidaodidajiahaishifoukeyishizhongfanreliandexingfu，zenyangcaikeyishitazaicigaoduzhongshinilei?

 (“qingganpingpingdandan”denantigairuhejiejueni?zenmezuocaikeyirangnanyougenggaoduzhongshini，huazhenqingganzixunshipianjuma？gengtiexinni?jiashangwodezhushouzixunguwenshoujiweixinrangtalaiduinishuohuida。)

 xinlixuezhuanjiayuehanxun.sitengbogedeaiqinglilunjuede，zhenzhengdeaiqingyousangejichubianchenggoucheng：qinmiwujian，reqinghezhongshi。

 qinmiwujianbaohanjiqing、lejie、goutongjiaoliu、shiyonghegongxiangdengganqingguanlianzhongpubiandetedian。qinmiwujianshilixingde，reqingshixingdehuanqihechongdong，shiyizhongzhuguanyinsuhuoshixuexidongji，zhongshijiushizhitoushenganqingheqinfenweihubaoyangganqingdexinxin，shizhizhuyaoshirenzhinenglixingde。

womenkeyibizhaozishendeqingganxiankuang，nenggoutigaodeshiqinmiwujian，reqinghuanshizhongshi，suihouduizhengzhiliao。

jinrijiugendahuoergongxiangsangetigaoyouhaodu，jinizhongfantianmeilianaideshizhanyanlianfangshi。

1、bawonanhaizidesiweifangshi，zuodongtaderen

 nanrenlaiyuanyuhuohua，nvrenlaiyuanyujinxing，nanhaihenvhailuojisiweidechabiesuichuyoucikejian，dadaosiweifangshizaocheng decezhongdiandechabie，xiaodaogouwudetiaoxuanquxiang，doushuonvrenxin，haidizhen，danniyejiuyidingzhangwonanhaizideniantouma?

 hunyinguanxizhong，dajiayizhilizaizishenshijiaoqulejielingyifangdeyuyanhegerenxingwei，xianghulejiehou，genghuiganjuewosuofenbiande，jiushitayaoxiangbiaodadeyisi。

 liruxueshengdadanmeinvrenti，jiandaonanyouxiabanlehuidaojiahuixinsangqi，yiyanbufa，yincijiuwentazenmele，dannanyouquejinjinmanbuzaihudehuiying“ng，meishier，meiyoushenme”

 yuefaneiyang，dadanmeinvrentiyuefaganjueyidingshifashengshenmeshishier，yincichixubiwen，nanyouhuanshiquandoubuyuanshuo，haishuo“meiyoushenmedashier，nibuyaowenle”

 dadanmeinvrentizongsuanjinbuzhudongnu：“chanshengshenmele，niyejiubukeyigenwoshuoma，neiyangfuyanwohaiyoumeiyoujiangworuguonidenvyou，shuochulaiwocaikeyibangniyiqifentan，nirujinzheigeshishenmexintaia”

 ernanyouyehenzhirugudebaofale：“dougennishuolemeishier，gongzuozhongzaoyigoufanle，jiubukeyirangwoyigerenjingyihuima，feizhiwenwoganshenme，nandaoshuowoyebukeyiyouyidiankongjianma，shashidouwubiyaoduinishuoma”

 guohoudadanmeinvrentirengzaixiangwomaiyuan“wobenlaijinjinxiangguanzhuta，taqueyijianshiailibuli，juebulingqing，naizhiyijianshidahoudajiao，jiaoshinishuowozuobuduima?”

 dadanmeinvrentihenanyouziranyemeiyoufancuo，yigebuyuanbahuaiqingxuchuanranjilingyifang，lingyigeyaoxiangguanzhulingyifang，danweihejiufashengzhengzhileni?

 youyunvrenshanyugongxiang，younaxiebugaoxingdedouquxiangyuxiangshenbianrenqingtu，yinci taqidainanrenyeneiyangxiangtashushuo，ernanrenzhenghaoxiangfan，dangtaxiaochenhuoshipengdaonantideqingkuangxia，huiyuelaiyueyishiqingjing，zuanrutazuisimidedongkuli，qinfenxunzhaofangfancuoshi，erqiebuqidaisuoyourendajiao。

 yinci dangnanrengennishuotaxiangjingjingdiqingkuangxia，jiuyaotajingjingdidaihuier，huazhenqingganzixunshipianjuma？jianxintanenggouchuli，shidangdejitamenjili，kaolvtazhenshideqingganxuqiu，neiyangtahuiganjuenihentiexin，nishidongtade。

 erlejie，goutongjiaoliu，shiyongyeshiganqingzhongqinmiwujiandeguanjiangouchengbufen，jinyouyuejiaowang，lingyifangyueganjuenineigedongtabingqiezishendeqingganxuqiuzainizheiershinenggouhuodekaolvde，tacaihuiyulaiyuyikaoni，ganjuenibuketidai。

2、junhengbicidexuqiugan，rangjiaowangshufuqingqingsongsongqilai

 guanliandangzhong，jinyoutouru，huoshishilingyifangjinyousuoyaodehua，shizhongjiuyaobuchenggongde，youyubupinghengdeqingkuangzhujiulejidadegongzuoyali，bixujianqing。dajiaguanchazheixiemaixiangtichufenshoudelianren，liquhuoshishizhongduanqingganderen，tongchangshishenmejienaguoduodeyifang。

 yinci ，xiaobaobaomenshensishulvyixia，zishenzaizheiliduanqingganzhong，shiguishuyuxuqiugangao，huanshixuqiugandideyifang，jiaruguogao，neimafeichangrongyichuyubeidonghedijian。

jugejianshaoxuqiugandeshili：

 yiwangdajiajiaowangni，quanshinizhufan，lingyifangzaoyichanshengxiguanxing。jinrinanyouhuijiale，quefajuemeiyoufanchi，ninengshuo“jinriqiyejiabanjiadianganlegexinxiangmu，shizaishihenleimeiyouhuolizhufan”，yikaishitahuiganjuemeiyoushenme，erqietingjianzheiyitayehuizaihuni，guanzhuni。

zhidaodierci，disanci，neiyanghurandegenggaihuishitashouzuwucuo，tahuixiang：

“shifouwonaerzuodebudui?”

“tazhiqianbushizheiyangde，jinqishizenmela，weihehuranfashengbianhua?”

 neiyangdeyilvfandaohuitishengtaduiniderenzhidu。genjugenggaishenghuoxiguanxing，tisheng taduinidexuqiugan，shitalejie，ganqingquxiangpingpingdandandeqingkuangxia，bujintahuini，dajiayiyanghuichuxianyanfanxinlizhuangtai。

 zaiqingganzhong，qingshanggaodenvren，tadelizudianbingbushi“zenyangcaokongnanren”zhishi“zenmeguanlizishen”，tagaoqingchu：nishinaxiedenvren，jiunengxiyinzhunaxiedenanren。