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 jinqi，youhenduopiaoliangxiaojiejiemendoujinruletianmeidelianaiqi，jiezhongerlaideyouyouyigenanti：huazhenqingganzixunshipianjuma？weihepengyouquangezhonggeyangxiuenai，erzishendenanyoudeweixinpengyouquanquecongbusagouliang?

jiexiaqudajiajiucongshehuixinlixueshijiaolaijieshiyixiazheiyijianshierba。

shuodaozishendenanrenbusagouliang，neimazuixianyaolejiedajiarenmenweiheyaosagouliang。

congjinhuaxinlixuedeshijiaojiang，sagouliangshiduiweishengwubennengfanyingdeyizhongkaolv。

 aiqingshicongxiaodongwuzhaoduixiangdetizhiyanbianercheng，zhenduixianjieduandajiazheileiyifuyiqidehunyinshenghuofangshieryan，airendeyingxianglishifenguanjian，yinerhuichuxianjinbuzhuxixingyusedezhuangkuang。

keshidajiazhongguowenhuahuanshiguidingrenbuzhangyangde，yinersagouliangyeyoulingyizhonghanyi——xianbai。

zuoweiyizhongdongwu，nanxingyaohuodecichongdejiandingbuyidehuanxin，wubiyaorangcichonglejie，tabibiedenanxinggengyougongzuonengli。

 yeshengdongzhiwuhenyoukenengyaoxianbaizishendelieshihuoshidongxue，renmenzebixuxianbaizishendefangdichan，xianbaizishendemingchehui，huoshixianbaizishenpenyoudepinzhizongshu，tongyangyouzheyigehaodeairenyeshilingyizhongshijiyiyishangdefengcaidaibiao。

 zaixianrujinfazhandeshejiaomeitishang，gongbusagouliangzheileigerenxingwei，huazhenqingganzixunshipianjuma？yeshizishenpinpaixingxiangchuangshedeyibufen。tanenggouzhengshizishenshiyouxierenaide、huobaode、duiyixingpengyouyouyouhuolide。

 ciwai，sagouliangkenengshiquefaguishugandezhuyaobiaoxian，lianaizhongmouyifangduilingyifang(huoduizishen)deqingganbuzuxinxin，zaiqianyishizhongliqidaigenju“sagouliang”zheileigerenxingweixuanbuzishendezhanyouquan，jinerbimian lingyibanchuxianyixieqingkuang，zishenyekeyicongzheidangzhongdedao chengjiuganle。

 neima，jiransagouliangyichuzheimeduo，nidenanrenweishenmebuyuanyisagouliangni?nandaoshuojiushiwozhangdechou?nandaoshuojiushiwokanqilaitaipiaoliang?

 cikejiuxuyaocaiyongshejiaomeitijichulilunle——youguanshejiaomeitideyingyongzhuguanyinsu，youerzhongjieranbutongdejichulilun：shejiaomeititigao(socialenhancement)heshejiaomeitipeichang(socialcompensation)。

 qianmianyizhongji“zuiqiangzhegengqiang”，yejiushixianxiatuiguangbenjiuhenhuobaodegerenhuiyingyongshejiaomeitijinyibutigaotamendereliehuanyingdu，youyuzishenzaoyigougaoduandaqi，yinci zhanxianyixiexiangaidecengmian，fandaohuikanqilaizishengengyoutaidu。

erhoumianyizhong，yejiushibenlaibutaizaoshoureliehuanyingdegeren，bianhuiyingyongshejiaomeitipeichangtamendeyurenxiangchu。

 yibanlaishuo，qianmianyizhongdekehuzhuyaoshigaozizunxinde、gengxinggewaixiangde;houmianyizhongdekehuzhuyaoshidizizunde，tamenweixinfapengyouquanhuigengdangxinyixie，yinweidanxinbeibierenpingding，yinci buyuanyifayixiejiaoweisimideneirong，ergengxiangyaochengxianquzishenqiangjingdeyibufen。

wulunshei，aiyigeren，xuanbuganqinglingtuzhuquan，zheiquanshiyizhongbennengfanyingyutianxing。

keshiguoduosagouliang，bianshiyizhongquefaanquangandezhuyaobiaoxianle。

 dangrendexinliquefamouleiwupindeqingkuangxia，huazhenqingganzixunshipianjuma？yuefaqidaizhuyaobiaoxianchuzaizheiyijianwupinshangdefuyugan，sagouliangyeshizheiban。

 xiushijitarenkande，youqishijizheixiebukanzhongzheiyiduanqingganderenkan，yinci chixusagouliang，yeshizaijielizhengshidajiashenmewentidoumeiyou，kandajiaduoxiangai。ershishishang，zheiyiduanguanlianjiyoukenengzaoyichulenanti。

 youshi，nideairenyeshiyouhenyoukenengzuoweilianaizhongdeyifang，buqidaidedao qunzhonghendaderenzhidu;zheileixinlizhuangtaizaijiaoweifeichangrongyizaoshouguanxindequntizhong，youqimingxian。

neima，ruhenengtuidongzishendelingyibansagouliangni?

第一种状况：

xuduo qingkuangxianijuedenidelingyibantaoyansagouliang，henyoukenengqueshijinjintabutaihuiweixinfapengyouquanbale。

 taxiangyaonixiezhutapeiyangyigeliuniandexiguanxing，bayouyisideshiqingchucunchulai，gesanchawuhetahuiwangyixia，shitaganjuetashifeichangzhiderangtarenlejiedeshier。

第二诸多状况：

nizijiyebuyuanyisagouliang，danfangguidingnanhaizisagouliang，zuoweiyigeluojixingxiaodongwu，zheiziranshibukeyijienadela!

 zuoweinvshengdenidoubuyuanyixiangtarenzhanxianta，yinci tayedanyouzishenshibeiyongtai，danyouyuniguanlianbuzupingwen，meifaqueshiyunimingquejianglai。

 gengdanyoujiarujinhoutichufenshou，yiqianxiuguodexiangaidoubianchenglechaoxiao，rangzishenzaipenyouyanqianliguodefulaigebei“papapa”choulian，yinertakandaiqingganhaichuzaijiechuanzhuang。

yinci xiangrangnanrensagouliang，zuixianzishenyaohuisagouliang。

liruwodexueshengxiaoa，jinqijiuzaiguangsijiaoshidejutizhidaoxiaxiulexuduoxiangai，ranglianggerendetianmeidubaozeng。

budanyoutamenxianghuqulvyoudezongji，xianghuzhongdehuaheyangdexiaochongwu，yeyoutamendeyixiequweideliaotianjietu。

 ranglianggerendexianghupenyoukandaonanhaiziyihou，douganjuenanhaizizhenxingfu，toulaiyanxiandeyanguang，nanhaiziyehuiduiyucishibiaomingxiguanxing，gengweikeyijienasagouliangzheileishierle。

第三种状况：

nanyouxiangjinmaoyiyangyixieerhuhude，huiyongjingyadenaorongliangheyuzhongbutongdesagouliangfangfa。

birutadaoribengongchu，yuanbennixiwangtadaiyixiehufupinhuoshixiaojiadianhuijia，zuibuhaodaigematonggaibanba?

danshiyousheizhidaotamailaiyibakaifengderibenwushidaohuijia，rengzaitongjiakelenvyoudexingming。

zhenduizheileirenni，tabingbushixiangyaoxiu，zhishinimeiganjuetazaixiu，tadexinshixiwangyunigengtiejinde。

nixuyaoxianhaowuyiwentajinideai，shuo：

“jiedaolipinhenkaixin，danshizheibadaowobuganyong，jiaruxiayicishihufupinhuoshimeiweidehua，wonenggengkaixin。”

 suihoujitamenyigewenhuoshixiangyongzuoweijiangshang，weitazuoyixiejiachangcai，naizhizuoyixiedajiazhuanxiangdeshier，zheibianhuirangliangrenyulaiyutianmeile。