花镇情感咨询师骗局吗？学会接纳不幸福才是常态

huazhenqingganzixunshipianjuma？《xingfuxianjing》zhongtiji“xingfukuailebingbushichangtaihua，beijudaoshigengjiaxiyiweichang。”

 danshi，gengweibeijudeshi，juedabufenrendouquexin：chuzishenyiwai，renherendouxingfukuailejiqi!xianeryijian，zheileiniantouzongshishiliaobuji。”

neima，jinridajiajiulailiaoyiliao，yaozenyangjieshourenshengdaoludechangtaihua——“buxingfukuaile”

shenghuozhongdajiadouhuiyanxian：

tarenjiadezhangfushanjierenyidonglanman，zijijiadezhangfulalilatajiaoqingyoumanbujiangli;

tarenjiadexiaohaitinghuachuseaidushu，zijijiadexiaohaibahuyanxuexinliaidingzui;

tarenqingsongzhangxin，zishenbucixinlaogongchujiabanjiadianquebeilaobanzhizhibuli;

tarenpenyoubiantiandi，erzishenduoshihupenggouyou，zhongyaoqingkuangxiaquezhaobuzheyigeshenjiaoderen;

haoxiangxingfukuailejinjintarendeshi，danshijishangni，tarenyanlideni，yuanbiniyanlidezishenyaoxingfukuailededuo。

dajiadabufenrenshijishangdouchongjingxingfukuaile，duobijiannan。

erdajiaquanbudetongchudouyuanyuyu“bujieshou”——bujieshoushiji，bujienaziji。

youqibushijienazijidexintai，duifumianqingxudemingxiantaobi。

 zaidanaozhonghaoxiangzongyouyigexiangshengzaigaozhidajia：“huazhenqingganzixunshipianjuma？wobunengneiyang，wobunengshangxin，wobunengnanguo，wobunengxiaochen，wobunengbuchenggong”。erzheicaisuanshizaocheng dajiadeshenghuoyuelaiyueyulaiyutongchudeyuangu。

zenyanggengkexueyanjiudeyingduizheileitongchu，zugeliangjihua，fangzhizaocheng gengbijiaoyanzhongdexinliwenti?

jinrixianggendahuoergongxiangyigeshehuixinlixuexincihui“jieshoufuwuchengnuozhiliaofa”(act)。

 jieshoufuwuchengnuozhiliaofa(act)yiliudabiaozhunzuoweijiben，xiezuochongfenfahui，xianghushiyongquwancheng2geguanjianzongtimubiao：

yishihelijiejuetongchudeniantouhexintai，xiangneiqugenggaixinlizhuangtaiquanqiu;

ershizaojiuyizhongfengfuduocai、fengfuhegengyouyiyideshenghuo，xiangwaiquzaojiupojushiyongjiazhideshenghuo。

neishijishinaliudaguanjianbiaozhunni?

标准一：离解

yiyizhongquanxinshengjidefangshilaiheniantouchuangjianguanlian，jinerjiangdiniantouduidajiadegongxiaoheweihai。

jugeshili，xiaomindanxinbeibierenhuijue、buhuobao，yinci zaishejiaomeitichangsuoyouhenxianzhudejiaolvqingxugan。

tafanganzheizhongganjue，yinci bianhuijinkenengtaobishejiaomeiti，dabufenchukaigongzuozhongquanshiteliduxing。

 duobijiudaibiaozhetadeshejiaojiaolvburongyibeijiqi，yinci nenglinshitaobitongchu，keshizheiyezulanletaqubaituoshejiaokongju，meiyoubanfatigaoshejiaomeitizhuanyejineng。neimatagaizenyangzuoni?

 youyigehaodelijiefangshibianshigechang，tanenggouzainaozilixianghupeihezhe《maibaoge》zheileiguangweirenzhidedejiezou，bazijideniantouzuoweigequgecibuduanchangchu，liru“wowowowo，wowowowo，woshiyigebuhuiliaotian，meifagenrenhaohaodijiaowangderen”。

 neiyangganleyihou，bianhuifajue，zheizhongyuanbenhenkongbu，rangxiaominhentongchudeniantouhuranyuelaiyueyoudianergaoxiaole，jiunanyizaibatakandeneimazhong、kandeneimazhenle。

neimajieguobianshi，tamenduixiaomindeqianzhihezhimingdubianruo，tanenggounenggougenghaodizuohaoziji。

标准二：拓展

weirangrenbuyuedexintai、juedehebulizhizaojiushineikongjian，erbushijiliyayiganhuojiangqilakai。

 zaiwomenkeyiyiyizhongduiwaikaifang、kuanrongdexintaiquxiangyongzheizhongxintaishi，tamenyeyibuneimamianmukezeng，gengfeichangrongyibianchengguowangyunyan，erbushihenzhangshijianliaorao。

标准三：联接

 zhenxidangxia，guanxinbingjiejinquanlizijintouruyijingzuodeyiqieshizhong，erbushichenzuiyumianhuaiguoquhuojiaolvjianglai，dajiabixuhecishicidiyijingchanshengdeshierzaochengkegumingxinlianjie。

标准四：观查性自身

 tachengdanqianxin、liuyiheguannian，quguanchaheliuyiluojisiweizishen，dantazishenbukaizhansisuo。huanjuhuashuo，guancha，keshibusisuo。