花镇情感机构正规吗？让男人魂牵梦萦的女人

 wodeyigexueshengniannian，2020nian31sui，zaijinrongjigouzuokefujingli，zaigongzuoshangdudangyimiandeta，huazhenqingganjigouzhengguima？quezaizishendeqingganshanglvcicuobai。wojuede，niannianzailiangnianqianjiaoleyigenanyou，keshiyouyunanxingdebabamamayizhijuedenianniandejiatingtiaojianyiban，bingqiekanqilaiyebushihengao，yinci jiuyizhibiaomingbutaiyuanyi，niannianyeyinerhenanpengyouyitiandaowannaobieniu，qingganyizhiyemeiyouquyuwending。

 shijishangzhenduitaruhunyinshenghuodebiaozhuneryan，nanxingbabamamataoyannianniandezheilianggenanti，yuanbenbushishenmezhimingshang，doushiyouxuanzhuandekongjian。

 danshinantiqujueyu，niannianzishenbingbushineileiqingshangzhishanghengaodenvhaier，zaijiejuegezhonggeyangrenjijiaowangdeqingkuangxia，douhuijiejuedejiaoweishengseheliji。

 liru，zaibabamamabutongyizheiyijianshierdejiejueshang，niannianjiuyongbuduifangfa。tayizhihuiqumaiyuannansheng，guainanyoubujizijishuohaotingdehua，caizaocheng nanxingbabamamataoyanzishen。

youyinerzaochengcaiyi，ganjueshifounanyouyemeineimexihuanzishenya，yinci wanquanjiumeizaibabamamayanqianqujiabeinulinaxie。

 zaizaijiashangnanyoupingchanggongzuozhongyalifeichangda，niannianqueganjuetashinanyouchenzhegongzuozhongdeshierzaiyouyiduozhezishen，budanbumeiyoulijijinanshengdafunaxieqingxujiazhi，fandaohaiyiweidesuoyaodaliangdeguanxinheguishugan。

 bieshuo，neiyangdejieguojibenshangshibidingde，zaichaochaonaonaole2nianyihou，rujinliangrendeguanlianliekaile。naizhidoubuyongnanyoudebabamamazailiaonaxie，nanshengzishendouganjuefangfoheniannianbutaishihe，wanzhuandihetamingquetichuleyaoxiangxianlizhiyiduanshijian。

 zaiaipinshengdegongzuoshang，changchangyudaozheileizhuangkuang：haoxiangnanxingdebabamamabutongyila;huoshishichuduixianglehaozhangshijiannanyouchaosanmusi，yituozaituomeiyoudingchulaijiehunriqila;huoshishiwanhunhenduonianzhangfupengdaodisanzhexinbuzaijiazhongzheixiezheizhongnanti。

 kanqilaipangencuojie，qianshedaochukaiguanlianbiciyiwaidebiedecengmian，dabufenrenyaoganjuetashibiedecengmiandenanti，yaoshinanyouhuoshiwolaogonggenwoyiqilinweibujuyingduibabamama，huoshitanengyiqigenwozhengtaodisanzhe，wodeganqingwentijiuyidinghuichuli。

shijishangchedibushizheiyang：

tongchangjiushinihetazhongjianzaozaoyichuxiannantile，dajiadeqingganzaozaoyichuxianliefengle，caihuichuxianbiedenantidecunyou。

 liru，jiaruniannianhetananyoudeguanlianyizhiyouqihaoxie，neimananxingbabamamadetiyibingbuhuibianchengzaocheng tamenguanlianliekaidegenbenyuanyin。

yinci ，womenzaiyingduiyiqiefenqideqingkuangxia，bixuxianquzhengliqingxi，nantideguanjianjiujingshishenme。

 nanyouzenmehuizaoshoubabamamadeweihai，shijishangshiyouyuniannianzaipengdaonantideqingkuangxia，tiaoxuanbamashangnanyoulakaidaozishendeduiliqu，rangnanyoudexinlizishenyuezouyueyuan，jieguozuizhongbianchenglequeshidujue。

 zaiwojiniannianjiangguozheizhongyihou，tasisuolehaozhangshijian，ganchuposhendeshuo：“ai，wozhendeshi，yuanbenyishoudeyingpai，jieguobeizishendadehenlana。”

 neiaipinshengjinrijiulaijidahuoerjiangsangequannengdegoutongjiaoliugongshijisuan，jiniwulunchuzaiqinggandeyiqiehuanjie，dounenggouquyongqingshanggaodegoutongfangshipingwentiwennideqinggan，erbushibalingyifangyuetuiyuezhang。

第一：认同心态而不是表明客观事实。

 liru，zuichunianniandenanyouhaihuijixuhetajiang，zishendebabamamashizenmexiangdeshizenmejiangde，kedabufenhaimeiyoudengnanyoujiangwan，niannianbianhuiqieduantashuodao：

 “nifumuneimeshuoshayisima?tamenbianshikanzhewonaeryebukanbuguan?neimeniweishenmebuqubangwofayanya，niweishenmemeiqushuowoyounaxieyoushiya?”

neiyangyiduidegoutongjiaoliuchulai，nianniandenanyoujiuhenfantoule，yemanmandimeiquheniannianshuoxieshenmele。

 neimashijishangzaicike，womenkeyijiandaonianniandenanyounenggoujijiheniannianshuozheizhong，shijishangshiyouyuneishihoutashixinrengannianniande，erqiebatadangzuozijiaren，tacaiyaoshuozheizhong。

neizaizheigeshihou，jiarunianniankeyishuoxia：

 “tingnifumugennishuozheizhonghua，niyeyidingjuedehendiaonanba?niyaonenggaosuwozheizhong，ganxieqinaidedeyizhineimexinrenganwo。”

 ciwai，xiangnianniandenanyoupingchanggongzuozhongbijiaomang，yalifeichangda，yiqiantayehuiheniannianbiaoluyixiegongzuozhongshangbiandekukoushui，niannianyibanjiuyaoshuo：

“aiyo，dajiadoubuyi，zheihenyiqiezhengchanga。nizenmelaogaosuwonimanga，shibushinibuyuanliwoya?”

或是有时就回应个：

“e，neimenitaileile，nihaohaoxiuxiba。”

 yaolejieneiyangfanfuhuihuashidehuiying，dabufenjiuxiangdangyuzhongduanleliaotian。lingyifangzaigennibiaoshutihuishi，shijishangshiyaoxiangyuniliaotian，erwomenyaozuodeshidafulingyifangdexintai。

例如你能说：

“huazhenqingganjigouzhengguima？qinaidede，nigongzuozhongneimeleihaixiangqiwoa，juedetaigaoxinga。”

 zaihuihuazhong，jinyouwomenqudafulingyifangdexintai，rentonglingyifangdexintai，tacaihuixiangyaogennidakaixinfei，dajiacaihuichuxianhuanenggouliao，xingfunenggoutan。

第二：确立必须而不是斥责埋怨。

 zaizheiliyidianshang，xuduo nvhaidoushihuishashadegaobuqing。youyuxuduo qingkuangxiazaizishenmingquetichubixudeqingkuangxia，buqingchushizenmehuishishunlichengzhangbianchenglemaiyuan，yinci zaizheier，womenyaoquliuyideshiyao：quelibixu。

liru，nijuedelingyifangzaigongzuoshangzijintouruguoduoshijianhehuolideqingkuangxia，ninengshuodeshi：

“zhangfu，wojuedejiniduopeibanwo。”

而不是去说：

 “naxie?niyoujiabanjiadianyoujiabanjiadian?nizenmechukaijiabanjiadianbianshihuibaogongzuo?neinijiuzaiqiyezhuhaola。jiujinggongzuozhongguanjianhuanshiwoguanjiana?”

quelibiaoshunideyaoqiu，zainanshengdeluojisiweilishinenggouyigejianyikeshixingdezhiling。

 zhenduinanshengeryan，nidechizehemaiyuanzongshishitashouzuwucuo，youyunansheng，youqishigangtiezhinan，yingduineiyangdegoutongjiaoliu，youshitabingbushibuyuanyijinigenggai，zhishitabingbulejiegaizenmezuocaikeyijinigaoxing。