花镇情感机构正规吗？男人的“出轨”前兆该怎样判断？

 worenweiwolaogongyixieqingkuangxiatoutoumomode，woyikantashoujishang，huazhenqingganjigouzhengguima？guozhenhemouyinvhaiyousiyousiwudenuanwei，tahaishuojinjinguanlianfeichanghaodepengyou。

 tadejuedaduoshushijianwohainengbawo，gongzuoxiabanlejuhuihuodongyaoshangbao，gongchuyeshijishizirandiliyundongguiji，tadeshijianjibenshangquantoumingde，ruhejuederujinguanlianyuezouyueyuan，zheijiujingshishenmeyuanyinni?

 zaishehuixinlixueshang，youyizhongjiaofajiao“toushexingrentong”(projectiveidentification)huanjuhuashuo：

ruguonijuedebierenheniyaodeyiyang，bingqiebipolingyifangrenkedehua，lingyifangzuizhonghenyoukenengjiuyizhaonidexiangxiangquzuo。

 yuqishuoshitayuanbenjiuwaiyu，burushuoshishitalizaiwaiyuhebuwaiyudebianjingxianshang，dangtajieshoudaodajiacaiyitawaiyudeshujuxinhaobijiaoduodeqingkuangxia，liru：xinxineirongyaomiaohui，gongchuyaoshangbao，gongchuyaojishibuweiyundongguiji......

 zheizhongdoubiaomingdajiabuganxiangxinlingyifang，caiyitahenyoukenenghuiwaiyu，zheizhongzhuduodegerenxingweianshizhe，bianhuimanmande“youfa”tamaixiangwaiyudenatiaodao。

shuodezhijiedian：nirenweitashinaxie，zhihoutajiuqueshibianchenglenagemoyang。

 wodexueshengxiaopanjiuzheiyang，tayinweizishenquefaanquangan，douhuicaiyizishenzhangfuxiaozhaowaiyu。youyicizhangfutiqianzhunbeishuijuedeshihoushoudaoleweixinxiaoxi，pingchangtadouburongyiandiao，keshineiyitianqueanmeile，xiaopanmeitouyizhou，ganjueshierbingburongyi：

“zenmenpianyaojinribuyaokanxinxile，haowuyiwenshixinliyougui!”

 jiexiaqutajiugangkaishisoujizhijiezhengju——liru，zuoyishangmianyoubiedenvxingdexiufaya，laogongbulijijieshipintonghuaazheixie。

 zhangfuganjuexiaopanjinqibutaigaoxing，yaoxiangsonglihonghongta，taobaoshuaxiaoliangkannvxingyongpin，jitayixieyiwaijingxi，danshixiaopanqueganjuezhangfudelipinbingbushizhuanyejitade，jibiedenvxingde，meiyousongquzuizhongjileta......

 laogongtingtaneiyangshuo，yeyuelaiyuegengjiabuaihuijia，zheiyixiakeshixiaopanbawozhu“shichui”，daowozheihenhendipengjilelaogongyifan。liangrendeguanlianyuelaiyueyulaiyujiaolvbuan，laogongbuhuijiale，xiaopangengweiganjuelaogongbushandaiziji，henyoukenengwaibianyouxierenle。

 xiaopanxinliquefaanquangan，ganjuezhangfuhenyoukenenghuiwaiyu，xiandingzhangfudegezhonggeyanggerenxingweijiyuzishenguishugan，quezuizhongzaocheng laogongbuhuijiale，cikejiaruyouyigelinglingchuxian，tazhangfuhenyoukenengqueshijiuchuguile。

 zheijiushishehuixinlixueshangdetoushexingrentong，anzhaoneixinsuoganchixuqurichangshenghuorenzhenglingyifang，zuizhongqueshibalingyifangbianchengledajiayaoxiangrenzhengdemoyang。

 zaizheiliyiquanguochengzhong，laopokanbujianlaogongdezhenzhengxiangmao，zhiguanzhulingyifangshibushiruzishensuogan，youfatajienazishenpaochuqudeshezhi。

huoxuhenduorendoushihuigenxiaopanyiyang，neixinbianshiganjue：

“taweihehuranjiubuyiyangleni?”

“wanyizhenyounaxiepanbiandeshini?”

“yaobushixinliyougui，weiheyeyaotoutoumomo，guiguisuisuini?”

neimeniyoumuyouxiangguo，dangzhangfuhuonanpengyoubeizhenikanxinxibianshipanixinfanyiluanni?

 xuduo nanshengdoushihuiyouneiyangyizhongxinlizhuangtai，weilegenghaodibuyouyuyijianwuguantongyangdeshi，zaochengduoyudebubian，yeweilegenghaodibuxulianggerenzhengchao，tajiubuyaokanzheixiexinxile。

zirandajiaqianbianshuode，jinjinyizhonggailv。

 nanhaihenvhailuojisiweidechabiehuirangshuangfangcongbuyiyangdeshijiaolaikaolvdaonanti，ruguowomendanzhilizaibenrendeshijiaoqukaolvdaoshifeichangrongyiyouyubuzhidaolingyifangxiangganshenme，lianggerengoutongjiaoliubuchang，naizhimeiyoubanfagoutongjiaoliuerzaocheng guanlianchuxianliefeng，naizhijifalianshifanying，zuizhongyiguanliantubengwajielaiwanbizheiyiduanqinggan。

 neimaruguowomenpengdaolexiangqianbiantidaodezheileirangrencaiyidanxindeshike，younaxiehaodefangfanenggoulinshijianqingshixiajiaolvbuandeganqingqifen，fangzhijushifazhanqushidegengbijiaoyanzhongni?

zuixian，womenyaoxiaochutoushexingrentong

yaoxiangxiaochutachajueshidiyibu，bubichangshicaozongtaren，xuehuifangxiashengfuyu，rongxulingyifangshitayuanbendemoyang。

 zaidajiadeshilizhong，xiaopanshijiaolvqingxuxingderen，shifenmeiyouanquangan，neimatayaoxianchajuezishenshifouchuzaiyouxintaideqingkuang——

 dangbaofachuanquanxingheyulunyalideqingkuangxia，tajiubixunanxinglijiweizijichushiqingxujiazhi，wulunshihongyihonghuanshibaoyibao，tamenbixulijidebiaotaifayan。

jinjinzishendezheileiqingkuangzishentongchangshichajuebushangde，yinci chushileqingkuangxiazongshichizelingyifang。

 danxiaopandelaogongzuoweiyigeyibannansheng，shiyizhongdadalieliedeweishengwu，yixieqingkuangxia，tameiyoubanfajishichulitadefumianqingxu，erqiejiyushunxiangganenhuikui，bingqieganjuezheishigaobudongdeqingkuangxia，jiuqidongyingjifangan：xianduoyiduo。

zheibidinghuizaochengjiaolvqingxuzhongnvxingdebumanyi，fenqijiuyichujifale。

 dajiahebupeiyangziwojuechadexiguanxing，liru，qingxurijibianshiyizhonghaodechajuefangshi，bixudajiabazijichoushenchuquguanchadajiadegerenxingwei，rutongshelujiyiyangjiludajiadexintai，niantou，suihouchajuedajiaxintaishenhouderenzhinenglishisha?

 liru：ruguoniyounaonudeqingkuangxia，nenggouchajueexingshijianzaocheng nidenaonu，jiadingshizhangfumeiyoumiaohuixinxineironghenshengqi，suihouchajueweiheduizheiyishiernaonu，nideniantoushisha?

 liru：jiarulaogongaiwo，jiuyingdangmiaohuixinxineirong，yuanlaishizheigeyangziderenzhinenglijinizaochenglenaonuxintai。neidajiazaikanyixiazheileirenzhinenglishibushiyouxiaode?neiyangdefangfayidiandianzhengliganqingrenzhinengli，manmanshutonghunyinguanxizhongdeshoudian。

ranhoushuohuijia，fajuezhangfuyouyishidisanzhedezhuangkuangshi，ruguonixintainingjingzhihou，jiukeyijindaodierbu：

第二，怎样能搞清他是否真外遇，怎么解决眼底下的难题?

 huazhenqingganjigouzhengguima？zheileizhuangkuang，jiubixuzuixianfaxianwentideneifangzuochugenggai，yaobawogoutongjiaoliudezhudaoquan，zuoqiangrentoudeneiren。

 yibannvshengjiaoweijimin，quanshixianfaxianwentide，womenzaishangyibuzaoyicaozonglezishendexintai，jiukeyijiangdigongjinengli，jianshaogoutongchengben。

 zaigoutongjiaoliudeqingkuangxia，yaojijijilingyifangchushishushidu，jiranyaoduitakaizhan“yuzhixingtuilun”，neihaibibushangduozuoyixieshunxiangdetuiduan，yaoyonghaowuyiwen、jijizhudongdeyuhui，zhaoliaonanshengdezizun，neiyangcaikeyishitafanhuizishendeqingkuang。

woxunwenxiaopan：xiaozhaoshifoupingchangyeshiaideneimeshenduobidexingqing，pengdaoshierjiuduozheni?

小潘否认。

 wogaosuxiaopan：dajiabubibalingyifangfangdaoduili，xianjitamengoujianyigetingzhandeziranhuanjing，neiyangtacaihuigaizhengzishendeyishi，yishidaoshierkaoduoshibukeyiduomeide，yaohenihaohaogoutongjiaoliu。

cikeyebukeyiposhita，niyuefabitachuli，tayuehuiganjueniwuyuanwugu，manbujiangli，naizhishimeishierzhaochaer。

 youyunanhaihenvhaisiweimoshiyushengjulaidechabie，dajiabiciduinantiderenzhinenglibuyiyang，nirenweishigenantide，huoxulingyifanghuiganjuehenyiqiezhengchang，yagenmeishenmebixuchulide。

 wojixiaopanchuxinzhao，ninengduixiaozhaoshuo：yinweinishigehaolaogong，keshiwoshifeichangrongyixinfanyiluan，ruguonijiachezhuanchejiesongtongshideqingkuangxia，wonengganjuebukaixin，dajiaxianghushangtaoyigefangfancuoshihaome?