什么才算爱？就算分手再久这招吊着前任心

 shenmeshiai？wanhuiqianrenbiduganhuozhishi，zuihaoyongde3gezhaoshu!neimeshenmecaisuanaini?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanshenmejiaoaidewenzhangba。

 dangfenshouxuanyankouhaocongtakouzhongshuochulaishi，meiyigezidouxiangyizhilijian，zhongzhongditouguolenideai，jinitongdechuanbuguoqilai。

 yanjianzhelingyifangjiuxuyaoxiaotuizairenhaimangmangle，zaiyebunenggenzishenyouyidianxiangjiaole，yinciniqianxinwankujiuchanbuqingyebuyuanyifangkaishou，kezheiquehuandelelingyifanggengweiwuqingdeyanjuan。

nandaoshuoqueshimeiyoubanfalemeiyou?nandaoshuozhiyouyanbabadekanjiantalikaiquefaliwanhui?

 ziranbingbushi，yaoxiangwanhuiwuqingdenanshengfeichangjiandan，ruguonixuehaofanfangxiangyunyong“wuqing”，ganqingdesierfushengjiuzaiyishunjian。

怎么做呢?

一、减少自身的需求感

 henduorenfenshouhouhou，yinweiduanqineineijienabushangzheiciqingganshangdebuxing，nidouhuiganjuejingshenshizhishanghuoshirichangshenghuozongquefaleyixienaxie。

zheiyifenqueshaohuijinibujingyidiqucongxinlangweibo、weixinpengyouquandenghulianwangfangshiqujinkenengzhangwotadexiankuang。

 danzheizhongzuofazhenduiwanhuieryan，zongshiwuduanzengjianidexuqiugan，shenmeshiai？ninengyouyulingyifangdeyiqiedongjingerhuihuainidelizhi。

zheileiqiuzhibudedexuqiugan，huijiniyulaiyutongchu，haijinixiaohaodiaoxuduo zhenguidewanhuishijian。

二、找寻分手的缘故

lijingfenshouderen，douyingdanglejiefenshouhoudeneileiweidao，dequehennanshou。

 shenmejiaoai？tarenwenjifenshouyuangushi，niyejinjinyiju“sanguanbuheba”yixiaolezhidiquguo，danyeshenrenjingshideqingkuangxiabeiyanleinongshizhenxindeweidao，yejinyouzishenlejie。

kejiujingweishenmefenshou，niqueshinengjiangchuyuanguma?

 shijishang，ganqingdebuchenggong，guigenjiedizhibuguobianshisangecengmiandeyuangu，yishizishendenanti，ershigoutongjiaoliumoheqidenanti，sanshilingyifangdenanti。

jiaru，niyaoxiangwanhuiyiduanqinggan，jiuxuyaomianduizheizhongnantideyuangu，caikeyixunzhaowanhuitadefangfa。

三、提升 本身使用价值

 dajiayiqianbianshuoguohenshuci，nvrenhenanrendesiweifangshishibuyiyangde，nanshengchangyongchuangxinsiweinengli，ernvxingchangyongganxingsiwei。

yinci zaiwanhuishi，jinyoulizainanshengdeshijiaoshanglaizhidingwanhuiduice，cainenggouqudechenggong。

 nanrenshichuangxinsiweinengli，henzhongshiyouxiangtiaoxuan，jiarunidebenshenshiyongjiazhizaoyibudapeitadetourule，neimaniyejiubuzhitazaiduhuishoule。

 jianyanzhibianshi，nixuyaoyijubenshendefenshouyuangu，helingyifangdeaihaoxingqingdeng，tishengzijidebenshenshiyongjiazhi，neiyangcaikeyihuodewanhuihuosheng。

 shenmecaisuanai？zuizhongxianggaozhidahuoer，buyaohaipafenshouhou，yebubihaipafenshou，shuobailefenghuangniepanniepanzhongsheng，jinyoujingliguocuozhe，caikeyirangdajiadeganqingzhenshidizaisheng