怎样谈恋爱?让前任忍不住找你挽回！

 youyibufenfensi，jinqiliuyanbanliuyanbangwo，shuozishengenlingyibanfenshouyouyiduanshijianle，keshixianghuyeyoushiduanshixudelianluo，zishendewanliuyixianghuanshihenmingxiande。neimetanlianaidemudeshishenmeni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanzenyangtanlianaidewenzhangba。

keshilingyifangzaoyiyongyouzhuiqiuwanmeidexinmubiao，jinguangenzishenweichizhetongxueguanxi，danhaoxiangzaoyibukeyicongtoukaishile。

zenyangtanlianai?neiyangdezhuangkuang，shijishangniyiranhaiyoujihui。

zhongyaojiuqujueyunixibuxihuanqinfen，erqieniqinfendefangweiduima。

jinrijiulailiaoyiliaolingyifangjiaruyongyouxinganqing，nigairuhequzuowanliudeshijicaozuo。

jiarunideqiannvyouhuoshiqianrenzaoyiyongyouxinganqing，worenweizheileizhuangkuangninengwuxuwanliuzheigecile。

niwangwanghaixiangyaoquwanliulingyifang，biaomingyouyigejianjieniyaomeiyounongqingchu——

 lingyifangzaoyiyouxinganqingle，congmeigefangmianshangeryan，dajia2gezaoyibingbushilianaiguanxile，jiubuhuiyouwanbuwanliuyijiangguo。

yinci ，xiangbiwanliu，worenweiniyinggaikaolvdaoquruhezaicihelingyifanggangkaishiyiduanxindelianaiguanxi。

jinguanzuizhongdejieguoquanshizaicizaiyiqi，danzheizaiqizhongdeluojisiweishibuyiyangde。

 jiarunizaicibalingyifangfangdaoyiqianjiushininvyouhuoshinanyoudebuweishang，kendingshiwanliubushangde。youyudajia2gezhongjianyouganshouxingdechabie。

 nilaiwanliulingyifang，kendingshiyaoxiangzaiciyiqiandeguanlian，zaicizuoweilianrenrichangshenghuo，keshiniyoumeiyouxiangguo，gennizuolianrenzailingyifangdetihuili，daliangdeshifumianxinxiheqianjiadetihui。

要不然TA也不会跟你分手，是吧?

yinci ，jiaruniyongwanliudeluojisiweiqushijicaozuo，zongshichixudejifalingyifangbutaihaodetihui。

nizhenshiyaoquzuode，bingbushiranglingyifangxiangdaoyiqian，zhishizaicixiyinzhu。

 wocongyeganqinglingyushijinian，meiyinianzuishaochupengjinbaigezheileizhuangkuangdeqiuzhuzhe，wokehoufudaotamengaibianxinlizhuangtaiyihou，youjiuchengshangxiadounenggouqudechenggongwanliu。

nirujinyaoneiyangqusisuo：

 jiranlingyifangyiqiangennigangkaishiguoyiduanlianaiguanxi，jiubiaomingnideshenshangyouyixietexing，shitashifenkewangde，tahuigennizaiyiqi，biranshibeizheizhongtexingxiyinzhu。

zheijiushinideyoudian，yejiushiniweiyidejiyu。ruguonidetupokounengzhaodui，jiubuhaipatabujiezhao。

怎么找突破口呢?

 zheigeshihounijiuxuyaokaolvdaoqianlingyifangdexinlizhuangtaile，tazhaodezheiyixinganqingdaodishiweilegenghaodiduguokongdang、liaoxinshanghuanshiweilegenghaodiduifuni?

jinyoufenbianqingxi，caikeyiyoumudexingdekaizhanshihouliucheng。

duiyubuyiyangdexintai，bixucaiyongbuyiyangdeduice，shiwoyizhizhuzhongdemudexing。

jinyouzuomudexingdeshijicaozuo，caiyoukenengrangdajiazaicizaiyiqi。

一般分手后的新感情，能够分类为那样几类。

01.治病目标。

 zaizhiqiandewanliushilizhong，yijieyeyudaoguoxuduo xunqiubangzhurendelingyibanzaoyiyouxinganqingdezhuangkuang，zaiqizhongyouyibufen，lingyifangshuobailede“xinganqing”jinjinyigezhibingdemubiaobale。

dajiayaoshizhengquerenshizheiyidian，zuixianyingdangfeichanggaoxing。

为何?

 youyujiarulingyifangdexinganqingjinjin“zhibingmubiao”，neimajiuyiweizhetazaigennijiaowangshikucunjiyadezheizhongfumianxinxiyinsu，yongyouyigenenggoupaichulaihejiejuedefangshi，fumianqingxudexiaotui，zhenduiyihoudewanliushiyoujudalihaoxiaoxigongxiaode。

02.感情取代。

ciwaiyileiren，zaizhaoxunxinganqingdeqingkuangxiahuichuxianneiyangyizhongzhuangkuang：tadexinganqinggennihenxiang。

zaizheileifangshili，tazheiyishuobailede“xinganqing”，jinjinyigenidequdai。

zheibiaomingtashihenxihuangennizaiyiqide，zuishaotaganjuegennizaiyiqideqingkuanghenshufu。

yaoburantayebuhuizhaoyigeyunineimeleisideren，zailingyifanglaikan，tashiyizhongyuyishangde“tanlianaichixu”。

zheigeshihounixuyaoganshenmeni?

 bianshiyunyonghaomuqianziyuan，jirantadouhaimeichedibuzailianxi，neimajiubazijijijizhudongzhengliandeqingkuangzhanshijitakan，yebubijiqiequ“qiufuhexing”。

 tashiweilegenghaodiranglingyifangfajuenishi“wufafuzhihequdaide”，yaoshitanengqueliniyu“xinganqing”zhongjiandechabie，erqiecongnidedeshenshangjiandaodaliangjiaowangdeshiyongjiazhihemanzugan，yibaneryanyehuijiaoweifeichangrongyiwanliu。

03.wanquanyiqingbielian。

zuixian，womenzaizheigeshihouzuixianyaoqueliyidian：

zijishibushiqueshimeiyoutajiubuneng?

zijishibushixiangyaodengta?

 ruguonijuededajiakendingshixianghudezhenzhengdeaiqing，yexiangyaoqudenghoutahehaoruchudehua，neimajiubayiqiejiaodaoshijianlaijiejue。

为何这样呢?

dajiadoulejiezaimeiyiduanguanlianzhong，liangrendoushihuilijingbuyiyangdejieduan。

 zaiqizhong，haofeiqideguanlianshizuiminganyezuifeichangrongyichuxianqifude。yinci ，zailingyifangdexinguanlianjindaohaofeiqideqingkuangxia，zheiyishijianfanweitahuixiangdaodajiayiqiandezheixiexingfu，yehuichuxianjiaoweigaodegailvhuishouyuenide。

keshi，meiduanguanlianmairuhaofeiqidesudushibuyiyangde，zheijiuxiangyaonizishenyouzhechongzujianqiangdexinhetililaipingwenzishenle。

 tanlianaidemudeshishenme?wulunniyijinglijingnayizhongqingkuang，jilao，biesheqi，yongqiadangdefangshihaowuyiwennengmairuhaodejieguo。