怎样谈恋爱?分手后3招挽回攻心计

 youxierenyunifenshou，shiqueshiyouyuduinimeiyouganqingle，zaiyiqizhishengyuhuxiangzhemo。neimetanlianaidemudeshishenmeni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanzenyangtanlianaidewenzhangba。

 keshiyouyizhongrenfangqini，queshiyouyuganjuezishenbuzuhao，zuishaopeibushangnidehao，danxinzishenjibushangniyigemeihaodeweilai。

tamenjiusuanxinlibiantilinshang，quehuanshijiaojiniyigelengdandegudubeiying。

 xuduo nanhaizidouzuochuguoneiyangdetiaoxuan，tamenshijishanghenqidainvyounengjinbaozishen，jiangchuneijuwanliudehuayu，danshinvhaiyiyangguzhi，nanhaizineixinquanbudeshebudezuihouzhiyouhuaweiyiju“suanleba”。

jiarunanyoushiyouyubuzixinlikaini，niyaoshiyongxialie3zhongfangshi，jiunengbangtachuangjianxinxin，qudechenggongwanliuta。

不要在不知不觉秀优异

 zenyangtanlianai?jiaruyigenvshengjiashifeichanghao，xiangmaoroumei，wenpingchuse，yeshizixiaobeizhongxinggongyuebanzhangdalede，neimatahenyoukenengzaiyijuyidongjiandouzhanshichu“zihaogan”。

zheierdezihaoganshibaoyicide，tamiaoshudeshiyizhongqichang，niyuanyuanwangqu，jiuhuiganjuezheiyinvhaigenbierenbuyiyang。

 genneiyangdenvhaizaiyiqi，shiyoufeichangdadegongzuoyalide，niyizhidanyouzishenbuzuhao，caiyilingyifangzenmehuikanzhongneimewusuozuoweidezishen，zhangciyiwang，jiuhuiweihainiduizishenshiyongjiazhiderentong。

yinci ，nvhaizaihezheileinanhaizizaiyiqishi，qianwanbieguoduzihao。

 liru，dianpingyijianshibuhuitainan，henqingqingsongsongjiunengnaxia。huoxuzheijianshiqingduinidenanyoueryan，queshiburongyi，jianyideyijuhuajiuhuizaochengtadeshengxingduoyi。

积极沟通交流，了解另一方

 buzixindenanshengdabufendoujiaoweineixiangxing，buyuanyijieshoutaren，yebuyuanyidakaixinfeixiangtarenbiaoluxinlihua，jibian shiyingduizishendenvyou。

 tamentongchangduizishendeguidinghengao，zuobudaozishendingdezongtimubiaojiuhuihencuobai。cikejiuxiangyaoniqujijigoutongjiaoliu，bubishadengdailingyifanghuiduinizaishuoshenme。

youyutaduinizaishuoshenme，chedizaiyuniduitadexintai。

 xuehaolejieyeshihenzhongyaode，xuduo nvxingyingduinanyoudexintaidouhenyanfan，yizhishuo“niyigedananrenzenmeneimebijiaomingan?”

 bijiaominganbingbushinvxingdezhuanliquan，nanshengyeshiyouyouzhedequanli。xuehaolejielingyifangdexintai，shijishangyeshizaibangzishenwangxingfudelvchengshangqianxing。

以寻求帮助的方法激励另一方

ruguonijuedezishendenanyouhenbuzixin，neimenikeyiyongzhaotabangzhudefangfalaixiezhutajianqing。

 liru，ninengxiangtaqingtugongzuofangmianhuoshiyurenxiangchudenanti，shuoniyongyuanbuzhidaoyinggaizenmebanle，qidaitabangnichuchuxiangfa。

 buzixindenanshengzheishihouhenyoukenengbutaiganjiangchuzishendeguandian，cikeniyejiubixujilita：“nanyouneimeqiangda，weishenmehuibuqingchuzenmebanni?”

用这类鼓励的话语正确引导他讲出自身的见解。

 jiangwanyihou，niyidingyaozhuyaobiaoxiandehenqinpeita，zailiaoyiju：“nizhenlihaiya，ruobushibicidoubuqingchuyinggaizenmeban，ganxieni!”

 tanlianaidemudeshishenme?neiyangzuonengrangtazaiqingganzhongxunzhaozishendeshiyongjiazhi，ganjuetapeizainishenbianyebushinaxiemangdoubangbulede。