爱情来的时候,如何找到适合自己的挽回方法？

 aiqinglaideshihou,qianjitianyoufensigenwoxianliao，shuozishenyongleyiqiantidaodefangshi，quwanhuinanyou，keshikaizhanleyibanyihou，chajuezijiwanhuibuxialaile。neimeaiqingkeyiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaiqinglaiqiaomendewenzhangba。

youyutafajueyihouzishennanyoudetaoluhefangshilijiaodebuyiyangle。

yinci ，tabuqingchuyingbuyinggaizaici，gengbuqingchuruhezaici。

woyizhizaizhuzhongdeyidianshi：

fangshiyougongtongxing，keshihaiyaochongfenkaolvjutiqingkuanghebixuduiyudeguanjiandiannanti。

neimenidaodigaizenmecainengxunzhaoyigeheshizishendefangshini?

 womingbai，nixinjihuoliaodezaishizhegezhonggeyanghelingyifangfuhexingdefangfa，nishixiadeqingxushizheji、tongchuyoudaizhuyisihaipade。

yinci wulunnishiguonaxie，douganjueshiduoshaoyoudianerzulan，huoshibushihenideyisi。

为何?

youyunibingbingbushizaizhaoyigefangshi，zhishizaizhaoyigegailv。

niqidaiyouyigerennengchuquduinishuo，niyouduodadegailvnenggouwanhuilingyifang。

 aiqinglaideshihou,nidejinghuang，shiyouyunimeiyoumingquegan，nizhengliangjiaoxuanzaikongzhongdepiaozaibankongzhongdangzhong，juedezishensuishisuididoushihuidiaoxiaqu。

womeirihuiyinggezhonggeyangsiliaoliuyanbanliuyan、zixunshipinyuyinyeyoutanhuashi，pengdaoshuzuiduodenantiyeshi：

jiaoshi，dajiahaiyoumeiyoujiyule，dajiahaiyoumeiyouhenyoukenengle?youmeiyoujiyule?woliangfuhexingnengyouduodagailv?

zaizheierwogaosuquanbunvhai，yaoshitameisi，shijishangnidoushiyoujiyu。

keshizheiqudechenggongdegailvyouduoda?

huidameiyouwozhei，zainizijishoushang。

weishenmeshuoshifoukeyishiwanhuiqudechenggongkanzhenizishen?

zaiqingganshenghuozhong，zijintouruyueduo，xuqiuganjiuhuiyuezhong，tashizhengxiangguandeguanlian。

 yinci ，niderenshizijizaiyiduanguanlianzhongdexuqiugan。neiyangcaihuizaiyiduanlianaiguanxizhong，bujilingyifangdaozhimouzhongyiyideyali。

 wulunshixiangwanhuiyiduanguanlian，huanshiyaochijiudebaochiyiduanguanlian，bixuliuyixuqiugandezhangwo，youxiuderen，huimingbaizenyanggoujianhexiejiankangdelianaiguanxi，jilingyifangchongyudegerenkongjian，ranglingyifangjuedeshufushifangyali，zheijiushikeyiheliguanlizijidexuqiugan。

jiarujinjinyiweideyaoxiangzhanjulingyifangdeyiqie，huiranglingyifangchuanbuguoqi。

 bingqiehuiyouyunidexuqiuganguogao，zailingyifangyanzhongbianshinihenaita，daozhizishenzaizheiliduanguanlianlideshiyongjiazhiyidiandianjianshao，jinerbubeiaixi，maixiangtichufenshoude。

 jiangguozheimeduo，zuizhongyaodeyidianbianshi，niruhequbawolingyifangdeyaoqiu，zailingyifangyaoqiubeikaolvdezhuangkuangxia，nicaiyouzizhiqutanwanhui。

02

zheigeshihouyouxierenhuiwenle：“neimewoyoubushilingyifangduzilidejishengchong，zenyangcainengjingquefenbianchulingyifangdeyaoqiu?”

其实不是很难。

yigerendezhuiqiushizaixiangpipeiniantoudezhuangkuangxia，tuokuanchuqudejingshenshizhixuqiu。

aiqinglaiqiaomen,yejiushishuo，ruguonikeyiqiehelingyifangdeniantou，jiunengmanzuxuqiu。

那如何去切合念头?

niantouquanshiyousiweifangshicaozongheweihaide。

yinci ，congshizhishangeryan，ruguonikeyibawolingyifangdesiweifangshi，jiukeyizuochujiaoweijingquedefenbian。

 huanjuhuashuo，ruguoninengbianbiechulingyifangshilbkeguanhexindeluojisiwei，huanshirblixinghexindeluojisiwei，jiukeyizaiwanhuiquanguochengzhong，gengqiangde、gengyoumudexingdekaizhanshijicaozuo。

我举个事例：

 woyiqianyouyigexuesheng，tadenanyoushiqianglbluojisiwei，qiezhukongzhideren。liangrennaobieniufenshouhou，wodexueshengzenmenulidouwanhuibushang。

youyumeiyicitadoushihuizhiyilingyifang：“ninengbunenggaoqingchuwodeganshou?”

zuibijiaoyanzhongdeqingkuangxia，tananyoushenetongji，jiaruheimingdanlezheiyinvhai。

zheijiushiqiangrbluojisiweiquhuzhuangqianglbluojisiweishi，yidinghuizaochengdezhuangkuang。

 aiqingkeyiyou,zuizhongkendingshilbluojisiweiderenganjuerbluojisiweiderendaomanbujiangli，rbluojisiweiderenganjuelingyifangbushandaizijile。