爱情三十六计:用博弈挽回爱情

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 jinguannvhaimendoushihuishuo，zheileinantiwohaowuyiwenlejiea，yaoburanruhehuijiayueni。danshi，jiaoshixiangdeshishuo，haizhenbingbushimeiyigerendougaoqingchu，gaobudongderenshizhongshi“daizhehulihutuzhuanggaoqingchu”。

①wanliuyiqian，xianyaoqingxitaweishenmefenshou?niweishenmewanliu?

 lai，womenxianzhuyishuoxia：zuixiantichufenshou，shuobaile，shidajiadelianaiguanxixiaochule，dajiaganqingshangdeqinmiwujianqiaoliangduandiao。

 jianyanzhi，taduinishiquzouxialaidebulizhi，yonggecigaishubianshi:“aizhenidexinxin”meiyoule，ganjuenibushinageyaozouyibeizideren，buyitale。

 neima，nilei?youweiheyaowanliuni?lijideyuangukendingshihaishenaizhe，haiwangbudiao。gengduofangmiandeyuangushi，nixinxurumahaipingdingtashinageheshinideren，niduitayeyou“aidexinxin”。

zheijiushidajiarujinwanliufenqidedanxindian，tameiyoulexinxin，dannidexinxinrengzai。

 jibian xiangqianbianshuode，nichixudegenggairongmao、gaibianxingge、genggaiweirenchushifangfa，aiqingsanyuanlilunshizenyang？yaoshigenggaibushangtaduinishiqudeaidexinxin、zixinxin，neilifuhexingjiuyeyoushiwanbaqianlidejianju!

 yinci ，jinriwojuedejiangdejiushizheigeshier，yaorangdajiatounaogengyoudajuyishiyishi，kandegengzhangyuan、gengshencengciyixie。yaoranglingyifanggenjunidezhuanbian，youxinwangwaideganjuedajiahaishihe，zaicijieshouni、xiangxinni，haixiangrangnijiyu。

 fanzama?nanlejiema?xixinlvshunxia，huifajueyidianyebufanza。fanzadeshidajiayaodeguoduo，quehushilezuiweiguanjiande，neibianshi，zenyangyidiandianzhaodaolingyifangneikeaizheni、xinrengannideai。

②jiexiaqu，dajiaxiangjinjiangxia，zenyangzhonggoulingyifang“aidexinniangan”

wofeichangxihuanyingguoxinlixuezhuanjialuobote·genayisidejingdianshuji《aideboyi》。

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youshijiandenvhaimen，hebuduokanyixiazheibenshu，haowuyiwenhuoyifeiqian。

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 neima，shuodaodi，wanliudequanguocheng，tabianshiyizhongxinlizhuangtaidejiaofengheboyi。biaoshulezheimeduodingyi，xiabianjiaoshijidajiashijijiangxiawanliushijicaozuodejileiboyifangshi：

一、心理状态的博奕：赢在情绪控制、心态管理，是取胜的第一步。

 woshifendizhiyixienvhai，shangqujiuxuyaoshijixiaoguo，shuofuhexingjiufuhexing。youyuneiquanshichixinwangxiang，yejiushishuo，nikaogehaoxuexiao，zhaoyigehaodegongzuo，nayigebingbushiouxinlixuexiuxigebanianyue，caiyongyouzhihoudehaojieguo。

 wanliu，genbiedequanbuxiuxingdeshieryiyang，bixuyige“du”zi。nenggoubiaoshuwei，niliangyingduitichufenshou，doubixuyiduanshijiandechending、xianjie，zhibuguoshixuduo nvhaimeichengguoqu，xinlizhuangtaixianbengle。

huanjuhuashuo，wojuedezheijiushiyizhong“xinlizhuangtaideboyi”。

wohaizaizhiqiandewenzhangneironglijiangguoxiabulaishijici，wanliuguanjiandebudanshigenggai，yeyouxinlizhuangtaidediaojiehefazhan。

 weiyounidedequequerangzishendexinlizhuangtaiwanshan、fazhanqilai，yingduiwanliuyouyigeyouliangdezishi，tacaikeyijianjiandifajuenidehao，congerzaicidianranduiniaidexinniangan

neima，yaoxiangzai“xinlizhuangtaiboyi”zhongchuzailiyububaizhidi，yixiajigefangmianshidajiawubibaozhengde：

1.提升 抗严厉打击工作能力，学好延迟满足。

 yaowozixundehenduo20suinvhai，renshengdaoluganggangfazhan，meijingliguonaxiejiannanxianzu、renshengdaolucuobai，fenshouhouyingdangsuanzuotouyizaoyingtoubanghe。

 yinci ，gangkaishijiushoubule，ruguowanliudequanguocheng，pengdaobeijujue、jindumandezhuangkuang，yeshichabusi、fanbuyuan，yitiandaowankutianmolei、huixinsangqi

 aiqingsanshiliuji,kenixuyaolejie，renshengruciduodefengchuiyuda，tichufenshoudanshibianshigejidanlitiaogutou，yinci ，.woshuodajiadexinlizhuangtaihenzhongyao，mingbai“yanchimanzu”gengguanjian

 yanchimanzu，jiushizhiweilegenghaodizhangjiude、genggaodequanyiertongyijianhuanhuoshisheqixianjieduande、jiaoxiaodekaolv，yebeichengzuotangguoxiaoying。

 tongsuyidianbiaoshubianshi，dajiatashizai“fangzhangxian、diaodayu”，zaiwanliuqudechenggongqian，zheixiedeyushicuobaidoubietaifangzaixinshang，yaoshijilaojieguoshitiande、shihaode，huaizhelianghaodexintaiduidai，jiukeyile。

2.不必一步三看，犹豫不决，务必有信心恒心。

zaishuo，ruguonitisheng leduijianglaiwanliuquanguochengjianxindudeyuqi，niyeyaosuzaoyizhong“buzhuangnanqiangbuhuitou”dexinxin。

 zenmejiang?jiushi，nixuyaolejie，zheijianshiqingbuneimafeichangrongyi，tameineimakuaihehaoruchu，niyeyoujiaozhangyiduanluyaozou。zuohaozhunbei，jiujianchibuxie。

 woquangaozhuweiyiliangju，zouyibukanyibude，wanliuquanshizhongtuyaowang。jiugendajiaduheyigedadaoli，yizhijuqibuding、xinxuruma，laidaohezhengduimiandehenyoukenengjichuweiling!

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3.调低对他的希望，考虑他对你的希望。

 aiqingqianguize,《zhifou，zhifou》zhong，youyijushuodefeichanghao“yiqiezuihaoshibubitaijixiwangyutaren，dahuoerdoushiyoufenbiedekunnan，queshiyaojixiwangyu，yebukeyiguoduoguoshen。jixiwangyuyueduo，mianbulexinhan，xinhanyiduo，jiushengxianxi，xianxiyisheng，chouhenjiuqi，shenghuojiushangxinle。