爱的理论:如何成功克服挽回焦虑友

 renyidantichufenshou，douhuipengdao2getiaoxuan：yishigaobieguoqujixuqianxing，xunzhaoxindexiangchumubiao。aiderenershixiangfangshefayaoxianghuishenzhuihuiqianren，xunzhaofuhexing。jinridajiataolunhoumianyizhong，nixuyaojilaodeshi，wanliu，shiyigequanguocheng，bingbushiyigezishi，jubeilianxuxinghejianbianxing。neimeaidelingyizhongcunzaiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaidelilundewenzhangba。

 zaiwanliuzheiyiquanguochengzhong，chongmanlexuduo debianhua。yiner，yaoxiangyicuerjiu，bianshikongxiang。neimafanhuishijizhizhong，jiaruzainimaixiangwanliudelumianshang，pengdaolezulan，benlaireqingruhuodezixinxinbeiyingmianyipenlengshuijiaoshang。zheigeshihou，biehuixinsangqi，huitouxunshi，renchulaitadaodishishei，buguyiqiedi“panta”——jianqingxiwangxingjiaolv。

 wanliuqingkuangxiazaochengde，xiwangxingjiaolvhuichuxianerzhongganshou：yishigouxianghoudexiwangjiaolvqingxuganshou，ershixingdonghoudexiwangjiaolvqingxuganshou。liangzhedoujizhonghuayuxianghudeyaosubianshixunzhaofuhexingshi，zuochuwanliuxingdonghoudexiwangjiaolvqingxuganshou。

 niwubilejiedaodeshi，wanliushidexiwangxingjiaolvganshoubaohanrentihexinlizhuangtailiangyibufenjiaolvqingxu。yaoxiangjianqingyinxiwangerzaochengdejiaolvqingxuxingaijingli，niwubianliuchengkaiqi：

wanhuiqingganshi，shibushinijubeixiwangxingjiaolv?

budongzhuangdongyiqian，woxiangyaoniqingxi2genanti：shenmeshijiaolv?younaxiezhengzhuangzhuyaobiaoxian?

什么是焦虑：

 damokelisizhiren——lianxuxingjiaolvqingxuganshou。yongguxilashenhuaduinishuodebingzhengshifoufuhexingjiaolvqingxu：aiderendamokelisishigongyuan4xinshijixibanyaxulagudejianzhudiaonixiusiershidezhuchen，tafeichangxihuantaohaodiaonixiusi。

 tataohaodao：zuoweiyigeyouzhequanliheweixingdemingren，diaonixiusiqueshihenhaoyun。diaonixiusijianyiyutajiaohuanyitiandezhenshishenfen，neitajiukeyishizhedaotoulingdeyunshi。zaiwanshangjubandeyanxili，damokelisishifenxiangyoubianchengjunwangdejuede。dangwanfankuaiwanbideqingkuangxia，tayangtoucaizhuyidaodiweishangbianjinyongyigenmazongxuanjiazhedeliren。tamashangshiquduitesemeishihemeinvdexingquaihao，bingyaoqiujianzhuhulveta，tacongcibuyuanhuodeneiyangdehaoyun。

 shehuixinlixueshijiyiyibianshi，nisuoxiwangyouzhede，huijinijuedelianxuxingjiaolvqingxu。rutongniyaofuhexingyiyang，xiwangfuhexing，huijinishenganjiaolvqingxu。

 liru，nixiwangtayunifuhexing，keshidouhaimeiwanliu，wulunnishigouxianghou，huanshiwanliuxingdonghou，denghoudezheiyiquanguochengzhizhong，nidewanliujiaolvqingxujiugangkaishizaocheng。

主要表现和种类：

 aidelingyizhongcunzai,gouxianghouxiwangxingjiaolvganshou：bianshinicongjiadingnizuochuxingdong，qinfenwanliu，daonidejiadingjieguo，zhanxianchunisuodanxindeneiyizhonghenyoukenengyijing，bixuliuyideshi，zheizhongquanshiniwugugouxiangchuqude。

 liru，nizuochuwanliuxingdong，jiarutongdianhua、faweixinlianluota，ruguotabujiedianhuawonengzuoshenme?ruguotabuhuiwoweixinwonengzuoshenme?jiaruyuetachuqupengmian，ruguotahuijuewolewonengzuoshenme?jiaruwozhaota，ruguotakanbudaowo，wonengzuoshenme?

 liru，nizuochuwanliugouxiang，nigouxiangyongjiaoyouruanjianyutakaizhanlianluo，lingyifangmeiyoumashanghuiying，neima，nideluojisiweiganshouyishunjianzaochengjiaolvqingxu：tabuaiwole，dajiawanquanmeijiu，wogaizenmezuo?wogaizenmezuo?......

 wushu“jiaru......ruguo......wonengzuoshenme”degouxiangbeinifangzhenmonichengshiji，ganshouzhenzhengdejiaolvqingxu，

nideguannianzhongqueshifashenglezheiyimu，xinxujinghuangzhong，nidegouxianghouwanliujiaolvqingxuxingaijinglicongcizaocheng。

 aidelilun,youyunixiwangfuhexing，yaoxiangwanliu，youbukeyiraoguoshijianheqinfendequanguocheng，yuezheji，jiaolvqingxuxingaijingliyuexianzhu。