爱的光，降低前任抵触心理

 aideguang,benlaixinxinmanman，keyidantaruwanhuilumianshang，queyizaicuobai。zheiyidingjiushinixinlingshenchudehuhan。neimeaideganjueyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaidehanyidewenzhangba。

 jibian duinilaishuo，nisuozhuyaobiaoxianchuqudeyiqie，douchengxinshizu，danluozaitadeyanli，queshibubujinbi，poshitazuochurangbu。

 taqidaizou，niqidailiu，zaiyikaishi，dajiadeyishibianshiyouyidingdemaodunde，yinci wulunnizhuyaobiaoxianchuruhedechengxin，dandoubushitaqidaide，naizhihetaxinlisuogandechedifanguolai，tayouzenmekenengyuanyinilei?

 wanhuihennan，jiushinizhuyaobiaoxianchuqudefuhexingchongdong，shitashengangongzuoyali，tazhidianjizhetaochuhebikai。ruocishiniyaoguannianbushangtapaichideyuangu，naizhihuidanchunxingdeganjue，nidechengxinmeifachudongta，yincisipilailian，pinlemingwanhui，danzuihouyezhiyoujiakuaidajiaguanliandeliekai。

 xiangwanhuiqiannanyou，jiuxuyaojiangdilingyifangdepaichixinlizhuangtai。ziran，zheijiudaibiaozhenixuyaoshaopuluwanhuiyaoqiu，aideguang,nisuozhuyaobiaoxianchudexuqiuganyueshao，taduinidepaichiyeyuedi。

 danshi，nishibushixiangguo，jibian jiangdipaichi，danshiduoshaohuanshiyoudeni?zheijiuxiangyaonihuangefangshi，hetazuodaoqinggangongming。nulizuodaozheiyidian，jiuxuyaojiyulingyifang：chongzudelejie。

1.给与了解，提升共鸣点

nimeilejieta、tichuzhiyita→tapaichini

nijiangdiyaoqiu，yibutichuzhiyi→taxiufuningjing

nijiyulejie→tajianshaofangyuli，naizhijijiqinmijiechuni

 dabufen，zaiwanhuideqianchezhanzhong，dajiadeguanlianjiuzheiyangde，zheibingbingbushidanchunxingdeyigeanliuyongdongdequanguocheng，zhishinijiyutahuanjiedexintai，tabianhuirangnifeikuandexintai。

 erruguonigangkaishizishenzhengli，jiyuyouxiaodebiaoshu，lingwaizaigentadelunshuzhong，biaoshuchuduitadelejie，taduinidexintailikebianhuibuyiyang。

nanshizuibixudebianshinidelejie，dangtamingbainizaoyigaoqingchuta、lejietashi，tashiduoshaodoushihuibianruanchulai。

 nanshizuibixudebianshinidelejie，dangtamingbainizaoyigaoqingchuta、lejietashi，tashiduoshaodoushihuibianruanchulai。dannizheileiziwofanshengheshiya，queshifeichangjiandande，nengrangdajiazhongjianfenqikuaisujianshaodefangfa。

2.心态正确引导

 zishenshiya，youxiaodebiaoshu，nengshitajiaoda shuipingdexuehuifangxiafangbeixinlizhuangtai。danzaitadexinlingshenchu，yezhirangdajiazhongjiandeguanlianzaicizhongguipenyoudeguanlian。zhongjiu，shangyiduanganqingjiaojitadeheiying，bingweichedijiejue，ruozaizheishihounijuedezheijiushifuhexingdezuijiashiji，bingerweifuzhushijian，neizhihuirangdajiadeguanlianzaidumaixiangbingdu。

 zheigeshihou，haibingbushimingquetichufuhexingdeshidujihui。rujindetabupaichini，buyiweizhejiuburongyipaichidajiadeganqing，taxiangdeshilinshizheiban，buyuanyoubiedezhuanbian。

 aidehanyiyounaxieni？zheijiubixugenjunidexintaishangdezhengqueyindao，shidudeqingkuangxiajiyuanshizhe。ziran，zheijiukanzhenidegongzuonengli，jirantabupaichiyunidegoutongjiaoliu，neimejiuzaizheigeshangbianhenxiagongfu。

zhaotaxiaidehuatitaolun，goujianqingqingsongsongdeqifen，shitaxiaishangneiyangdeqifen，dajiadeguanliancaihuihuodexunsushengji。

3.暖味升級

dangdajiadeguanlianhuodehuanjie，jiuxuyaokaolvdaozhaojihuirangxianghudeguanlianshengji。

 ziran，zhijieshuofuhexing，henyoukenenghuirangxianghudangzhongchuchou。cikejiubixurangdajiazhongjiandenuanweishengji，jinguanliaodaohao，danzhongjiuhuanshiyaotaruneiyibude。

 zenyanghuodetishengni?youwangshangdaoxianxiatuiguang，xianshangxiachengxiannidegenggai，zhuyaobiaoxiannidefengcai，yongxiaoshouhuashuheshidudechupengheqinmijiechu，goujiannuanweiqifen，rangxianghudeguanlianshengji，bianshizuihaoshidefangfa。

 zheiyangyilai，jiuxiangyaoniyouyidingdegenggai，yichengbubianzhihuirangnanshijuedekuzaofawei，danqudejinbuhegenggai，shikeweichishenmigan，bianhuishitayoubuyiyangdeganshou。erruguoniderenqizhichixutigao，niyehuifajuetademuguanghuiyizhizhuisuizheni。

 aideganjueyoushenme？tishengnuanwei，shengjixianghudeguanlian，yagenhuanshiqujueyunidegenggai，weiyouniyuelaiyuegengchuse，caikeyirangnanshixiangyaozainideshenshangxiangmutouzi，rangnidaliangdeguanxin，rangnigengjiashenrudeganqing。