什么才算爱?分手后他说想冷静一下，你该怎么办？

 shenmeshiai?henduorensiliaowo，shuozishenzaigenlingyifangfenshouyihou，pengdaoleyigejiaoweinankandezhuangkuang：neimeshenmecaisuanai?aiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanshenmejiaoaidewenzhangba。

bianshilingyifangshuoxianglizhiyixia，suihouyebujijixunzhaozijile。

jinguanzishenxiangjizhewanliu，keshiyoudanxindebuchangshi，haiyouderenyagenbuqingchunaxiejihuiquxuanzeshihe。

shijishang，woxianggaosunideshi——

fenshouhoutashuodaoxianglizhiyixia，niyidingyaojinzaoyouxingdong，yaoburanniyejiuhuizaiduanqineineiwanquansangshizheiyiduanguanlian。

为什么呢?

xiancongzimianyisilailejie。

 shuobailedelizhi，bianshixianlenghoujing。liangrendeguanliangangkaishilengmochulai，congyiqiandegaopinlvguanxinlingyifangqingkuang，bianchenglemobuguanxin、ailibuli。

 zailingyifangmanmanrongruleneiyangdexinmoshiyihou，tahuigangkaishiyouyiduanshijianzuozhenshideziji，shenmeshiai?naizhiganjuedanshenhuoshifenshoubingmeiyoushenmekepade，zheijiujinrule“jing”dehuanjie。

jing，bianshiliangrendelianluogangkaishimoranhua，wanquanwuhuakeliao。

neizheigeshihou，conggecengmianeryan，dajialiangrenjiudouzaoyibaituochuzheiyiduanguanlianle。

zheiyejiushiweihewojiangtaxianglizhideqingkuangxia，yidingbubijitamenzheiyijiyudeyuangu。

ziran，niyebieguoduolejie。

 bubiganjuewojiangbubijitamenlizhidejiyu，bianshimeirichixusaoraodianhua、xinxihongzha，zheileizhuangkuangzongshishitazaochengdichuqingxu，jiakuaifangqini。

nixuyaozuodeshi，zaitayoucikejiandeqingjingzhong，bulushengsedequweihaita。

buzaijijigoutongjiaoliudezhuangkuangxia，jinxingduitaxinlizhuangtaideweihai。

bianshibuzaigoutongjiaoliuzhongjinxinggoutongjiaoliu。

实际该怎么做呢?

yaolejieruhezuo，jiuwubilejietayaoxianglizhiyiduanshijiandeyuangu。

zhongjiu，nixuyaojiejuekunnan，jiudexianlejienantichuzainaer。

rutongwoyizhizaijiangde，yaoxiangquweihailingyifangdexinlizhuangtaihegerenxingwei，jiuxuyaoxianzhangwoshizhideniantouheyuangu。

shijishang，zheixieyierzaizaiersanshuozhe“bixulizhiyixia”dedajia，nenggoufenweiliangleilaiduidai。

01.躲避型情侣。

zheileirenbianshizuibianshuozhe“woxiangjingjing”，qishishichedi“haipayingdui”deren。

zaishenrufenxiyidianeryan，zheixiechangshuobixujingjingdiren，yingduibushangdeshizhengliandemaodunhezhengchao。

 zheileirenquanshimeifalijijiejue“richangshenghuodejibenmaodun”dezhonglei。huanjuhuashuo，dangguanlianzhongchuxianlezhengchaohezhengzhideqingkuangxia，xiangbilijiyingdui，tamengengquxiangyu“duobi”。

dangneiyangyigerenzaiguanlianzhongchengdanbushangneiyangdezhengchaochanshengdegongzuoyalizhishi，bianhuishunlichengzhangdechechuzheiyiduanguanlian。

erqie，dabufenzhuangkuangxia，huiyong“woxiangjingjing”yeyangdetuoci，zuoweiduobideyuanyin。

jiarunizhengzaoyuzheileizhuangkuang，zuihaoshikeyihetashizhetihuishangde“tongping”。

huanjuhuashuo，ninengchangshiganshouyixiatazhenduizhengchaohemaodundehaipa，suihoucongzheiyidiankaolv，dadaotihuitongping。

02.担心型情侣。

lingyizhongtabixujingjingdiqingkuang，jiaoweiduojianyushijianjiaowangjiaoduandeqinglvzhijian。

 shenmejiaoai?zaizheileiqingkuangxia，tashuodaoyaoxiangjingjingdiqingkuangxia，youfeichangdajilvshizai“xuehuifangxia”yu“huishou”zhongjiandanxin。

 youyudajiajiaowangdeshijianjiaoduan，tahenkenengganjuedajiazhongjianyeyouhenduodongximeiyoufajuechuqu，yeyouhenduodongximeiyouqushizhe，tayebuquedingxingyongyouxinganqingjiuburongyichunanti。

zheileirenshijiaoweilixingde，danyejiushiyouyuzheiyifenlixing，shitashenxiandaodanxinzhizhong。

 jiarunipengdaodeshizheiyizhongzhuangkuang，zuizhongyaodeshier，bianshijinzaoyunyongtahaiduinicanliudehaoganduhexintai，zuoyixieshunxiangdeshijicaozuo。yunyongzheizhongxintaishizhequgouqilingyifanghaodetihuihejiyili，zuodaowanliudemudi。

 shenmecaisuanai?jiarunanyishixiandehua，haikeyishizhezaixianghujianchuangjianyixiexindejiaocuodian，shizhequwajueyixiexinxiandejuede。congzheiyishijiaoquzaicilianjieqiliangrendetihuiheguanlian，yeshiyizhongjiaoweibianjiehelidefangfa。