感情真相 你为什么会选错爱人？

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1.你弄错了人是由于你希望他/她在结婚后会更改

 zuijingdiandebuzhengque。shizhongbubiwei“gailv”wanhun。guilvxingshi，jiaruniherujindeta/tazaiyiqibuxingfukuaile，bubiwanhun。wodeyigepengyouhenyoushenghuozhelidehuizong：ninengxiwangta/tazaijiehunhouhuigenggai，keshishichaohuaideerbushihaodefangwei!

 yinci zhenduilingyifangdexinnian，weiren，benrenjiejingdu，goutongfangshi/fangfa，hebenrenxiguanxing，shikaolvdaonishibushinengjienamuqianqingkuangbingliangzhezhijianhemuxiangchu。

2.你弄错了人是由于相比为人，你更重视“触电的感觉”

 “chudianshigu”dejuedehuiyinqijiqing，erhaodeweirencaikeyiweichijiqing。ganqingzhenxiang,yidingdangxinzhuiruqingwangzheileizhuangkuang，yinweitajingchangshishishangyiweizhezhe“wozhuiluolechongdong”。dajiaxianghuxiyinzhu，dannishibushizixideliuyiguozheigerendeweiren?

xialieshijigeguanjiandeweirenbiaozhun：

(1)qianxun。zheigerenshibushijianxinxiangbibenrendegerensuode/xiangyou，renyingdang“zuozhengquedeshi”?

 (2)shanjierenyi。zheigerenshibushixiaibangzhutaren?ta/tazenyangkandaizheixiebixushanjierenyikandaideren(liruqitaozhe，laonianren，dongwu)?ta/tashibushizuoyiwulaodong?huoshigongyijuankuan/juankuanjuanwu?

(3)shiminggan。jiaruta/tashuoguoyaozuoshashi，woshifoukeyishidequejianxinta/tahuizhixing?

(4)manzugan。zheigerenshibushixiaizishen?ta/tashifouxiangshourensheng?ta/tashibushiwendingqingxu?

 wenyiwenniziji：wojuedebuxiangxiangzheigerenyiyang?wojuedebuyuanheneiyangyigerenchuanzongjiedai?jiarushiwoxiaohai，wojuedebuyuanrangwomendehaizichengzhangweizheiyangderen?

3.ninongcuolerenshiyouyuzheigenanrenbumingbainvrendebixu

nanrennvrendouyouyuzhongbutongdeganqingbixu，ershijishang，nanshengchangchangshihunyinguanxizhong“tongqiao”deneiyige。

 nvrenyuzhongbutongdeganqingbixubianshi“shenai”——bianshi“jiushiwolaogongshengmingzhongzuizhongyaoderen”deganqing。erlaogongbixufendaolaopopingwende，gaopinzhidezhuanzhuli。

 youtaijiaozhenduihunyinguanxi，zheileiquxiangyouqixianzhu。laogongwubikaolvlaopozhenduiqinmiwujiangandebixu，erqiezailianggerendeqinmiwujiangerenxingweizhong，laoposhizhidingbiaozhundeyifang。youyuzaizheiliyixingye，nanrenshi“zongtimubiaopai”。yiweiconghuidenvshicengqiangdiaoguo，nanshengjinyou2gedang，kaihuoshiguan，ernvrengengweizhongshijuedequanguocheng。dangnanrenkeyihuandangdao“quanguochengpai”，tahuifajueshilaopogengweixingfukuailedemimi。

4.你弄错了人是由于大家沒有同样的人生目标和整体规划

chuangjianlianggerenzhongjiandepingwenguanlianbixusantiaojichubiaozhun：

(1)xianghuzhijianxiyinzhuheheshi。

(2)youxianghuxingquaihao/xihao。

(3)youtongyang/xiangfangderenshengmubiao。

 hunqian，kegumingxindezhangwolingyifangderenshengmubiao。hunhou，liangrenhuoshifazhanweiheerweiyi，huoshifazhanweigefenwupin，weilegenghaodifangzhigefenwupin，nixuyaozainiyaodanshendeqingkuangxialejiedaoniweileshenmeerhuo，suihouzhaoxunnagejieguoyunigerensuodeleisideneiren。

 zheicaisuanshizhongshenbanlvdezhenshihanyi。zhongshenbanlvbianshizongtimubiaoairen，liangrenduirichangshenghuodezongtimubiaoheshijiyiyiyongyou tongyangdeguandian，yineryoutongyangdejiazhiguannian，zhengtiguihuahexiwang。

5.你弄错了人是由于太早的产生婚姻关系

 zaitantaohunyinyiqianchanshenghunyinguanxishigehendadenanti，yinweitachangchangtuichishijianzhenduiguanjiannantidexiangxiqiechengxindetaolun。routiguanxichangchanghuizuaiyiqiezhengchangdesisuo，erzaiqianqueyiqiezhengchangsisuodezhuangkuangxia，renshiburongyizuochuqiadangtiaoxuande。

 yibanlaijiang，weilegenghaodizhengshiliangrenshibushirentiheyansuokaizhande“shiyan”shimeiyoubixude。ruguoniyouyidingdejibenchangshi，erqieliangrenzaiganqinghedanaocengmiandouheyan，nishimeiyoubixudanyourentishifouhuiheyande。zaiquanbukexueyanjiuliyidediaoyanzhong，fuqishenghuobuhexiejibenshangcongweichuxianzailiyideguanjianyuanguzhong。

6.你弄错了人是由于你俩/她沒有深层次的沟通交流

kaoliangzheiyitiaodeguifanshi“woshibushizhongshierqiejingyangzheigeren?”

 zheigewentibingbudengtongyuyu“woshibushijuedetahenlihai?”yiliangbenchisyehuirangwomenliuyoushenkedeyinxiang，dandajiabingbuhuiyouyubierenkailexinkuanbenchierzhongshita。yigerenlingrenzhongshidepinxingxiangxianglifengfu，zhongshi，hengxin，zheixie。

 lingyigenantijiushiwoxiangbuganxiangxinzheigeren?huoshi“zheiyirendeqingxushibushipingwen?wohaizaita/tashenpangshibushiyouguishugan?”

7.你弄错了人是由于他/她不可以出示你感情上的归属感

wenyiwennizijixialiedenanti：

 zaizheigerenshenpangwoshibushijuedeningjingbingqieshifangyali?zaita/tayanqianwoshifoukeyishichedishifangyalizishen，zuozhenshideziji?zheigerenshifouyaowojuedefeichanghao?

jiaruniyouyigehenqinmiwujiandepenyounengrangjinizhishangjuede，neimaqingyidingzhaoyigenengrangniyiyangjuededeairen!

 nidanxinta/tadeyiqieyigecengmianma?nimeiyingdangjuedenixuyaoliuyizailingyifangshenpangshuoxieshenmefangzhilingyifangduinizaochengguandian。jiarunidanxinxiangta/tatanchengxiangjiandebiaoshunideyijianyujianyi，neimazheiyiduanguanlianzhongcunzaidewenti。

 guishugandelingyigeyinsujiushinibuganjuelingyifangzaicaozongni。guoqiangdecaozonggerenxingweihelingnvechangchangshixiongdiguanxi。yaodangxinzheixieyizhichangshigenggainideren。“caozong”he“tiyi”zhongjianyoufeichangdadequbie--tiyishiweilegenghaodininhao，ercaozongzeshiweilegenghaodita/tahao。tiyiyibanshizhenchengde“zuorinijianghuayoudianerchonga~”huoshi“neiyangjianghuadanshihuirongyidezuirendeni”，ercaozongyibanhanyoufudaitiaojian“niruguozaiganneibanjianghua，woye。。。ni”zheierdejuhaonenggoushiyiqiedexingrongciliru“da”，huoshixintai“taoyan”huoshibiaozhun)

8.你弄错了人是由于大家沒有以诚相待

 lianggerendeguanlianzhong，yiqiecunzaidebuzudouyingdangbeitantao。jinguanyixiehuatitaolunrangrenbuyue，danzheizhonghuatitaolunshiweiyinengkaoliangdajiashifoukeyishihaohaodigoutongjiaoliu，renranghegongtongfendoudebiaozhun。yishengzhong，kunnanshiqihenantishimeifafangzhide。zaidajiazuochuhunyinfuwuchengnuoyiqian，nixuyaolejiedajialiangrenshibushikeyicunxiaoyierqiudatong，xianghuweijiejuewentizuochuqinfen。

 buyaohaiparanglingyifanglejieshenmeshiershinibuyue。zheiyeshikaoliangniyizhizaita/tayanqiankefouwailunimianruan/minganyimiandeguifan。jiarunibukeyixuehuifangxiakaijia，neimaliangrenbutaikenengxingyingbuli。

9.你弄错了人是由于你用两人的关联来躲避个人问题和日常生活的不如意

 jiarunirujindanshenqiebukaixin，neimanihenkenengjielehunhuanshibukaixinde。hunyinshibukeyichulibenrende，xinlizhuangtaishangdenghuoshixintaishangdenantide。ruguoyouyiqiexiaoyong，hunyinzhihenyoukenengjiangmuqiannantibianda。

 jiaruniduizishenherujinderichangshenghuobumanyi，neimajianfuqizaidanshenshichulizheizhongnantideyiwu。ninengjuedegengqiang，danniweilaidelingyibanyehuixiexienide。

10.你弄错了人是由于他/她正处于三角关系中

 sanjiaoguanxibingbuyidingzhitanlianaihuoshihunyinguanlian，disanjiaonenggoushiyiqielingyifangguoduojiyuganqingderenhuowu——liru，yigebukeyicongfumuneibianjingshenduliderenbianshigefeichanghaodeshili。youderenguoduoyikaohuoshijiyudedisanjiaokenengshihuaxuewuzhihuoshijingshenshizhishangde，lirugongzuozhong，bingdu，hulianwang，gerenxingquaihao，xiaochongwu，jianshenyundonghuoshiqiancai。

 ganqingwentizaixianzixun:dangxinsikaoniyunilianrenzhengzhongjiandesanjiaoguanxi。yigeyongyou “disanjiao”derenchangchangmeiyouchongzudeganqingshengyulaimanzunidebixu。nikendingbuhuishita/tazuigaoduzhongshideren，erzheileizhuangkuang，bingbushihunyindejiben。