爱的信号,如何分辨爱、迷恋和欲望?

 aideyishuyoushenmeni？wulunnishizailianaizhong，huanshizhengyuanyuanzhiaibieren，liqingxizishendeganjuedoubingbushiyijianfeichangrongyideshiqing。jinguanmeiyouyitiaojianbianyixingdejindaobianbieniduibierendaodishiruhedeganjue，danshiqueshijigefangshinenggouxiezhuninenggougenghaodilejiezijideganqing。yizhaoxialiezheizhongtiyi，niyejiunengzishenfenbianai、chimi，hechongdongzheijileibuyiyangdeganjuele。neimeaideyanjingyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaidexinhaodewenzhangba。

1、正确认识你到底把另一方当做一个人還是一件物件。

 nimingzhidaozheiyirenderuodian，yiranguanzhuzheta(ta)。jiusuanzaizuijiannandeqingkuangxianiyeduilingyifangbuqibuli。aideyishuyoushenmeni？ninenggaozhilingyifangyouguanzishendeyiqieshi，jiusuanshierdeshiqingduinibingbuyouyi，erqieniyeqingxidilejielingyifanghuijienani。

2、评定一下你的归属感。

nilejiebuguanzenyang，nidebanlvdoushihuizhichini，niyezhunbeihaoyaoyulingyifangxieshougongduyisheng。

3、想一想你处于这一段关联中早已有多久。

nizaoyilejiezheigerenhenzhangqi，wufaxiangxiangmeiyouta(ta)richangshenghuohuishishenmeyangzi。

4、观查夫妻生活对你的感情有什么危害。

 aideyanjingzaiyunidebanlvfashengxingguanxiyihou，nijuedehelingyifangdejianjugengjinle。duinieryan，jinguannikewangjiqingzhihuobuxi，keshiganqinghehuanaiyihoudexiangyongyuxingzishenyiyangguanjian。

5、思索你怎样看待另一方。

 gongzuoshangfashenglequweideshi，nijibukenaijiuxianggaosunidebanlv。ciwai，jiarunijinglilebuyukuaideshi，niyaozhaoyigenenggoulejieniderenjiaoxin。jiaruruguoniyaoxianggongxiangxinlishenchudeniantoushi，nidebanlvshinidediyihouxuanren，neimaniyexuqueshishenxianlewenrouxiang。

6、看一下你怎样解决矛盾。

 ruguonihebanlvchanshengmaodunshi，dajiahuiyizhiqinfen，zhizhidadaomouleidegongshi。buguanzenyangzhengchao，doumeifaxiangdidajiaduixianghudefuwuchengnuo，erniyehuiduinidebanlvbiaoluzhenyanxincunganen，jibian shihuashuochulaihuiyixiezhishang。

7、当大家的关联更进一步时，考虑一下你对于此事的体会怎样。

 niyunidebanlvzaiyiqiganjuehenshufu，aidexinhao,huichuxianjiaoqiangdexinlaigan。tongjushenghuohuoshiwanhundejuecehuijiniganjueshilisuoyingdang、shunlichengzhangdeshi。