爱的日记,寻找另一半的标准

 aideshigetiaojianyoushenme？muqingaozhinijuede：zhaojiehunduixiangjiuxuyaozhaokekaode，youpingwenshouyi，congmingnenggan，yeyaoyoufangyouche!neimeaidesefangyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaiderijidewenzhangba。

nidenvxingshuo：zhaoxintengni，tengni，aizheni，shizhongjiangnifangdaodiyiweide!

nidenanxingpengyoushuo：zhaozhangdepiaoliangde，huizhaoliaorende，biedededoubutaiguanjian!

niyaotingjianchengqianshangwanrenshuo：zhaogerenaihaotongyang，jiazhiguannianyizhide!

neimanidaodiyingdangyongnaxiedeguifanxunzhaogennihuanduzhongshendelingyiban?

huoshiguigenjiediyoumuyouyigezaoyibeiquerendenenggoushiwomengengxingfukuailedefenbianlingyibandeguifanni?

wojuedelingwaiduinishuoyigexixunheyigeehao：

 xixunshi：xinlixuezhuanjiazaoyiyongchengqianshangwandezhangqixingshiyanrenzhenglenenggoushiwomengengxingfukuailedelingyibantexingyoushenme，aideshigetiaojianyoushenme？yinci nichedinenggouyizhaoyigeguifanxunzhaonidemr./missrightle!

ehaoshi：nizijihenyoukenenghaidabushangzheiyiguifan!neizenmebanni，xiaotingwogenniweiweiertan。

你要问一问自身：在一段长期性的婚姻关系之中，我还在另一个人的身上找寻什么特性?

【zongtixingqingtexing:dawurenge】

 aidesefang,dawurengeshishehuixinlixuelijingdiandexingqingjichulilun，taguanjianbaohanwugecengmian：kaifangshi(openness),jinzhixing(conscientiousness),xinggewaixiangxing(extraversion),yirenxing(agreeableness),andshenjingzhirenge(neuroticism)。

 kaifangshi(opennesstoexperience):zhenduizaoxingyishu、ganqing、tanxian、buxunchangdeniantou、xiangxiangli，haoqixinhegeshigeyangganshoudeshangxi;

 jinzhixing(conscientiousness):yizhongxianchuziwoyueshu、chengdanzerenerqieyizaojiuweidaoxiangxingdequxiang;youmudexingerbushijixingbiaoyandegerenxingwei;

xinggewaixiangxing(extraversion):youdongneng，jijixintaierqiexunzhaocijixinghebierendeshouhou;

 yirenxing(agreeableness):yizhongpojuzerenxinerqiexiangyaogenbierenxiezuo，erbushicaiyihuoshipaichitarendegexingquxiang;

 shenjingzhirenge(neuroticism):yizhongjiaoweifeichangrongyiganshoudaofumianqingxudexingqingquxiang，lirunaonu、jiaolvqingxu、yiyuzhenghuoshishimingan;youshibeichengzuoxintaiduobianxing。

 aideriji,xinlixuezhuanjiarobertshedelvecchiozai2000niandeqingkuangxiafabiaolunwen，zaitamenzuodejiangjin20niandekexueyanjiuzhongfajue，dajiadedawurengezaidajiasanshisuishangxiajiuyuelaiyuexiangduiwending，erqienanyigenggai(hunyinshenghuomeifagenggai)。