爱一个人有错吗?势均力敌的感情才最牢固

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 shijunlidizhongyaotixianzaiqingganshang，zailiangrendexuecai、xingge、huigan、gerenaihaohexihaoshang，haitixianzaishenjia、zhuangkuangshang。wulunnishitanlianaisuiyihaishinvhaixiangqin，jirandahuoerzaojiuxuanzelezaiyiqi，neimelingyifangburongzhiyiyinweiyouninengkandeshangyan，bingqieyuanyilingyifangzuotanan/nvpengyoudeyixieyinsu。

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■情感是一个平衡系统

 zaiqingganfangmian，henyoukenengyinweichuduixiangzuichudemude/xiangfabuyiyangerdaozhierzhongqingkuang。tanlianaisuiyideaidebijiaoshen，nvhaixiangqinerzaiyiqideaidebijiaoqian。danbulunshiqianbianyizhonghaishihoubianyizhong，zaiqingganshangxianghuzijintouruyudedao de(huotamenyaoxiangde)nengweichiyigepingheng，jiushishijunlidi。

 yinweiqingganzheigedongxidezaocheng，biranshilianggerendexianghuzhijianxiyin，jiezhexianghuzhijianzhidiancainenggouzaocheng。qinggandezaocheng，shiyigepinghengdexitong，bingbingbushiyinweinidetaohaoerbeixiyin。zaitaohaodefangfali，dangyigerenfangqilezizunxinergenchucizhiwaiyigerenzaiyiqidezhuangkuangxia，yejiusangshidulijingshen，bianweiyizhongyilaiyu，zheileiyilaiyudaozhi lexitongdeshiheng，qingganbianbunengzaocheng。jiusuan zaochengyeshifenzanshixing，mashangbianhuidaozhichucizhiwaiyigerendebushufu，zhihouqingganyejiujijikeweile。

■学才、性格等方面相对平稳

 erxuecai、xinggedengfangmiandepinghengyeshiruci，henyoukenengnidexueligao，lingyifangdedi，danshilingyifangyouhenduoewaidecainenggou，dannimeiyou，wulunzheiyiduohuanshinageshao，dajianengzaizheileisuoyoudeyinsuzhengzhongjianweichiyigebufenbozhongdeqingkuang，jiushiyizhonghenhaodeshijunlidi。xiangchataiduoyefeichangrongyidaozhi mingquetichutichufenshou。

 aiyigerenyouduoku?gouxiang，tangruoyigerenshizhuanye、meiyouqitadegerenxingquaihao，yemeiyouhenhuigan，nengweichiyigekuaileerjiandandeshenghuo。eryuzhitanlianaidelingyifangshiboshisheng，huiliugezaiwoguodeyuyan，4zhongyishangdezhongxifanggudianleqi，bingqieyeshiyouqitacainenggou……shibushitingzhejiujuedeliangrenzhengzhongjiandetianpingchengzaojiubuwenleni?

 jinguanhenyoukenenglianggerenshifenxiangai，danshiqingganzaihenduo fangmianquanshihuishayuergui，biruzaiquefazixinyanxia，zaifumubabamamakouzhongde“bushidati”yanxia。

■身家状况千万不要差过多

 zhenduishenjiazhuangkuang，yinweizheiyierbeichaixiedeqinglvyebushiyigexiaoshumu，neishihouaideyusiyuxian，zuihouhaishibaijilejianyanzhidejutiyinsu。dangranyeshiyouhuodechenggongde，yaozhuiganlianggerenzhengzhongjiandequbie，daoyigekeyierbubeitarenshuosandaosiqingkuang，zheierbiandenulikeburongxiaoqu。yenanguaiyishuzai《qingchengzhilian》zhong，yaoyongyizhengzuodadoushidefumei，laikaolvfanliuyuanhebailiusudeqinggan。

 henduorendoubuyuanyirentong，henduo zhuangkuangxia，nijuedeshizheiyifenairencuoguolebenshen，shishishangyibanbianshinidefazhanqushimeifajingentadejiaobubale。henduo zhuangkuangxia，niwanbanwunaiyunideaiqinglijingcuozhebeianshengxianghufumuganyu，shishishang，keshishizaigengjiakeguandebabamamarenyanzhong，dahuoerdeguifan，queshibingbushibanpeibale。

 yejiushishuo，dahuoerbingbingbushiyigecengmianshangdeduishou，meiyoushijunlidilaiweichixianghuguanxidepingheng，qinggannenggoujubeidezuoyongyibanshanshuoqici，daozuihou，weihaiweikonghuishigengweishencengci。

 zongdelaishuo，zheilideshijunlidijiushiqinggan、shenjiazhuangkuang、xuecaidengxiangduidulidehaojigefangmian，lianggerenjibendounenghelingyifangweichizaiyigezhishu。

 youderenyilv，tangruoyifangdeqingganshen，yifangdeqingganqian，danshiyifangcaihuahengyinenggou、shifendehuigan，neimeshifoujiukeyizaiqingganyucainenggoushangkeyipinghengduidengyixia?jinguanhenduo lizhenggaozhidahuoer，qinggandedongnengshishanshuoqicide，danshiyezongyourenyinweiqinggandehaobudongyaoerpinghengleqita，zheiyebushiburongyiyoude。

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