这就是爱吗？如何使自己更有魅力

 zheijiushiaima？shuobailefengcai，shuobaile，zhiyigerendebiaomianhuobenzhichongmanleyuzhongbutongdeyouhuoli。gaogenxiexiangchunshiyizhongfengcai，shifendaiyeshiyizhongfengcai。zaitianmanqianwanzhuanbiandequanqiuli，fengcaibingmeiyouyigegudingbudongdeguifanyubiaozhun。jinrizhaolaidannierweidajiachangshijieshi，tishengrenqizhideqidayinsugezishisha。neimejiuxiangaizheniyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanjiushiaizhenidewenzhangba。

zhumeiyigerendounengzaibianchengbettermededaoshangyuelaiyueyuan。

 zaiyigerenherenzhijiangoutongjiaoliudeshehuifazhan，meiyigerendouqidaizishentianmanfengcai，huoshichongzuyoufengcai。fengcaijiushizhi，butongxunchang，duyiwuer，chongmanlemeilidongrendexiyinliheyouhuoli。yibandahuoshuodefengcaidaduoshupianxianglebiaomian，shubuzhishijishangyingdangdaliangqianshedaorenbenzhidejingyan、guannianyurengetezhi。

 ruoshijiandailairendewaizaiquanshigongzhengde，neimaliuguodeshiguangsuochanshengdejingyanzeshirenqizhiguanjiandechengfen。zheijiushiaima？renherenderongmaorongmao，wulungaoyanzhidi，bansuizheshijiandeliushi，doushihuixunsulaoqu，zaihaodehufupindouwufadiyu，suoshengyudezhishishiyikexinli。huoxuwaizaiderongmaorangnidadajiafenle，danqianwanbiebeinibenzhidepinxingkoufen。benzhijiandeyifen，waizaiyibaifendoubuzujia。

 yiqianjiandaoyipianguangweirenzhidewenzhangneirongshuo，nishiyoushiniandegongzuojingli，huanshibayiniandegongzuojingliyongleshinian?zheishiyigehenfeichangzhiderangrensisuodenanti。jiarunijiangyiniandegongzuojingliyongleshinian，buguanshibushizaikuaguoqiyehuoquanqiu500qiangqiyegongzuozhong(zhuanzhiguangcaizhaorendelingyu)，jiuhaosiyigerongyanmeilidongrendenvrenhuoyanzhibaobiaodexiaohuo，danxinliquemeiyouxiuyanghezhuanyezhishi，meiyouyonghengbubianzhangjiudefengcai。

 zhenshidefengcai，shishifangzheduofangwei，conglidaowaideyizhongyuzhongbutongqigai;zhenshidefengcai，baohanbudanjinxianyubiaomiandeqichang，xinlidexiuyang，renshengdaoludejingyan，richangshenghuodeqingdiao，kaikuodexiongjin，guanniandegaokuanbi，xingmingdefengfuduocai，xinniandechunsuideng。

 zenyangcaikeyirangzishengengyoufengcai?benrenyujian，nenggoushizhezhecongxialieqigeguanjiandiankaizhansuzaohechuangjian：zhemo、ziwoyueshu、xinxin、fansheng、qianxu、ruli、zichao。

折磨

 renjinyouxuehuilezhemo，caihuigangkaishixianlufengcai。zhemonengchixutiaozhanzijidejixian，kuokuanzishendejiangjie。jinerzhandebitarengao，doukanbitarenyuan。zhemodefangfa，fangshiheneirongyouhenduo，tebieshizaifanyingzaifengfuduocaidegerenaihaoshang。xiangxinnimeifafoudingxialiehaoduogekeguanshishi，erqiejianxinyaoshibawolezaiqizhong1～6dianbianhuirenqizhipingxingxianshenggao：

1、huijianshenyundongderenhenyoufengcai，youyuyiweizheleyizhongjiankangshenghuofangshi;

2、huigequderenhenyoufengcai，youyuyiweizheleyizhongcaiqixiuyang;

3、huiminzuwudaoderenhenyoufengcai，youyuyiweizheleyizhongyazhiqingdiao;

4、huihuihua/paishederenhenyoufengcai，youyuyiweizheleyizhongzaoxingyishujineng;

5、huizuocaiderenhenyoufengcai，youyuyiweizheleyizhongrichangshenghuoquweixing;

6、huiyanshuoderenhenyoufengcai，youyuyiweizheleyizhonggonggongxinggongzuonengli;

7、huiduogeguojiayuyanderenhenyoufengcai，yiweizheleyizhongzixuenengli;

8、huibuduanzuogongyiderenhenyoufengcai，youyuyiweizheleyizhongshanjierenyipinxing。

也有各种各样这些。

 chukaimeigerenduizuohaobenzhigongzuolidangaigangjingyezhiwai，zhishangzheizhonggerenaihao，nidounenggouxuanzezijidefangfazhemo。zhemodeyueda，yuefengfuduocai，jiuyueyoufengcai。xingmingduomemeihao，suiyuezheibanzhengui，bubixiaohaozaiwuqudeshihuorendeshenshang。dujuezheixiewuxiaoshejiaohuojiuju，tiaoxuanyigeqingjingdeshike，zuoyijianrangzishendouxiaideshi。xiangxinniyidinghuijianjiandiaishang。yiqiancengduguoyipian《ren，zhiyouzilian，cainenglianta》，weicilaijilidahuoerxianhaohaoaiziji，zaiquaibieren。

自我约束

 ziwoyueshushiyigeshifenxiyouhezhenguidepinxing，lingwaiziwoyueshubaohanlezizuo。zaijiali，yexuyoufumujianguanzhe;xiaoyuanneili，yexuyoujiaoshijianguanzhe;zaizhirenyuanchangzhong，yexuyoulingdaojianguanzhe。pingchangbanshiyouxierenjianguanzhebianhuijuedebutaiwenxin，yinerhenduorendoukewangziyou。yuandashuo，zhenzhengdeziyoubingbingbushinixiangzuoshenmejiuganshenme，zhishinibuxiangganshenmeyebuganshenme。

 yibanshijiyiyixiadesuiyijiujingshicongnalierlaideni??suiyicongxinxinlai，erxinxinzeshiyiziwoyueshulai。xianxuehaokezhiziji，yongyankedejihuabiaocaozongrichangshenghuo，caikeyizaizheileiziwoyueshuzhongchixumolianchuxinxin。xinxinshiduishierdekongzhili，jiarulianzuijichudeshijiandouzuowufakongzhi，hetanxinxin?

 yigechenggongderen，yibanwuxubierentishi，bulunshizaishangxuehuanshizhichangzhong，youshifenjidingmubiao。youyutamenlejieweishenmeerpinbo，jiusuanrenshengdaoluzhongtuchuxianbujingyidemangran，yekeyikuaisudiaojie，zhongguidaoyiqiezhengchangdeqingkuang。yigechenggongderen，yibanhuijijizhudongyingduirenshengdaolu，wulunshishunjingyunijinghuanshicuozhe，fangzhiyiqieshenhoudouyanzangzhezhuyuan。meiyouyigerenderenshengdaoluquanshiyifanfengshun，bixulijinggezhonggeyangmolian，caikeyiyouyidingdezaojiu。molianyueda，dangchaoyuedeqingkuangxia，zaojiuyeyueda。

信心

 xinxinshifazifeifudeziwokendingyujianxin。xinxinbuguanzaiyurenxiangchushang、gongzuoshanghuanshizaigongzuoshangdoushifenguanjian。xinxinshiyizhongxintai，jinyouzishenjianxinziji，tayouxiurencaihuixiangxinni。xiangshidifuqiaobusineiyangxinxinhexintaiderenjiqijishaoshu，tadejingdianmingyan：huozhejiushiweilegenghaodigaibianmingyun，nandaoshuoyeyoubiedeyuanguma?

 jiushiaizheni,shijizhong，qianwanbiebianchengxiaxinxin，bukeyizhishizhiliuzaixiangxianghuowangxiangshang，zemeiyouyiqieshentilixing，xiangzuobairimengyiyang。rutong《yageshu》shuodeneiban，“jinjindajiayaoxingchedao，bubidanshitingdao，zishenqihongzishen。”

 yaobianchengxinxinzhe，jiuxuyaoxiangxinxinzheyiyangquxingdong。yishangduanwenbensuoyan，xinxinzuikaishilaiziyurichangshenghuodeziwoyueshu。dajiazairichangshenghuozhongdeziwoyueshuxiezhudajiachanshengxinxin。xinxindifayan，xinxindibanshi，dajiadexinxinbansuizherichangshenghuodeyijianjiansuoshishang，zhujianbeichuangjianqilai。

 chucizhiwai，qianwanbiexinxinguoduochengziao，jinerkandizishen。ziaobenzhishiyumeidezhuyaobiaoxian。jutibiaoxianzaibuzizhi。ziaoyoushihouzhuyaobiaoxianweixiaozhang，youshihouzhuyaobiaoxianweiqiaobuqibieren，feichangrongyidaozhilingyifangdedichu。yibanbaohan：1、ziaoguogao;2、qiaobuqitaren，zongjuedezishenbitarenqiang;3、guoduofangyu，youxianzhudedujixin。

反省

 fanshengdejibenshizhidao，nengkegumingxinkaizhanziwopouxi，ziwofansiheziwoguanli。yigerenruobuqingchuzishensuozaidebuweihuobuxiaodezishendegongzuonenglihejingzhundingwei，yiweidekuayikuaqitan，huobeiyishizaojiumihuo，yidinghuishuaigentou，chuyangxiang。

 huanzhebizhengchangrengengmingbaishenmeshijiankang，renkerenshengdaoluyouhenduoxubaoshijiyiyideren，gengnengzhaoxunrenshengdaoludexinxin。youshihouyuefazaiyigeshunjingyunijingdezhuangkuangxia，yuebixufansheng，youyuyiqiedezhuanbiandouhuiguaijiaochu。haosijinrongfengbao，henduorenyouyuchaogupiaohuoxiangmutouzibushan，fuzhaileilei，jiaporenwang;youhaosigongchangdaobi，kedaxiangji，yiqiandejiaopianlaoda，meigenshangshiqidejiaobu，changshijiezhutajinshengdeyoudian，jiuxiangaizheni,zuihouwufadiyushiqidexunsushengjihegengxinhuandai。