这就是爱吗？让你保持魅力的不是神秘感而是成长

 zheijiushiaima？jinqigendepengyouxianliao，tagaosuwo：“worenweihunyinguanxizhongliangrenyingdangxianghubaocuncengcigan，neiyangcaihuiyizhiyouxiangyaoqutanxundechongdong，caihuiyizhiyouyouhuoli。”neimejiuxiangaizheniyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanjiushiaizhenidewenzhangba。

 zheijuhuawoyebuzhidaoyiqiantingduoshaorenshuoguo。dajiahaoxiangzaoyipingdinglezheiyiweichi“fengcai”demiji：weichicengcigan，bubiquandourangairenlejie，neiyangcaikeyiweichichijiudefengcai。

 mamanaizhigaozhiwojiang：“qinaidedeguinv，zheigexingqingbudahao，duixinpengyouyexunsujiudakaixinfeidegoutongjiaoliu，neiyangbutaihao，meiyoucengcigan。”

 jinrijoypengyoujiucongshehuixinlixueshijiaopoyipo，weishenmezaihunyinguanxizhongrangjinifengcaidebingbushicengcigan，zhishifazhan。

cengcigannengshinizouduoyuan?

 cengciganzuixianjiubufuromanticpsychology(youbixudepenyouqingchayueshuben：mandishehuixinlixue—thepsychologyofromanticlove)：zaiwanshandeaizhong，dajiawangwanghuiaishangyigeren，shiyouyuwomenzaita/tadeshenshangzhaodaofanshemianhuijiadezishen，yejiushishuo，zheijiushiaima？womenzaitamendeshenshangzhaolaidaozishendeshengming，tamenshiwomendeshengmingyongyou“youcikejianxing”。

 yizhaozheiyibiaozhuneryandehua，shenmishijishangdaliangjiyudajiadeshineileitanxundejidongganhezaodongbuangan，youyubulejielingyifang，womendeaiqingbidingbushiwanshande，huoshiyagentanbushangai。

 zirancengciganzaiyiduanguanliandezuikaishihuanshihenyouyouhuolide，youyudajiaduibumingdeshiqingyizhitianmanhaoqixin。danzheizhendeshidajiaxiaicengcigandesuoyouyuanguma?

 worenweicengciganzuixiyinrende，shijishangshidajiadetouying。youyubulejie，yinci dajiayoufeichangdaxiangxiangdeshineikongjian，womenkeyibazijizhenduilingyifangdexiangxiangdoutouyingdaota/tadeshenshang。youshiwonaizhiganjuedajiabingbuyuanyiqujiekailingyifangdeshenmimianju，shiyouyudajiaxinlidanxinzishendetouying，zailingyifangxianchuzuibenqueshizishenshi，huaweipaoying。

jiushiaizheni,yiduanzhenshiwanshandeguanlian

huicongchengxianzuizhenzhengdezishengangkaishi。

 cengciganhuishinizouyiduan，danshijidouhuilaiyueni。jiaruniyizhizaihunyinguanxizhong“baocun”neiyangdecengcigan，ninandaoshuobupadangniweichishenmidediqunanyibimiandebeilingyifangzhangwodaodeqingkuangxia，shijishangnibingbufuta/tadetouyingma?

 wanshenmi，tashi2gebuchengshuderen，weilegenghaodifangzhizhenshixianghuxinrenerxianghushengchanzhizaode“ganqingdeshenying”。tajinjinyoudianxiangganqingbale。

 youyunidemeiyouanquangan，nihaipazailingyifangyanqianpuluzuizhenshideziji，zheixienizuizhenzhengdeniantouheganqing，nixuyao“shenmi”laiyangaizishendejiaolvqingxuhezaodongbuan;dannideairenyedanxinzishendetouyingchengweipaoying，yinci gancuimeiquchichibuqutanxunnide“shenmi”。

dajiagongxiangziyuande，jiuxiangaizheni,shiduiganqingdehaipa，erbushiganqing。